My boyfriend and I are thinking of trying to get pregnant next year. Ideally he’d like a boy and I’d like to have a girl, although I know he’d adore his daughter every bit as much as I’d adore my son. I know he’s probably never heard of the Shettles method and likely has no idea that there may be ways to tilt the odds in favor of one gender or another. I know it’s nowhere near a surefire thing and, as a matter of fact, if I had access to a surefire method like sorting sperm by X and Y chromosomes and discarding all the Y’s I probably *wouldn’t* do it because it’s a little too much like playing God for my taste. Manipulating the timing and position doesn’t strike me the same way. So, since I do know about it and he doesn’t, would it be wrong for me to take advantage of that knowledge and try to conceive a girl using this method?
2006-07-10 11:32:01 · 9 answers · asked by mockingbird 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
My first response is that you should discuss it with him, or just forget about it. I think in the long run, if the method works and you end up with a girl you will end up feeling guilty for not discussing it with him. If you end up with a boy, you may feel disappointed that it didn't work. That's a tough question, but I think in the end, the best thing to do is be as open and honest with him as possible. Good luck!
2006-07-10 11:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Girl 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think it is is wrong at all as long as you both are in agreement about having a child the Shettles method is not 100% so I would not worry about it. In fact I am currently trying for a girl as well. My husband agreed a few months ago to try for a girl and for three months I have not be able to conceive he decided we will stop that method and try for what ever we get. Little does he know I am still doing the Shettles method. It may take a little longer to conceive using the girl method but I think it is worth the wait!
2006-07-10 13:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Angela R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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Enjoying the feeling of motherhood and raising a family would surely be a couple’s dream. Some get it naturally, while for some others things don’t seem to work as they desire. These reasons which stop a women from conceiving can be due to either physical reasons or truly physiological.
2016-05-02 02:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by elenor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the most important thing is working on having a healthy baby. I'm sure you would agree. I know lots of people who have said the shettles method worked for them. But for one I am split about it's abilty to work. I think you should tell your b/f about it. God has already decided in advance what gender you will have and there is nothing you can do about that. Just have fun in the process and know that you will love whatever it is you have!
2006-07-10 11:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by Darcy T 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's funny you asked this question, I thought about this method as well for myself. I think I would put myself in your partner's shoes. And think about how you would feel if he has this information and you didn't. Would you feel good about that? Or would you feel like he betrayed you?
I think I'd concentrate on having a healthy baby. This method is not fool proof nor is it 100%.
Be happy with what you are given:) That's what it's all about!
2006-07-10 13:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♦Marna♦♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand the desire for a daughter and can honestly say I might be tempted to do the same thing as you. That being said, try to resist temptation and let nature take its course--you'll be happier in the long run not keeping a secret from your guy!
2006-07-10 12:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-02 21:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not work trust me we bought the book and tried it. But you know I am happy because God blesses you with a healthy baby so I think we as people should stop trying to determine the sex of our kids and just be happy that the Lord blesses us with children because there are a lot of people who cannot have children.
2006-07-11 01:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think you guys should come to a happy medium and make an upfront decision ... nothing behind each other's back...
To answer your question, just think for a minute how would you feel if you were in his position...
2006-07-10 11:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by lilly_mom_pr 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋