I have a friend who has being married 2 my hubby's cousin for almost 6 yrs.. they have try to have kids with no results, he went to work far away from home but she didn't want to move she wanted to stay in her own house, after a couple of yrs. he used to come every weekend then every 2 weeks & so on after he stop coming maybe once every two months. We find out he had someone else & she knew too but she decided to stay like that, but how can she be in a relationship like that she is pertty & nice person & can find someone better. He is now in the town but still have contact w/ the other woman she had back there. Have you ever being & this situation before ?? If you have or are in a relationship like this one WHy are you still w/ that person?? IS it just because of the love that you feel for him or cuz you feel you can't find any one better ??? I respect everyones opinion but don't you think if he has no respect for you he might not love his wife???nothing personal just need opinios!!!
2006-07-10 10:02:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there must be many reasons why people allow such things to happen to them... like, love, low self esteem, or financial reasons.
i would never be able to live this way, or able to stay with someone who cheated on me. and i dont understand why people do...
i know there is a lot of things people will take when they are in love. a lot of things people will do, that they never saw themselves doing.
love cant survive without love and respect.
2006-07-10 10:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by LiLiTh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, there are several scenarios for why she has decided to remain by his side. First, she as well is having an affair and she figure that everyhting balances out. Secondly, she might not believe that she could find another person; her confidence or self-esteem might not be very high especially if she knows her husband is cheating. She could be so dependent on him for things such as income or paying the bill or budgeting the finances that she is scared to do these things on her own; she would rather stay there and have some security instead of going out on her own not really knowing what is going to happen. Another scenario, she could be depressed or discouraged about the whole situation and she does not really care on way or the other. Final possible scenario that I will talk about is that maybe she does not want a divorce because she fears that there is a negative stigma attached to it. Honestly, there are so many reason why she might be staying and I can't possibly list them all, I hope this helps though and I hope that both them make the right decision whatever that is for them.
2006-07-10 17:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by camels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps this woman just feels that maybe she can't handle things on her own and needs her husband's support. I also had a friend who was in a similar situation and she stayed in the relationship for security reasons. Her husband helped her out with whatever she needed and also paid for all of the bills, house, etc. She probably does feel like she can't find anyone better. It's not that he doesn't love his wife, because if he didn't he probably would have left a long time ago. Maybe he feels guilty for having that other woman. The man needs to make a decision because this whole situation is not fair to anyone. It's not fair to his wife or to the woman that he is having an affair with. Just my opinion.
2006-07-10 17:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how long they have been married she may just not know anything else but being married to him. If he still takes care of her she may just be afraid to lose that security. Either way she really should get out.
2006-07-10 17:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by rubygloom28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might find the relationship easy and wants to keep it that way. I think she's married to scum and should break away from him especially if she wants children. In her relationship, she might like to feel she is in one without the touchy feelly thing going on.
2006-07-10 17:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she is desperate to keep him, or she may be doing the same thing on the side and she don't feel as guilty because he is doing it too. Why would she not want to go with him? sounds like she sent him on his way to find someone else to me. I'd be right by his side if I expected him to be faithful to me wouldn't you?
2006-07-10 17:07:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convenience........it's easier to stay married than file for divorce.
2006-07-10 17:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sounds like they are both using the other as a saftey net.
2006-07-10 17:56:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS SIMPLY FEAR THAT YOU AREN'T GOOD ENOUGH TO DO BETTER
2006-07-10 17:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by starfruitlily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋