Do you think people can change these characteristics? Terrible with money, big spender, womanizer, selfish, addictive personality, liar? I mean if they get older into their 40's, won't they mature and maybe not do these things anymore? Can people change?
2006-07-10 09:26:08 · 9 answers · asked by 22marie22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
people can change..if they really want to..
what if..thats what he really wants?
he wont change for the world..thats for sure...
2006-07-10 09:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances are probably with some of these characteristics a person can change but its unlikely all of the kind of characteristics would change if found in the same person. But if they have a real 'will' to change and learn to see the error of there ways then things can improve. However, that would take a whole lot of effort and effectively it means a person changing their previous lifestyle which they have grown so accustomed to. Personality characteristics of the person may be so ingrained and will not adapt to other behavioral techniques that in effect would deprive then of the high they get from their selfish behavior.
A leopard never changes their spots...they only become lighter or darker..if u know what i mean...you cannot totally erase a persons character unless its through the use of medication or something else. A persons character its a part of their individuality....
It takes all kinds of people with good and/or bad habits and characteristics to make a world!
2006-07-10 10:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person doesn't change as they get older. They just change the way in which they lie, cheat, use and manipulate others.
My wife of over 15 years is this way. She has never changed, never will change. We have gone to counseling and found out it is based a lot on her mother and the way she was. Well guess what, her mom is in her 60's and hasn't changed.
You must decide for yourself if you can live like this with a person like this. They won't change and it will wear on you. It has me.
2006-07-10 10:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by wn_all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. Especially not the addictive personality, addiction can be arrested, not cured. But, people can change but don't put all your eggs in one basket and dont' hold your breath.
2006-07-10 09:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Never go into a relationship thinking that you are going to be able to "fix" things. Because YOU aren't. You can only change yourself. (and same with him).
People don't usually change. You've been warned.
2006-07-10 09:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they can change with lots of therapy. But I have had experiences with men like this but honey, it will just get worse. Don't you see that by staying you are enabling him to do it?
2006-07-10 09:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by joan w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know a couple people like that and he had a midlife crisis. the other one went on to have handfuls of illegitimate children. i don't think they'll ever change.
2006-07-10 09:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be easier to find another man than to change the one you have got if he is all the things you say get rid
2006-07-10 09:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by scooby doo 24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but it sounds like this one may require medication.
2006-07-10 09:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋