This is in response to the last question I asked about my relationships. Several people have said that 21 is too young and inexperienced to settle down, but I just don't agree. A few people said to get out there and meet lots of people, but I'm not interested in that. I know 21 is still young but I think it's usually the point in life where you should be supporting yourself, either working or going to college, and looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with. In today's society, people are waiting so much longer to get married, have kids and such. But when my parents were my age, people were marrying at that age and having kids. It's not unusual. So I was just wondering why some people think I'm still too young to want these things?
2006-07-10 09:58:03 · 14 answers · asked by Jenn 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its not that your too young to want them its that your too young to make the right decisions. Its hard to understand what we mean until you get older. That is the problem with passing wisdom on, nobody really learns or understand until they go through it themselves. When I was younger I thought I knew better than others too. Then you get older and realize you really didn't know anything at all. We are think we are the different 21 yr old, but your not. When it comes to making decisions like getting married and having children, believe me, wait. You still have so much time to learn and to grow. Dont saddle yourself down this young. You will probably come to regret it but by then it will be too late to make changes.
2006-07-10 10:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that when I was 21 I thought that I knew it all. In fact when I was 15 I thought that I knew it all and as I kept getting older I realized how much I didn't know at those ages. I got pregnant when I was 22 years old. It was scary and very hard to do it at such a young age. I am thankful everyday for my daughter but I wish that I hadn't thought that I knew so much at the time and listened to what everyone told me. Now I'm trying to go to school and work and spend quality time with my daughter and raise her right but it is extremely difficult. I don't have the time to do all the things that I want to do. My life is taken up with lots of other priorities. If I could do it over I would have gone to college first and then traveled a bit and then gotten my career started then settled down. I have missed out on a lot a my younger years. Even though it's worth it, it probably isn't the best choice. Just think long and hard about your decisions.
2006-07-10 10:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by mohitz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say 21 is to young because there is still a lot things you have not yet experienced at this age. I think that you shouldn't rush it, your time will come. When I was that age, I thought that I could settle down, but now I know that it wasn't the right thing to do. You ever heard the saying "I wish I knew then what I know now" ......well it's true....you will be probably be in a totally different mind set by the time you turn 25 or 26, you will be much wiser and smarter. Friends of mine that got married at young ages, are now divorced, like my bestfriend for instance. So take your time and enjoy life, travel, further your education, and have fun. If it was meant for you to get married it will still happen later on in life!
2006-07-10 10:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by Red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a societal issue.
Everyone "says" that under 21 and you're too immature to do things. (Drink, vote, etc) And because people hear this all their life, they ACT too immature to do these things.
If you look back in history, In any Christian country back around thre 1300's, if a woman wasn't married by 15, she was "ancient" and her best years were being wasted. And if you had money, the same 14 year old would be the one organizing the christmas feast. Ordering all the food, making sure all the dishes went out when hot, Ensuring that the dishes were ready as the last course was taken away, Keeping the servants in line, making sure that when everyone was seated, that nobody who's families were at odds with eachother sat close to eachother. Arranging for the entertainment, and making sure it went on at the proper times and was appropriate for the gathering. And making sure that people who had a history of making trouble when they got drunk got only watered wine.
That's a pretty tall order for one person of any age, and these "Children" by our standards did well enough that their events were immortalized in songs, stories and poems. (Naturally, it was all the Lord's doing, as he married them so it must be his good choice)
If you want an example of a song, the 12 days of christmas was about a feast. "Lords A leaping" was a few roast deer (the lords of the forest) same with "5 golden rings" which was about ring-necked pheasant.
2006-07-10 10:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by cmriley1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is not so much whether you are ready, but the hard part would be to find a person in your age group to settle down with who has the maturity to be stable and faithful in a relationship. Some girls I know have looked to older guys for a "settling down" kind of relationship.
2006-07-10 10:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by nuclear_science 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I settled down when I was 20. Age has nothing to do with it. It's all about how the two people care and love each other. They have no idea of what there talking about.
2006-07-10 10:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is too young of an age for a woman, but it definitely is for a man. I think that a man should be about the age of thirty before even considering marrage. Not only because I feel that he should be financially secure before he takes on the responsibility of a wife & family but it also gives him a chance to "sow wild oats".
Granted men may always be immature, but at least if they wait to be settled financially before contemplating marriage it shows that they are at least responsible
2006-07-13 05:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by Selkie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not see what the problem is as long as you are sure you're ready! I got married when I was 18 and have been married for almost 10 years! I would not change a thing! I love it!
2006-07-10 10:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's just is, let alone 25. Life is too short to waste and only to find out that your getting divorced or what you hoped for proved to be otherwise so why rush., this time procrastinating isn't a bad idea.
2006-07-12 09:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by Jetty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y is it too young? you'll figure it out once ur PAST 21, that its too young. i thought the same way you do, and i got married then, too. i was married already when i turned 21. thought i knew it all at age 20! keep living life, and all ur ?s will be answered naturally!
2006-07-10 10:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by Kasey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋