i've been seeing this guy for a little over a month now. both of us are fresh out of relationships so we're trying to take things slow. the scary part is that we have a very strong connection already. we've known eachother for over 2yrs but it wasn't until recently that we started to get to know who the other really is. we know we like eachother, there's no question about that. my only concern is what his intentions are. we've talked about where things could go but i can tell he gets a little uncomfortable talking about his feelings, so ichange the subject. at lunch we were on the phone and our "relationship" came up again. i've told him that i enjoy having him around and that i'm not seeing anyone else because eventually i want something serious. i told him that i'm not trying to push him into something serious because i'm not sure if he's ready for that. he said he never said that and we would talk about it later. i don't want my feelings to push him away so how do i approach him?
2006-07-10 12:03:39 · 9 answers · asked by DaBeautiful1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you 100% feel ready for the next level, then you make the move. Guys like it when the girl makes the first step *(mine did atleast :D)* so if this is what you want...mention it to him...... or wear a little something low cut and get his attention and get him turned on so he'll approach you!
hope this helps!
2006-07-10 12:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down and Listen to what he just said.
He told you it's not an issue of not being ready and that you would both talk about it later. Wait until you have that talk rather than trying to guess about a next level. Good chance he is feeling things pushed more than is necessary..especially if you're both fresh out of relationships. What's the rush? It's only been a month.
If a person is continuously worried about being too pushy, then there's a good chance they are. Let him take control for a little while and see where he takes it.
2006-07-10 12:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think both of you guys know what you want. And it is understandable that you guys want to take things slow because of past relationships. I think the comment you made make him think. ABout you thinking that he s not ready. However I think you made the right question because it made him think and that he wanted to talk about it later. Maybe hes gonna talk about what is going to happen next. Yes, if he for some reason "forgetts" about it approch him and ask him why is it that he thought what you said was wrong. Then he can prove you wrong. ANd his proof can be the beginning of a beutiful relationship. Hang in there and give him alot of attention :) .. soon he'll be eating from you r hand .:)
2006-07-10 12:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants it he will let you know .Women often make the mistake of saying ,okay whats it going to be or you in or out on this commitment deal .Talking is good for your relationship by open and honest ,them him exactly what you are expecting ,because it might not want the same thing. But good luck...
2006-07-10 12:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by Kay D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is avoiding the subject, he isn't ready to take the relationship to the next level. Please tell me you are not having sex with him. If you are, STOP now and see where the relationship goes. Sex is a powerful tool and men will linger like you cannot believe if they are getting sex and make no committment to anything.
2006-07-10 12:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just take it easy and try to enjoy each other's company.. slowly by time try to get closer .. but at the same time let him have his space.. good to miss the one you like.. when you feel the time is right you can talk to him about it.. if he changes the subject again then ask when the right time is.. you don't want to wait forever
2006-07-10 12:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by Ninja CK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just might not know how to take it to the next level. So try talking to him about it. That might be what he is waiting/hopeing for.
2006-07-10 12:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by TJ B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE KNOWS WHAT YOU WANT & WHY, JUST BE PATIENT, ONE MONTH ISN'T A LONG TIME, & YOU ARE BOTH FRESH OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP, SO JUST GIVE IT TIME. IF HE REALLY LIKES YOU, HE WILL COME AROUND. GIVE HIM HIS SPACE, & DON'T BRING UP THE "RELATIONSHIP" WORD. HE KNOWS WHAT YOU WANT, SO JUST SIT BACK & SEE WHAT HAPPENS. IF IT IS SIX MONTHS LATER & NOTHING, THEN I WOULD WORRY, & MOVE ON. BUT JUST DON'T RUSH ANYTHING FOR A WHILE, RELAX!!
2006-07-10 12:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by islandwavehunter@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you assume? going deeper? straight forward.. perhaps you could attempt to flirt him and see how he reacts. oftentimes adult males cant imagine if females with this fragrance and approached with an truly close distance
2016-10-14 08:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by applebee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋