My husband and i have been together since high school we have been married for five years. He is in the millitary and we are apart alot. For the first two years things were great we were so in love then he got stationed in GA. He met someone down there and he cheated on me with her. when I found out we talked about it we decided to work things out then he cheeated with her again. Later he was deployed to iraq thats when I found out through his mother that girl had just had his baby hat do i do.
2006-07-10 11:20:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lashana: I really feel for you! I am not going to tell you whether or not to divorce him as only you can decide your own fate.You can listen to every ones opinions then decide for yourself the answer you are searching for which I believe you already know.
I will tell you this.What your husband did no woman should be subject to.There is no excuse for what he did.
I know it must hurt alot.When your husband did this the first time that should have been your cue.You love him so you stuck with him as any loyal and faithful wife would do.Then he did it a second time and now a third and a baby.Lashana! I'm sorry to say this but your marriage is heading nowhere.I think your husband has shown you his true colors and he also has shown that he does not love you respect you or even appreciate you.What are you waiting for? Please talk this over with more of your friends and also your parents and see what they tell you.Most important listen to your heart and your conscience they never lie.I wish the best for you girl.
Do the right thing! You know what that is and always remember you come first. T.A. JR
2006-07-10 11:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by John 5 · 11⤊ 1⤋
I think that u should divorce ur husband because once he has cheated on u he is going to keep on doing it. Ur marriage vows do mean something to the both of ya'll but that still doesn't give him a reason to cheat on u. If he really loves u as much as he says he does then he wouldn't have done it to u. So this is my advice to u divorce him and move on and no matter what he says don't take him back. He can promise u the world so that way u take him back but don't do it. Just remember there is a man for every woman in this world. Just make ur best judgement and stick with it. I wish u the best.
2006-07-10 18:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i am sorry for what has happend to you, have you been to counselling?? i know what you are going through is very hard right now but as much as you love him you have to start thinking about your mental state of mind with all that to worry about its not good i am not one to tell someone to divorce your husband only you know how much you can take but i think that you should talk to some one you can go to his command you can also talk to the chaplain there on base but what ever you do get informed and get informed about your rights! you did not say why your husband was in GA and you were not but that is no excuse for what he did to you ..be strong and try to get some advice from someone who can help you remember you did nothing wrong don't blame yourself he step outside the marriage not you!!
2006-07-10 18:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that she's had his child, he will be tied to her for at least the next 18 years. Do you really want to believe that he will not cheat with her again. He's already proven that he's willing to cheat with her.
And what about the next woman he meets? How do you know that he won't find another woman to cheat with?
I would never trust him again. Hopefully the two of you have no children. You deserve better. Leave him and find a man who will treat you right.
2006-07-10 18:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children together? If not, I would contact his commander directly. He will receive and Article 15, lose his rank, and possibly even be released from the military. This will solve problem #1 and get him away from this woman. If he really wants to be with you then he should agree to seek counseling with you.
You also have decisions to make. Are you ready to be a parent to a child who is not yours? This is not the child's fault. It would not be fair to wither of you for you to stay in a marriage where you are resenting the child.
2006-07-10 21:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by accountant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be too many times lying and cheating for me. Then hid the pregnancy. THink it is time to talk to a lawyer!
2006-07-10 18:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him, he promised once he wouldont' do it again, then he did again, not only that, she just had his baby, the damage is so badly done at this point it is unfixable, why would you even want to be with someone like that?
2006-07-10 18:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him, if you don't he will continue until he gets tired of you.
2006-07-10 18:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, I know I couldn't live with that. I would have to divorce him.
2006-07-10 18:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him out of your life and move on
2006-07-10 19:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋