Is there a chance for hope in this marriage?

Question

Well it turns out that my hub and I have been married from 4 years. We have a common friends who have also been married from 4 years. Actually about 15 months ago I found the woman at my place sitting on my sofa kissing and making out with my hub. I saw it all for what was 5 minutes of a passionate makeout. Then i even heard my hub tell her later on at parties that the kiss they had was it, and he can't do no more with her but he really likes her alot. At every party afterthat where wehave met all in public, he always hugs her, stares in her eyes, observes her, he dances and grinds with her. about 8 months ago at my house the guy gave the woman a very long desperate hug it seems. the woman tried to push him and ask what he was doing as if she wanted him to stop and she was mad at him for not taking things further. my hub kept hugging her and hugging her in silence without letting her go, finally she hugged him and the both hugged then. That was done. then now we are also a

a good 7/8 hours of a drive away from them. so every week the woman and my hub email very friendly things abotu there actvities, long weekend plans, family, etc more like good friends. and my hub responds to like 7/9 of her emails. sometimes 3 within a day, and other times he writes her 1 time in a week. but he keeps it. the last email was in myspace where she asked about his 4th of july plans and talked about her studies and her plans. now my hub knows that the woman and I also email and talk sometimes, not as much as they but he knows we talk. we are alright friends i would say. so she told me about her hub having a car accident and getting some injuries and all the detail. i told my hub as he is her hubs friend from work and all. so i dont know why my hub would never talk directly about it to the woman, but he sent her a reply one week later talking about her completed class and grade that she wrote. then he mentioned a friend from town visiting them cause things were goi

going on with her and she needed to get away. he didn't need to tel her that much eithr. then he writes to her that he will call her hub to find out how he is doing now. My hub would never tell the woman that he will call her hub, if i tell him something, he does it himself, he never tells the woman what he knows and what he will do, you know? the woman is nosy to talk to my hub as if she knows everything when she finds out. i mean the woman told me about her hub, and i told my hub about the guy's accident. the woman never told my hub about it directly. but my man expressed saying he will try to call the woman's husband soon. Well he still likes her a heck of a lot right from all this?

Answer 1

if you know this is going on there is no reason for you to be there he loves the other woman

Answer 2

Yes he still likes her a little too much. Kissing your hub is out of the question. There could be hope for your marriage, the hugging and kissing has to stop on your husband's part, he's getting a little too friendly with the other women. You have to tell him it's you or them. Good luck.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I personally don't believe in letting single or married women around my husband so things like this won't happen. So my advice to you is sit down with your husband and talk things out don't be afraid to ask him questions the worst thing that can happen is he can tell you what you already know. In a marriage there has to be some communication without that you have nothing. Then after you talk pray and ask God to led you and your marriage in the right direction

Answer 5

sorry to hear about this...sounds like you husband is an immature jerk and is not competent enough to be in a commited relationship. Unfortunately there are many people who think love is about the thrill of the chase, the flirting and all the adrenlin of seducing someone new. They are not capable of true love which involves commitment and respect for one another. Move on, heal and find someone who is good enough for you. Take care

Answer 6

Ok this thing with this other woman MAY be innocent enough, but it probably needs to end for the betterment of your marriage, especially since he once made out with her (were they drunk?). He should be able to respect your feelings about the issue if you tell him you don't like his relationship with the woman because it seems he's attracted to her and would like to see it end. If he cares about the future of your marriage he should be able to cut things off with her even if they are totally just friends. His friendship with her should not be more important to him than the health of his marriage.

Answer 7

If things don't come to a stop now, they will eventually go further than you want them to. You have to ask yourself what it is that you really want out of your relationship. Just remember that you can't change someone else's mind for them. If he decides that he really wants to be with her, there is really nothing you can do. If I were you, I'd beat him to the punch and leave. Why would you want to be with someone who you have seen cheat on you?

Answer 8

Seeing them making out on the sofa would have been plenty for me to call it quits with my husband....as far as there being hope - well it all depends on how much you're willing to tolerate in the years ahead of you.......good luck.

Answer 9

Maybe he is kissing her because from what I can see on the way you write to ask a question, YOU TALK TOO MUCH for him to be able to kiss you. Did you stop talking long enough to think of that....well did you?

Answer 10

That isn't right. Ask him what's going on that you know there is an affair going on with him and the woman. After knowing everything and if he really loves her then leave him. Gud luk!

Answer 11

If you don't get rid of her interfering in your life your marriage is definitely over . Because as long as she is around ,hes bringing destruction to the marriage .If he wont let go maybe you should.