i know a secret that is ruining my life I found out my dad is smoking weed. I'm a sophmore and i have 3 other siblings. How could he do this to us? I only see him twice a month and he doesn't get home till about 3 or 4 in the morning. I really love my dad! His girlfriends brother told me this and it's really hard to cope with. Me and her brother used to be really close until he told me he used to smoke it with him. I love my dad with all the power that i posess. He's supposed to be the guy that comes to my softball games and scares my dates. He gets the drugs from his boss. He says his kids are everything to him but how could he possibley mean it and do something like this? I wont be able to look at my dad the same. How do i show my concern without making him upset??? i dont want him to go to jail. And i dont want his girlfriend to leave him. She's the only backbone i have when i go down to visit him. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!
2006-07-10 10:24:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anaree22 2 in Health ➔ Alternative Medicine
Im so sorry you have to go through this. I went through a similar situation. And here is what you do. Make sure, like one person already said, that the allegations are true. Then, simply, tell your dad that you know about it. Dont condemn him, dont yell or get upset. Just let him know that YOU know. THis puts the ball in his court, for him to open dialogue on the situation. If he is smart enough, he will stop, or at least talk to you about it, and help with your concerns. If he doesnt say anything, he is most likely ashamed of his actions. This way, there are no hard feelings, you can still go on loving him, and it is off your chest, you dont have to keep pretending you dont know. Trust me, this is the best way to handle the situation, with minimal upset on either party. If you wanna talk about it more, just email me. Good Luck.
2006-07-10 15:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Barefoot 6 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Well, I'll tell you what. Smoking "the chronic" is not that big of a deal. Seriously. If it were cocaine, that would be different. Marijuana is NOT A BIG DEAL. It's just like having a beer, only better for you. It's just like smoking a cigarette without the cancer. Don't get freaked out because it's illegal. He's not going to go to jail for hitting the pipe a little. Really, it's okay. His girlfriend probably knows. Granted, your dad probably shouldn't be advocating your brother's use of illicit drugs, but really, it's just like giving your kid their first beer.
The 3 or 4 am arrival part is a bit irresponsible. It seems like since your dad doesn't have to be around his kids all the time, he's taken the opportunity to play the kid role. He's just being a free adult, though he should get it together a little and act a bit more like an adult, getting home at a reasonable hour, especially if you kids are there. But as for just smoking some weed, who cares? It really is not a big deal.
Now, if there seems to be more going on than just hanging out and tapping the bong a little, then you may have something to worry about. Does he go to work regularly? Is his gf okay with it? Is he a responsible parent (smoking w/ own son aside)? Then don't worry about it. Lots of people smoke pot. People you wouldn't even think of. It's just a little recreation and nothing to worry about.
I am glad you have absorbed the anti-drug education so strongly. It can lead to other problems, but in most cases, marijuana is rather harmless. I wouldn't worry about your dad unless he starts behaving erratically.
2006-07-10 11:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes marijuana is a drug, and what makes it so bad is that it is illegal. It's no worse for your body than drinking alcohol, or smoking cigarettes. Some people use it to ease pain, or to relax. I'm not saying it's right because it's not. It's illegal so it's very wrong unless you have a prescription from a doctor. You don't know why your dad uses it. So unless he's being irresponsible (doing it while your in the house) you should have no worries for yourself or your siblings.
2006-07-10 10:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a "tough love" situation. First check your facts. You need to be sure that what his girlfriend's brother says is true. A "hardball" answer is to confront him and hope he admits it. If your dad is serious about helping his kids, he will stop it, although perhaps not without help. YOU need to protect yourself, though. There is an organization called Al-Anon for families of alcoholics. There's probably one for drug users' families too. Good luck.
2006-07-10 10:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by aboukir200 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to smoke a joint with you.. flat out ask.. say if it's ok for him why not you.. start a dialouge and keep it going. pot isn't addicitve so there is no real physical reason he can't not smoke. Ask him how he would feel if it was you smoking pot.
2006-07-10 10:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by MBG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel, and then get over it. he is an adult. as long as he takes care of you, then you have nothing to worry about.
2006-07-10 10:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋