We've been married for 10 years now and have had our share of problems. I don't wear my ring because it is just a ring. Cheating or anything like that has never crossed my mind, but I don't feel that a ring holds our marriage together. What do you think?
2006-07-10 12:07:17 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way, He doesn't wear his because if his job.
2006-07-10 12:23:19 · update #1
I think it would be a nice symbolic gesture to wear your ring. It obviously means something to him. If your reason for not wearing it is because you're miffed that he doesn't wear his, that will just lead to more conflict. For him, it's a safety issue (I assume). Unless you have an allergy, safety issue, or something like that, there's no reason not to wear it. You could ask him to wear his ring when he's not at work, if he doesn't already.
If you've had problems in your marriage, wearing the ring can be an especially important way to show him that you're committed to the marriage. Wearing it may pay quite a dividend in goodwill from him.
2006-07-10 13:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by rainfingers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've let my husband off the hook for not wearing his. He always wears it when we go out but he was in the Army for a while and then worked in factories. Theres the concern of losing it or losing a finger in a machine. The only rings you cant size up are the ones that have the etching and engraving all the way around the exterior.. because it would disrupt the design. Anything else can be done and even that can if you're willing to pay out the wazoo cus my husband had to have his repaired and its engraved). besides, if he's already traded it out once cus he didnt like it why cant he trade it out again for another size? if he doesnt wear his, dont complain, just stop wearing yours until he realizes that it bothers him that you arent showing the world how attached you are.
2016-03-27 00:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by Norine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I havent worn a ring since the first year we got married. I dont need a ring to remind me that I am married!! My husband doesnt like it either...but thats just too bad. The ring shouldnt hold the marriage together...it should be the love you have. I know lots of people who wear their rings AND cheat on their spouses.
2006-07-10 12:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice. However, my husband & I have always worn our rings. If I take my off he feels its a personal insult to him. That is the wedding band he put on my hand the day we married and that's were it belongs. He wears his faithfully. But that's the two of us.Whatever works in your marriage. Does your husband wear his ring? We don't feel its "just a ring". Its our wedding band.
2006-07-10 12:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Susan M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise to go ahead and wear the ring. I mean, if he doesn't like that you don't wear it...why not do something and make him happy?
I understand he doesn't wear his for job reasons. I know with some jobs, rings can be very dangerous. I hope this helps!
2006-07-10 13:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever worn it? If so, why no more? If never, why is this coming up now or has it always been an issue? Most likely, your husband is insecure. If you have a healthy, trusting relationship, you have nothing to worry about. First and foremost, talk to each other. Why does it bother him? Then go from there. It sounds too simple, but communication is without a doubt the best way to resolve any problem.
2006-07-10 12:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by skyway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he wear his ring? Is there any specific reason why you dont want to wear it? He probably gets upset because without you wearing your wedding ring may indicate to other men that you are available and he gets jealous and hurt knowing that there is some other guy trying to sweep you off your feet. I dont wear my wedding ring because I am allergic to silver but I wear my promise ring that is gold on my ring finger. If your wedding ring is too fancy to be wearing around the grocery store wear a different ring on that finger. If he doesnt wear his wedding ring...question him!
2006-07-10 12:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by evie_cooper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married, but I think its sending the wrong message to your husband, and even worse to other men. Believe me we recognize if a female does or doesn't have a ring on thier left hand. Plus you said you have your share of problems. I'm not saying your wrong, but your not making your relationship any easier. If you want it to work .......wear the ring.
2006-07-10 12:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by JC'S Taxidermy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be mad too if my wife never wore her wedding ring. It's a important symbol of marriage and love. Also of commitment to one individual and loyalty. 6 months or 10 years, it should not come off unless you to have a discussion and resolution for this problem. Good luck.
2006-07-10 12:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by NïghtStalkër_666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I agree that a ring doesn't hold a marriage together. You should wear it only to make your husband happy and avoid unnecessary arguments.
2006-07-10 12:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by gaby1120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋