I am 13 and my boyfriend and i are debating whether or not 2 have sex. Am i to young?

Answer 1

Are you too young to have a child? Are you too young to live with a sexually-transmitted disease that could potentially make you unable to have children, is incurable, or worse? Are you willing to live with the emotional let-down of your boyfriend loving someone else (it's extremely rare that people marry their 13 year-old boyfriend)? You are NOT too young to have respect for yourself, keeping yourself pure for the one who will commit himself to cherishing you for the rest of your lives. You posting this question shows you have the maturity to make the right decision.

Answer 2

Yes, you are 2 young because you will probably get pregnant. Sex is not for playing around with. It is serious and at 13 you are not emotionally mature enough to have sex even though you may be physically mature enough. You will have guilt, worry about getting caught (which you will undoubtedly), lose your boyfriend quickly, lose your reputation, credibility, and a thousand other things. Besides all that you will no longer have your virginity and how will you explain that to the guy you will eventually marry? The only thing you can give him that no one else can is your virginity and whether you realize it or not that will set you apart as the girl guys want to marry.

Answer 3

Do not listen to Besmirched Tea. You don't "have" to do anything! Yes, 13 is much, much too young to consider having sex! I am not saying that you can't be interested in boys. I'm not saying that you don't like him, or have a crush...but there is nothing wrong with just doing those things and not having sex! You never ever have to "do" things to keep the person you are interested in. If they care for you, as a friend or otherwise, they would never pressure you into doing something that was so risky. Be true to yourself and respect yourself. WAIT to have sex. You'll know when the time is right.

Answer 4

YES YOU ARE TOO YOUNG. Why bother. Neither of you have a clue what you're doing yet anyway, so it wouldn't be worth it.

I always ask this question when people say, "Am I ready for sex?" - Are you financially, emotionally, and phsyically capable of caring for a child ON YOUR OWN? If no, then DON'T HAVE SEX.

If you DO have sex, use a condom, get on birth control, don't make your life more difficult at such a young age. Take the opportunity you have to be a kid. You shouldn't even have the opportunity to have sex! Where are your parents?

Answer 5

Yes, you are too young. You cannot even spell yet. Also, why are you asking strangers to make a decision that will affect the rest of your life. Have both of you had an HIV test? Have you chosen a method of birth control or are you ready to start a family right now? What if after having sex, he decides he does not like you any more - are you prepared to handle emotional stress?

Answer 6

Why Some Teens Wait?

Some teens are waiting longer to have sex — they are thinking more carefully about what it means to lose their virginity and begin a sexual relationship.

For these teens, there are many reasons for abstinence (not having sex). Some don't want to worry about unplanned pregnancy and all its consequences. Others see abstinence as a way to protect themselves completely from STDs. Some STDs (like AIDS) can literally make sex a life-or-death situation, and many teens take this very seriously.

Some teens don't have sex because their religion prohibits it or because they simply have a very strong belief system of their own. Other teens may recognize that they aren't ready emotionally and they want to wait until they're absolutely sure they can handle it.

When it comes to sex, there are two very important things to remember: one, that you are ultimately the person in charge of your own happiness and your own body; and two, you have a lot of time to wait until you're totally sure about it. If you decide to put off sex, it's OK — no matter what anyone says. Being a virgin is one of the things that proves you are in charge, and it shows that you are powerful enough to make your own decisions about your mind and body.

If you find yourself feeling confused about decisions related to sex, you may be able to talk to an adult (like a parent, doctor, older sibling, aunt, or uncle) for advice. Keep in mind, though, that everyone's opinion about sex is different. Even though another person may be able to share useful advice, in the end, the decision is up to you.

Answer 7

Yes, it opens up more problems than you are ready to handle. Think of it like this, if you have sex with him-thee is no guarantee that he is going to be with you the next day...he may move on. If he really cares about you he would marry you first-a long term commitment. Plus, you are too young and not mature enough for responsibilities that come along like pregnancy.

Answer 8

How does a 13 year old debate having sex with her boyfriend?
I am so puzzled.

Answer 9

if your boyfriend is as young as you, and u tell him that u dont want to, then he will be fine with that because he is just as scared as you (assuming he is 13, if older, then he probably wants to). also, my girlfriend had sex for her first time when she was 14. the guy up to that point was really cool with her and he was really nice to her too. but after they had sex (which she hated for the first dozen times and bled the first four times and she was 14 and ur just 13), she hated it and he loved it. so over the next two years, he became a jerk and was able to abuse her all the time because she thought that the sex meant something when it didnt. you will regret it so much even if he is really nice. furthermore, when u get with the guy that you think is the one, he wont be cool with you having sex at fourteen.

Answer 10

Yes. Too young. If debating whether or not to have sex is happening then one or both of you have doubts. If you are going to have sex, its just gonna happen. If you do decide to go ahead, don't expect anything Hollywood. It's nothing like that. Great, but NOTHING like that.