I have a girlfriend,who I find very attractive, and I tell her that she's beautiful all the time. and I find myself enjoying looking at her. I love my husband, and I don't want to sleep with her,I just enjoy being with her and looking at her. Does that make me gay???
2006-07-10 11:15:47 · 20 answers · asked by mailgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why are we so obsessed with pidgeon-holes and labels?
To my way of thinking, admiration of a same-gender friend does not make one gay. No romance, no harm.
2006-07-10 11:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by Hums2oldies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're bi-curious. Do you have any reason to think she might think you are beautiful and is attracted to you too?
Thinking someone is beautiful does not necessarily mean that you are attracted to that person in a physical or emotional manner. Do you just think she is beautiful or are you turned on by her? Picture yourself kissing her and caressing her and if you are turned on at the thought then you may be bi-curious.
Once you know how you feel, then you need to deal with the issue of you being married. Maybe your hubby would be ok with it. First, find out what you think, then find out what she thinks, then find out what he thinks.
2006-07-10 18:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by Wyld Stallyns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no sexual tension between you two, have you ever thought that it may just be you appreciating a beauty?!! I mean if society does not put ideas in our head, you would not be asking this question and you could just innocently like this friend of yours. not that if you were a bi, there would be anything un-innocent...
All I am trying to say is that you could be so comfortable with a friend and have a great realtionship with her, that you find her absolutely amazing... So, not to worry enjoy your life with your husband and your friendship with your girl friend...
2006-07-10 18:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by iluvsuperman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't necessarily bi. Your friend is probably really beautiful, so she would draw eyes from anybody. It's perfectly okay for a woman to look at someone beautiful (like your favorite female celebrity) and think, "Wow!" If you like looking at her, it's fine. We all like looking at lovely people.
If you don't feel any sexual attraction toward her, it means you aren't gay.
2006-07-10 18:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Toppledate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesn't just saying to a friend you look nice today or you look pretty doesn't make you gay it just means that you like giving compliments now if you want to sleep with her and be her girlfriend then you are gay
2006-07-10 18:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by sassywildcat727 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people define gay as a sexual attraction to the same sex. If you say it's not a sexual attraction then this doesn't fit most peoples definition as gay.
2006-07-10 18:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by keep_up_w_this 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it just means she has features you like. Think of her as a painting and you enjoy looking it.
2006-07-10 18:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by G-me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might just like the way she looks but it theres othere feelings then yes u r bi
2006-07-10 18:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by rach rach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that thinking another woman is attractive makes you gay. having sex with that woman would make you gay. it's all a question of whether you think she's attractive or you have feelings for her.
2006-07-10 18:20:29 · answer #9 · answered by Catrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you find other women attractive then you are bi, but that doesnt mean you have to act on that.
2006-07-10 18:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋