my husband left me for another woman he chatted on line with. he did not yet meet her but told me & my family he was in love with her. he was never a responsible man, we lost our home, he kept losing his jobs, he filed for bankruptcy, & left us both in a financial disaster. she does not live in the usa but is 1200 miles away, she has come to visit him 3 times, each time for about 8 days, this has been going on for about 3 1/2 yrs now. she told him she was divorced 6 yrs w/no kids, the truth of it all she was married 17 years with 2 kids, he lied to her as well. this man never made anything special i was ignored on all the special days, like our anniversaries, b-days, christmas, valentines day, all of them. my friends say a leopard never changes its spots, he claims he will not do to her what he has done to me, that he is a changed man. i say they dont live together & it may be working cuz she lives so far away & they dont deal w/each other on a daily basis. WILL THIS WORK OUT??
2006-07-10 12:02:07 · 36 answers · asked by Sharyn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seems to me like YOU are better off. Make sure to sue him for a ton of child support in the divorce!
2006-07-23 03:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by barelyliterate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gather just reading between the lines you hope there's hope on his being a changed man. You sound as though your hoping that you may have a chance for his return to you. Don't hope. Be Glad he's gone! He deliberatly did everything negative: physically,emotional,mentally, and financially regarding you and your family. Sometimes, men will treat someone new like a queen, and toss "ole true blue" into the trash sack with no regrets. Don't worry about them and work on improving what he tore down, You!and the family. You'll find that responsible,considerate,loving thoughtful guy that you deserve. Good Luck!
2006-07-22 14:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by ianthra2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope he will do the same to her after he gets tired of her as well. Usually once a cheater always a cheater. He sounds like he does not have any clue on how to be responsible that is for sure. Long distance relationships usually never work out anyhow. I hope your happy though and wish the best for you move on and find that special someone that is going to love you and respect you.
2006-07-22 08:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that will work out. I'm sure sorry to hear about your husband; he doesn't sound like a very mature person, and it sounds like he took you for granted. In a way, that's almost a natural human thing that people will do if they don't put some effort into their thinking and their lives. However, it does seem like men are less mature in these matters. Pretty insensitive, too. Some day this is going to come back and bite him on the rearend.
2006-07-10 12:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the real question is why do you care? I agree with the masses, sounds like they are perfect for each other.
He shares a lot in common with my wife, someday, hopefully soon, ex-wife. You should here my story.
I guess the only thing I want to know is if you have children with the man. If there are no kids, I would simply make a clean break from him, though my guess is that there are children involved.
2006-07-10 12:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by tm_tech32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk!! I just don't understand men. This will NOT work because of the distance and there were too many lies involved since the beginning of this "relationship". I understand you must be very hurt, however, think of what you can get out of this horrible experience and move on. Don't worry if that relationship works or doesn't work; live your life and thank God he took this jerk away from you.
2006-07-10 12:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by gaby1120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMIGOD honey,I telling you he will NEVER CHANGE,My previous marriage was crazy like that,but my ex husband was working at wal-mart while I was pregnant with our daughter,and 4 months after she was born he left me for a girl he worked with at wal-mart,and i found out that they had went to High school together and she as well was married,I kept on trying to make it work for our daughter,but even after he got her pregnant and left me 4 times for her I kept thinking he would change but he didn't I was sick (had a pacemaker put in ) and then I lost about 100 lbs divorced his *** and now they live in a dumpy apartment,and she is still married and they hide all the time for her husband who is a truck driver,he has nothing to do with our daughter and he by the way looks like **** now..:) Smiles** but no a man like that won't change ...
2006-07-24 02:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by crazyinlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, consider this your lucky day, I guess. Apparently you have no reason to stay with him. He's everything to NOT look for in a husband! So, you don't need to do this "Oh should I stay, work things out, leave, whatever" routine. Just see it as a WONDERFUL opportunity to finally better your life and the lives of your kids. Get rid of him. You deserve better.......MUCH BETTER.
2006-07-10 12:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by animal_mother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want that JERK back? I to cheated on my wife never had a steady job,but I never treated my wife like that.If she cheated and lied to her husband and he lied to you they are a perfect match.You are far to good of a lady to put up with that ****.My wife and I are back together.I don't cheat anymore,but the reson I don't is I'm to old.68 If I could find someone I would cheat again.He is just as big of a *** hole as I'am,Move on you can do much better.That's the same advice I give my wonder full wife.
2006-07-22 06:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
Well, no this will not work out right now. My solution would be to move on and continue to take care of your children whom still need your undivided attention, careness, love, and devotion. Try working on starting anew for not only yourself,but for your children. and leave the rest to the man above. He will bless you for your struggles. and will continue to watch over you and the children.
As for ur husband leave him to the man above. There is a path the lord has install for him.
Good Luck.
2006-07-22 16:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋