Hey all, Im a female who needs some serious help. Im falling in love with a friend. Well i dont know if i should call him a frirend, but i met him at a club 2 months back. During the night when we met we exchanged numbers at the end. I txted him the next day with my email addy and he did the same. Every since then, we have been talking none stop. My friend jessica says that he likes me, but isnt ready for a relationship and i said that same thing too. BUt when we are around each other me and benji is like the air smells like villia.
I cant stop thinking about him.
When im on the bus, i think about him that i start to smile.
when he txts me, i get funny feelings in my tummy.
cant help at night.
if its a saturday and we are meeting up with other friends to go out. clubbing. i seem to be in the toilet throwing up all day.
Please somone tell me whats happening to me!
Tell me the signs of love!
2006-07-10 09:25:52 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
His name is Benji?
That's like a joke, right?
2006-07-10 09:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by TKO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love, long-lasting love, is healthy. Remember that, first and foremost. If your emotions are out-of-wack and you have trouble functioning as a sane human being, you need to:
1) Calm down.
2) Talk with him about it; if he's your friend, he'll be understanding and may provide some insights.
To be perfectly honest, I think you have a bit of a crush. If you want to go out on a date to see what it feels like, then sure--it can't hurt. If you feel that you're both comfortable together, under the premises of a "relationship", then sure, it can work.
One of my favorite quotes:
"There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness."
Friedrich Nietzsche
But remember...
"Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all."
Bask in it, be glorified in it... just remember not to be irrational about it. There's nothing magical about love, but it is, surely, the most amazing feeling in the world.
2006-07-10 09:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Maxwell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being his friend first because there might be a reason why he's single and wants to be that way. Perhaps he's scared of a relationship and that could cause some distance between you two if you rush it. Just take it slow and don't forget to breath.
Although you might be in love make sure to check out the signs, moods, and what is coming out of his and your mouths. Sometimes when are so in love in the beginning we overlook things that we normal would put the breaks on. Be careful and be emotional, and mentally available.
2006-07-10 09:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you are infatuated.
But most of all the signs that you mentioned indicate that you are psychologically immature when it comes to love.
It is normal to have 'butterflies in your stomach' but vomiting when you are with a group!!! I mean, this is gross and a little over the top.
He may be infatuated with you too. But this is too early to say if you are in love??
Being in love takes time and lot of gut. You will know it, when you are in love. Trust me.
I am not even going to ask if you are a teen or much younger, because that would be derogatory. Rather try and work on your feelings for him.
Ask yourself what you expect from your future, and what kind of person would complement the real 'YOU'. You will get over these feelings in a year max, but if it is love, then you will know it.
Take care and enjoy life one day at a time.
2006-07-10 10:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people confuse infatuation with love. I personally can't tell the difference either. On one hand you are totally head over heels in love and this will be the greatest thing that has ever happened to you. On the other hand you have feelings that aren't real and he doesn't feel the same, but you'll still have a great time and it still may be the greatest thing that has ever happened to you. Either way, go for it... it doesn't sound like you have another you love more or that you have anything to loose, so go for it. Best wishes
2006-07-10 09:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I know how you feel. I was in exactly the same situation you're in. I've liked a friend too. Actually, it was about 3 months ago. I'm gonna tell you to do what I did: Follow your heart. You said you weren't ready for a relationship. If he likes you like I think he does, he'll wait. Just keep going out with him. Enjoy your time with him. I did that and it helped a lot. So, that's it. I think that's what you should do.
2006-07-10 09:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are in love! Don't be scared though, love is a good thing! If you really like him or love him and he likes you too then you should definitely ask him out! Even though he says hes not ready for a relationship if he likes you enough he'll say yes. Trust me, I had the same problem. This boy, who is now my boyfriend, said he wasn't ready for a relationship yet but I really liked him ALOT!!!So I asked him out and he said yes! We have now been going out for 6 months and we're totally into each other!
2006-07-10 09:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be a four letter word that starts with and L, but it's not love....it's lust....L-U-S-T
I would suggest trying to press on the brakes a little..the way you are being for this boy..you are setting yourself up for heartbreak...
I hope you don't let him know that you like him that much..becuase that usually gives guys a free ticket to treat you like whatever they want because they know they can and they know you will let them...I would just take things slowly and see where it goes from there...
And maybe after you hang out...start going out...and so on and so forth..you will be in love, but the stage I call you at right now is L-U-S-T...
Good luck..I hope things work out for you and this guy..
2006-07-10 09:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by Tamara J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, sounds like you're in love alright. First thing you need to do is take a deep breath! If you both like each other, then just roll with it. If he's not ready for a relationship, then just roll with it. If you smother him, he will run. Just spend time getting to know each other. If it doesn't work out, then move on. You're young obviously, just take your time, have fun, and roll with life. He's not the first guy/kid you'll fall in love with I'm sure.
2006-07-10 09:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont rush up!
please.
i have gone through both love and infatuation.
what you are facing is infatuation,develop the relation on a friendship level and then after a period of time you will understand if you really love the person.
if it works out it can culminate into love.
but at present its certainly not love.
the signs you have mentioned are of infatuation but remember in the long run it can lead to love!!!cheers..best of luck.
2006-07-10 09:31:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatly signs of lust....not love... But act on them... Love is a huge thing... I think that it takes a little more than that funny feeling... I say... start to hang out more...but don't get your hopes up if he doesn't want a relationship...because he may not be up for the challenge yet....relationship thing is hard work....very hard work!
2006-07-10 09:29:22 · answer #11 · answered by Kristin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋