A lot of it I can't explain, but let's just say, my mom is pretty religious and some of the things my best friend have said have 'alarmed' her and I really don't know what to do. She's the only friend (that goes to my school) that I can completely trust. I'm going into high school and I'm very, very scared about making new friends quickly so that I won't have to worry about this issue. Right now, I just need someone to talk to.
2006-07-10 09:38:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My mom thinks that there is stuff going on in her home that's not right. I have told her, and she tries to be careful, but stuff just slips out. I'm practically forbidden to talk to her. Also, sometimes she's said stuff around my sister, which has gotten to my mom.
2006-07-10 09:46:05 · update #1
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2006-07-10 09:47:13 · update #2
Well this certainly is a delicate situation. You should try and tell your mother that some people just do not believe what she does and that it is okay if people think differently. Your mother has a right to defend her children from some things. But you are almost an adult and are entitled to think and believe what you wish. Besides your mother is not in danger of losing her ideals by having this friend of yours over. "You are the captain of your soul and body". Your friend ,although, would be advised to not voice her ideals to your sister because your mother has a duty to protect her children from knowledge she finds harmful. "You are the captain of your soul and body".
2006-07-24 09:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Thinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom doesn't like my friend but she deals with it. Like you said she's the only one at your school you can trust, the same with me (there is one more but that's all). I've known her my whole life and if I lose friends, she'll be the one that I have to stick around. Your mom may be very religous, and think your friend comes from a bad home, but the best thing you could do is to talk to your mom and your friend's parents and arrange a dinner get to gether sort of thing and introduce's each other's families. Getting to understand the parents better will help your mom make a better judgment on your friend.
2006-07-21 03:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by Allyson B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay cool with your Mom...she has your best interest at heart. Your Friend may or may not be a good influence, but it is best to continue to try and make new friends anyway.
Remember, others kids in HS will decide things about you based on the people you hang out with, so if there is an issue with this friend, other potential friends will know it and think you are just like her.
So unless you are willing to appear to have the same values and behaviors that your friend does, limit your contact with her.
2006-07-10 16:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by szq_too 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny I'm sry, you will be making new friends at High School dont be nervous you have nothing to worry about I was the same way hunny. Just still be friends with ur friend and go to ur mama and yall 3 talk and hopefully it will get better for ya I hope Good Luck I hope I HELPED YA IM ME IF U NEED TO BYE
2006-07-10 16:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by Dolphin lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom hates alot of my friends, but who cares? If you can trust your friend, then remain friends with her no matter what. Highschool is very scary..i thought I was going to die that first day & make no new friends, I could have never been more wrong. Don't be afraid..go out & meet new people, but you shouldn't try to drift from your friend just to make your mom happy. This is your life, she is YOUR friend. with the way your mom is, there's is no way really to change her opinions about somethings, but you can tell her to respect your friend, & respect the fact that you're going to be friends with her. If she can't that's her problem, she has to deal with it, not you.
If you want to talk, you can e-mail me (it's in my user profile).
I hope this helps.
2006-07-10 16:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes moms have a good instinct about their children. If she doesn't like your friend, she's probably right!!!. You should be happy she cares for you!! You'll be making alot of friends in high school, dont worry about that!!!
2006-07-23 22:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by Chi_Indy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a teacher you trust? You might want to chat with one of your past teachers, or even the middle school counselor. If nothing else, you know for a fact that they will not jerk you around, and have your best interests in mind.
2006-07-10 16:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should explain to your friend that your mom is religous and to watch what she says around her. Sometimes we are leary of our childs friends as we dont want you hanging with ones that can lead you astray....Ask your mom why she dosent like her and explain the reasons you do. Maybe that will help
2006-07-10 16:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that it bothers you. she's only sticking up for you, and maybe she senses that your friend isn't the ideal friend you should be hanging out with. Listen to her explain, and try to understand her and where she's coming from than ask her what she was like when she was your age and ask if her mom didn't approve of some of her friends?! See where that goes.
2006-07-24 02:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by missbehave252002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember...your mother is your best friend. she is older and wiser than you. listen to what she tells you and learn from her( that is, unless she is a total wacko) she was a young high school girl herself and she remembers the pitfalls. i suggest you remain friends with this girl but do not put your "complete trust" in her and try to form relationships with some new friends.
2006-07-23 14:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋