Why don't we see perps of domestic violence as dangers to society and require mandatory psych lockup?

Question

Why don't we see serious perps as "dangers to themselves and others" and send them off for eval and meds like we do suicides? There are meds and tx available for anger mgmt and psychotic rage. We med people for social anxiety! Instead, we blame the victims, expecting them to be mind readers, and punish them, especially the children, by making them live in shelters and safe houses as fugitives while the perps bond out and are free to offend again with no tx, no meds, no psychiatric record, free to buy guns in many cases and much more angry. No wonder more victims don't turn the abusers in. Surely, we can pass a law that says it's insane to abuse loved ones especially your children? The attitude seems to be that its reasonable to lose your temper with your family members and fly into a psychotic rage that does put "others" at risk. But often the victims aren't people who count. Why is this? Why do we still blame the victims? Tx is cheaper if it prevents repeat offenses and saves lives!

Answer 1

The United States is a Land of Badly Written Laws that are Randomly Enforced. And Under the current law, people who commit crimes still have rights... making it even more difficult to bring them to a proper justice.

Run for office and do what you can do to protect victims rights. Maybe, if you can gather enough support, you can be president one day. Its difficult.... but not impossible.

Answer 2

I have been a domestic violenece victim, although I admit I was pretty hard to deal with ...women can push a man too far sometimes..I bet you hate me for saying that don't you girls? It still doesnt give a man the right to hit us, I know, a good man would just walk away, get away from us if were freakin out. Well, it is true in many cases though,..We run our mouths without thinking how it can effect someone elses state of mind. Im not saying we cant speak, but we could eliminate useless remarks aimed to trigger anger towards anyone...but yes, I think they should have to go thru anger management classes and the victim should be told when they are released from any facility. The victims in these cases should also have to go thru counseling to cope...if they dont get help, it festers and they cant become productive or trust people or even start to look for the right kind of mate. Each situation needs handled on a personal level, to see if one or both parties need certain help,wether its drugs, anger issues, depression, whatever the case.I know some people who have never changed their violent ways and others who totally have, and I am not one who believes much in rehabilitation at least not for serial murderers and child molesters. In some cases such as domestic violence or even thieves, I believe there can be hope.

Answer 3

Until recently, it was a man's RIGHT to beat the members of his family. The "rule of thumb" said you couldn't beat your wife with a stick larger around than your thumb and longer than your forearm.

Even though it's been many decades since laws were passed changing this, there are some who still see diciplining the members of your family as a "right", and there are many excuses that can be made up by them to keep laws off the books. In alot of jurisdictions, it's still the abused spouse who presses charges, which means that they can be convinced to drop the charges and make everything go away.

It's also easier to tell ourselves that "That sort of thing doesn't happen anymore" if there aren't any laws preventing it.

When you look at the numbers, for every child who is harmed by a stranger (National centre for Missing and Exploited Children) there are 19 children who are injured or killed by drunk drivers in a vehicle that they're not in. (Mothers against Drunk Driving)
It's much easier to pass a law forcing sex offenders to register their location than it is to get one passed to force repeated DUI's to. That's because people don't mind admitting that other people have problems, but when it hits close to home, it's very hard to say there's something wrong.

Answer 4

because society does not value the victems. when a man (or woman but most are men so do not be pedantic) hits a woman or his children, many folks think well why doesnt she leave. yeah - and go where? leaving is the most dangerous time - more murders are committed then than any other time. America, on the whole, tends to see women and children as belongings. did you know that in many states, there are harsher penalties 4 pet abuse than child abuse?

i do not think there is any simple answer - my neighbors were in a horrid relationship - i often heard him drinkining and yelling at her and the kids. one night i realized that we are all mandatory reporters - so i called 911 when the screaming and hitting started again. not only did the police do NOTHING - they took forever to respond. of course she denied any violence despite the house being a wreck, broken furniture, and a black eye. instead of arresting for probable cause - LIKE THE LAW REQUIRES - they told him to keep it down. then things just got worse...

Answer 5

Because of the hidden nature of domestic abuse it is difficult. Also because so many women still want marriage for the "security" if (falsely) offers, we remain stuck in an out-dated social construct. When the police are called on a domestic, the injured spouse often doesn't press charges. "How can I press charges against my husband? I love him," they often say.

I agree that these incidents need to be taken way more seriously than they are, but in reality I think the concern is about money spent on prevention versus fixing the problem. I think we live in a world where it's only OK to spend money to fix a problem, not prevent a problem.

We also need to call abusers out. Be a nosy neighbor or brother-in-law, stop being afraid and tell your brother-in-law that you know he hit your niece and that you will not stand for it. And help that person find anger management in the community BEFORE he/she needs it, not after. Also let that person know that they are loveable but their behavior isn't.

Answer 6

The saddest thing is that most of the people who are arrested are bailed out of jail by the person they abused. In some states, if there are children in the house during the abuse, both the abuser and victim are arrested and the children taken into state custody.

Answer 7

i love that you posted this! it reminds me off the low income area in the town i live in. they recently agreed to build a rehab home for sex offenders next door to the park where children of poverty sticken children play daily...those same children who have most likely been raised in violent, abusive homes. now that i have that off my chest...i do know that mental health can request individuals to stay for evaluations. i also know one who refused to stay for 90 days. Even when prescribed meds, the perp had the choice whether or not to take them accordingly. i have experienced a relationship with one who i later found to be 'socially dangerous'. he is the common serial killer on tv sitcoms~psychopath who hasnt taken his meds in about 5 years...drug abuse only contributes to monster mentality. i agree that once these indivuals become known to MH, there are things that should take place. their freedom puts everyone in danger of killings, kidnappings, etc...
Then, all they have to do is stay tuned to the detective shows on the US tv to learn better ways to get away with things. the kidnappers of millions of children are highly educated in these areas~FACT. unintellegent monsters are always caught. if turned in the abuser, or even requested a restaining order, no doubt i would no longer be here. this i know. people such as those should definatly be under CLOSE watch to say the least.

Answer 8

Well, its cause 51% of the time, the woman strikes first, and when the cops put them in jail, all the feminist organizations start to cry foul.

Answer 9

Limited economical abilities versus public safety.