Do you get called a tramp or s l u t because you sleep around?

Question

Just wondering how many of you girls or guys are really "free with your body" like I am.

DO YOU PEOPLE NOT UNDERSTAND THE QUESTION?????????? I DID NOT ASK FOR YOUR "WORDS OF WISDOM" OR A THERAPY SESSION. I JUST WANTED TO KNOW HOW MANY OTHERS WERE AS SEXUALLY ACTIVE AS I AM?!?!?!?

READ THE DAM QUESTION PEOPLE AND SPARE ME YOUR PLATITUDE!

Answer 1

I used to be a biker *****..anybodies..i had monthly checkups and never once caught an std,my doc used to say Marie you dodged another bullet..now my lifestyle has changed and i aint so putting it about..but did i regret any of it,did i hell i loved every minute...well mostly..lol.

Answer 2

Sometimes you can get called names when you don't sleep with someone who was planning on getting somewhere. I think that is where more rumors come from.

But the real issue about being "free" with your body is about respect. In our culture people expect monogamy, or at least serial (one after another) monogamy. When you step outside those rules and you are a girl you have a lot to lose, so people assume the reasons you are doing it are negative.

Statistically they're right. Most girls who sleep around have self esteem or intimacy issues. Many people in our culture have replaced physical intimacy for emotional intimacy.

It makes the relationship go from 0 to 60 in 2.5 seconds but there is nothing to hold onto but smoke from squealing tires. In a healthy relationship there is a period of infatuation that is very heated and intense. It releases a lot of endorphins in your brain. When you even think about talking to that person you feel all fluttery.

The purpose of that stage is to attract couples together and engage your interests long enough to look past your flaws until you become friends. Then at the friends stage comfort and actual romance take the place of infatuation. Some time later devotion and a feeling of kindred sprit/ lifelong partnership come along with a willingness to make sacrifices for the other person's happiness. That’s Agape (Aah- Gaah- Pey) Selfless Love...True Love.

But if you are "Free with your body" you never get past the infatuation. You like it hot and fast. Then something better catches your eye. "Before it gets boring", "Before they get that puppy dog look" ....or what ever it is you say to push him off you.

The other side is you need to be needed. Somewhere you got the idea that just you by yourself wasn't good enough. And it's not true. You’re beautiful without the "red light" on. Somewhere in there you’re fragile, and lonely. You probably got caught up in a way of acting and now that is how everyone expects you to be.

You can change. It doesn't have to be today. But think about it. Maybe just find a decent guy to stick with. It will give you a reason to give the other dogs a reason to shove off. After about a year they will give up. Then if you aren't really meant to be with Mr. Decent break it off and be on your own for a while.

Good luck, God Bless.

Answer 3

Not always. Sometimes, it could be because you go out with many different guys or even because you dress permisciously. It could also be because some people might interpret what some people do to other people as "slutty" such as hugging or the very European, kiss on the cheek to say hello.

Answer 4

Wash,
Some people are jealous of the fun and freedom you enjoy. Having said that, we need to talk. You probably already know that people who engage in sex with multiple partners, and with little committment, usually have serious self-esteem issues. I know, cause I used to do it. It's really not healthy, physically or mentally. Also, the people who take their pleasure with you, may be friendly, but I can assure you, they have no respect for you either. I don't mean to judge you, or be hypocritical. It took me a long time to realize that I was trying to hide my pain in pleasure. Be careful, and learn to really love yourself.

Answer 5

I'm not but my home girl is, she gets check ups like every six months. She says that it is okay to explore your options. Women do get called tramp or slut when they sleep around...Why don't men get called anything??? I think it is a double standard..but do what you gotta do girlfriend. I ain't haten on that...lol

Answer 6

im not sure it's the feeling of freedom or giving it away free....obviously you need to feel love by submitting yourself physically to others. but self worth should be self control not price by the general market base on rumors....yours no doubt it's penny stock that will never go up ifyou do not reign in your goods

Answer 7

No, I had a friend that was called a tramp though. I just think college was to much for her.

Answer 8

I am free with my body. There is nothing wrong with being loose. You have to get checked a lot though.

Answer 9

yea, men can sleep around with hundreds of girls but when a girl messing with one she gets called all diffrent kinds of names

Answer 10

They probably call you that because you are hot and they want you or they are jealous. Too bad for them. Your turn to pay no attention to "them" and simply enjoy yourself!