I NEED HElP REALLY FAST!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

my father left when i was 1 yrs old and we keep in touch alot and my mom and him are cool now and stuff, but i only see him once a year in the summer and he wants me to live with him for my junior year of highschool and i really wanna get to kno him and my other lil brother, but my mom is taking the longest time deciding if i can go. she said that she wants to make sure i go to church and keep god in my life b/c my dad walked away from god but my dad likes that i go to church, and we keep tellin her ill go to church but besides the religion she wuld say yes, i tried everything we talk all the time about it and she has to make a desicion real soo b/c skool starts soon. WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!!!! I NEED HELP ON HOW TO CONVINCE HER THIS IS GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I only see my dad once a year too but I sure as hell wouldn't want to live with him. He walked out not me and if he cant find time to visit more than once a year to hell with him.

Answer 2

Well, first of all, just understand that your mom is just wanting the best for you. There is many reasons why she is hesitant to let you go. I'm sure one of them is that she doesn't want you coming back as a wild child, and I don't blame her at all. Going to live with your father, who actually barely knows you, would put you at certain risks. New people, new friends you meet, it all sounds exciting.....and I'm sure everything will be ok. Your mom is being a good mom, so give her a break. She doesn't want you coming back hurt, either by your dad, or by a boyfriend, or even coming back pregnant. I need to tell you that the decisions you make while you're young could last a lifetime, so remember that. You don't grow old by being a fool. If you keep God in your life, then you'll do ok. But if you're doing the hypocrite thing like I've seen so many other people, all your misdeeds will be known. They have a way of being found out. So think about all this and talk to your mom sensibly. She's only looking out for your best interest. I wish you the best of luck, and if you do go, have fun and be careful.

Answer 3

I think your mom is jealous. She has been the only one in your life for a long time. It goes deeper than just the whole church thing, she prob doesn't trust him bec. he did walk out, and for many reasons she is trying to protect you from getting hurt again. I think that it is a good thing for you and you should tell your mom that if she should trust that you would go to church, bec. if she can't trust that you won't go to church, then why is she a religious person to begin with, I mean you are her daughter, if she can't trust you..who can she trust? She knows that the time has come to let you go, she is just scared to do it. Reassure her that you will keep in contact with her and that for you to be a whole healthy person, you need to rebuild on your relationship with your dad. And if that doesn't work, just tell her that God works in mysterious ways and he was the one that brought u 2 together again. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Nothing. You should leave her alone. That has got to be one of the hardest decisions she has ever made. How would you feel if your baby was moving away for a year? And speaking as a mother myself, the thought of not seeing my children every day brings tears to my eyes. Even if he is your dad, to your mom he can never take as good care of you as her. No one can. It may not always be true, but it's how we feel. Leave her alone, don't force her. You can just remind her that school starts soon and you need to get things planned. Leave it at that. This is your mom...the woman who carried you for 9 months, gave birth to you, and has raised you all this time. She can't just let you go like it's nothing to her. Give her time. I know you're running out of time, but she won't just leave you hanging.

Answer 5

I think you will find out that it is not good. Once the excitment wears off you will miss home and friends and want to be back with Mom.
Stay where you are. The grass really is not always greener.

But if you do go, remember, if you only see him once a year
something is not right about the relationship.

Answer 6

Tell your mum that you are mature enough and love your religion enough to make sure that you go to church, and that just because your dad turned his back on God doesn't mean that you will and that your dad does approve. Get her to talk to him if you can and he will tell her the same I no doubt.

I guess that after that you will have to just wait and see, but don't shout or scream at her, remember you are trying to make her see that you are mature and can cope with whatever decision she makes.

Good Luck.

Answer 7

you're going to sit down with your mom(when she's in a good mood ) and this is what you're going to say:
Mom, I need you to not say anything and just listen to what I have to say OK? I have never had a relationship with my father, a REAL relationship.. I don't know if you know how that's affected me, but it has.. And you know he's a good man, regardless of the fact that he walked out, you know he has a good heart. Mom, I'm not leaving forever. I just really need this time with him. please try and understand how important this is for me... he's my dad... and it's only for junior year. I WILL go to church, I WILL respect your wishes, just trust me... blah blah blah, yadda yda yada. good luck

Answer 8

Relax. She is just scared to let go and loose you. Trust me if you don't bother her every time I think she will think about it and realize it will be good for you. She will let you go. Tell her to get on her knees and pray to find the right answer. Best Wishes!

Answer 9

well it seems that this is more personal than you think it looks like you mother is afraid that your father will aboandon you again or take you away from her.Look your mother cares about you alot and she doesn't want anything bad to happen to you so you have to see with her.
hope i helped

Answer 10

tell her that ur dad will take care of u take u to places hel let u be with ur friends hel buy school suplies and that he will take u to church