How would the parents take it?
2006-07-10 11:18:26 · 24 answers · asked by jac 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
It really depends a lot in your parents and in the kind of relationship you have with the. If they're religious, conservative narrow minded people, you know they won't like it, they would probably deny it or try to change you. If they're open minded, then of course they will accept it better.
Either way, good luck!
2006-07-10 11:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents are totally OK with it, some adjust well after getting over the shock and will be very supportive. Others do not take it well at all. Can you get someone who is close to your parents to scope it out for you, without giving away your secret? It would help to know first something about how your parents would react. They might be just waiting respectfully for you to tell them. Probably a lot of parents already have some idea since they know you so well.
2006-07-24 04:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can but it is almost always very awkward.
Allot depends on the parent. are they open minded or not?
this is always a difficult thing to face.
I would suggest hinting around first and getting a feel for how they would react...Unfortunately there are still allot of parents who disown or distance themselves from the child once he comes out so there are circumstances where it is necessary to avoid letting them know anything about your sex life.
Get some support from gay friends and ask their advice.
Make sure you are prepared for any possible reaction before you reveal this.
You can always tell them tomorrow(ie:later) but you can't take it back once you tell and if they can't handle it then you have even more emotional pain than now.
Maybe you are one of the lucky ones and they will be more accepting...
where I live there is still allot of homophobia so I come from a perspective of use extreme caution before you take this step. They might surprise you... and the surprise could go either way.
Good luck no mater what you do.
2006-07-24 14:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by mysticathiest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i strongly suggest you check out the www.pflag.org website. there are lots of articles there written from the parent's perspective. it also tells you why parents have a harder time with their kid coming out than the kid's friends or other family members. parents, no matter how loving they are, raise you with the expectation that you are straight, that you will get married, that you are their little boy or girl. and when you come out to them, it is sometimes as if you are taking thier son or daughter away. it's unreasonable, but true. it takes a long time for some parents to absorb the fact that the son or daughter is the same one they've always loved... just queer... but it's definately worth doing if you want to be gay and have a good open relationship with your family.
2006-07-10 13:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by thirty-one characters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that every person has a different way to see things, some parents are supportive some are not and no matter what anybody says, the true is the best way to go about, and is the only way to live in peace. If you do not have supportive parents they will oppose it but it is" your life" and nobody Else's .
2006-07-24 13:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by klombia44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it depends on your parents and the relationship that you have with them. My Mom was totally cool with me, when I told her. And after going so many years trying to keep her from knowing, it felt like a ton of bricks had been taken off of my back. Who cares what my father thinks. lol. You will feel better even if they don't accept it right off, and how you feel is most important.
Good Luck!
2006-07-24 06:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they can make it known to parents its different on how the parents will react but that don't matter you are who you are and if there parents don't accept that fact then there they don't love there child for who they are and they shouldn't look at them differently from when they didn't know
2006-07-23 07:01:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. It depends on the parents. I remember my mom told me if I was gay, she would still love me, but my partner would not be allowed in her home.
My dad felt differently
2006-07-21 12:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what kind of parents you have, I haven't told mine... and I don't plan to. My friend came out to her parents a few days ago, her mom started crying. She says the tention in her house is terrible.
2006-07-10 11:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Stacie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aagh if you think you can handle it. My best friend is gay, and he said that when he told his parents, it was like his whole childhood, everything he had before, just crumbled. I seriously didn't notice anything different, but watev.
2006-07-21 04:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by lecouerdunoir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋