I've been married for 10 years with this man he was always there for me and still is both of us are in the military and we've been away from each other for about a year and a half I went overseas he went to school. If found out that he had cheated on me with another woman and got her pregnant. he always been there for me but this one time he strayed away and got introuble. He is still there for me and my two boys and it's been a year know and he just go to work and come home no inbetween but this is still on my mind what should I do
2006-07-10 12:15:20 · 13 answers · asked by unlucky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dump him
2006-07-10 12:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not saying what he did, is right, it's NOT. But come on, you were gone for a year and half. I know it will be hard, but I would forgive him and at least give him another chance. Also talk to him about it. Also, do you still love him? If he is there for you and you love him, make it work! Everyone is way too happy to go and get divorces these days.
Don't take me wrong, there are times, when it is important! But I would try to work it out first. Hope this helps.
2006-07-10 20:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got to say that you're more of a woman then I am if you can stay with a man that not only cheated on you, buy also got the girl pregnant.
He's not going to stop cheating when there are no consequences for his actions. I don't care how long you're away from your spouse, you don't cheat. There is no excuse for it. I would have more respect for my husband telling me he wants a divorce because he has met someone else and wants to sleep with, rather then to cheat on me.
Military life is hard for a marriage, especially when you are both serving, but like any other marriage, you both have to be committed to making it work. I have our kids, but even with them around I still get lonely and miss my husband something terrible when he is deployed or gone for weeks at a time, but I wouldn't dream of cheating on him. And I know he wouldn't cheat on me either. How are you going to deal with every-time the two of you are away from one another? You're going to drive yourself crazy wondering if he is with another woman. You deserve better. He can still be a father to your kids, but I would seriously have doubts about his as a husband.
2006-07-10 20:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, I dont know if you are this type of person but this is just an opinion you dont have to take it, or you can. When you are with someone for that long, love each other that much (so you think) I dont think its very fair for you to put your heart and soul in the relationship for that long, and then him go and do that, and worse she is pregnant. Thats like "YOU WHAT, THIS CANT GET ANY WORSE!!!" but it did. There is another women out there with a child from the man you love. I dont know if your two boys are from him or another marriage, but they dont deserve that, and neither do you. Its up to you but I dont think you should trust him anymore
2006-07-10 19:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? You already know the answer. As human beings we make our decisions in an instant. At most a matter of seconds. The "struggling" we go through, and you're going through right now, is not indecision. It's grief. You're feeling a sense of loss over what you're giving up by the decision you've made. You are delaying acting on your choice to avoid the grief and loss associated with the choice you've already made.
Denial is the first stage of grief. That's where you're at right now. You'll continue to struggle until you accept the fact your choice is going to cost you something valuable. Whether that's days, or years, is entirely up to you.
You've already made your choice. Now, do what you are going to do, accept the loss it entails, and move on.
2006-07-10 19:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to forgive what he has done or make any serious changes in order to make things work. You should talk with him and see how he feels about the relationship the 2 of you have. If you are willing to forgive and make changes, accept each other and work at it, do it but if not it might be a good idea to just be friends and go your seperate ways with your love life.
2006-07-10 19:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by antisocialsweetheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out. The first question I would have for him is if he has feelings for this other women. The other thing is can you get over him having a child from another women. If he has feelings and you can't get over the other child, then you need to get out. He shouldn't get the best of both worlds. Good Luck!!
2006-07-10 19:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by cookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well someone told me when i was crying over a brocken heart after i was cheated on...that time would heal i gues it doesnt work that way...
you know it is very difficult to forgive and forget/.....
well i took him back i hope i dont let 10 year s pass by
b-4 i realise i will never forget...
2006-07-10 19:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him. If he cheats once he will most definitely do it again. Plus this other woman will probably ruin your life and make it a living hell.
2006-07-10 19:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweatheart yes by all means stay with him. Love is rare and you do seem to love him. hang on to that precious think called love. You are so lucky to be able to love. I hope he realizes what a treasure you are.
2006-07-10 19:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by bigblock_475_hp d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you POSITIVE this is the only time he strayed? Or is this the only time he was CAUGHT??? think about that one then decide!
2006-07-10 22:01:46 · answer #11 · answered by Sharon P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋