My partner is out of work and i want to try for a baby!!?

Question

My partners just come out of work due to awful people he was working with. The thing is we have a three year old little boy and i want to start trying for another baby. i work 25 hours a week. Do you think its stupid of us to start trying now hes out of work. sensible answers please. I need honest opions

Answer 1

Hi, i will give you the only advise that you will need for your decission..... first of all ask your self what does a baby need? well money is not the answer. You need to be able to provide the basics like food and water, but the most important part that a baby needs is completley free!! as long as you can give your baby love forget the rest it will sort its self out.... good luck

Answer 2

I think that you should wait until he has another steady job. You should know best of all how hard it can be w/ a child financially. If he's not working and you're only working 25 hours, then you should definitely wait. I know that a lot can change in 9 months. However, you could have at least some income coming in from him to help support the 3 of you all unless you plan on picking up the slack. This way you can start preparing for the new edition. Also, it's better to make sure that he will have a job w/ benefits to cover the newest edition to the family.

Answer 3

Yes, I do think it would be a little crazy right now. Wait until your partner is a bit more secure in his employment. I know that he can probably stay home to look after the three year old but if he hasn't got a job within the year, where will you be?

All I can say is consider all the options, look at the finances and do what you feel in your heart is best. Five or six years old is a lovely time for a child to have a new little brother or sister. Mine were four years apart and, to be honest, it came a little hard for the two eldest at that age.

Answer 4

I think the smart thing would be to wait till your partner has another job lined up because I'm guessing that you don't have insurance through your job because of the hours you work - and having children isn't cheap as you know from your first child - especially if you don't have insurance - do you really want the added stress of income on you while you are pregnant? pregnancy is hard enough on your body - love the child you have now and enjoy him while you can - because when you do have another child - your life will be even more chaotic then ever - trust me - I have 3 children 2 1/2 and under

but ultimately the choice is up to the 2 of you - not what anyone says here - it's just a person's opinion and everyone will have one - trust me - you need to do what's best for you and your family - good luck to you in your future and with your family

Answer 5

I certainly don't think that it is a good idea right now. There is nothing wrong with wanting a baby, but you have to consider the impact upon your finances.

If you are financially stable and your husband has a high likelihood of obtaining work quickly then there is no reason why not, but if it could take your husband some time to find work, perhaps you should consider waiting.

At the end of the day, what is more important to you? Having a baby that you long for, or that child's happiness. I know that I would wait for easier times. Can you do the same?

Answer 6

I don't think you are stupid for wanting another baby but I do think you are very unlucky with the timing, and you know it too! You know, if you continue trying to get pregnant while your partner is out of work, you are taking a gamble over a period of nine months. So what is the possibility of him getting a new job in that time frame. You must have some idea of the likelihood, given his skills and the employment figures where you live. You are working part-time as it is and have 2 adults and a small child to support . Is it worth waiting 6 months to see what happens and think about the situation then?

Answer 7

Consider this:

If you try now and he doesn't find a job, or you get fairly far behind in bills and are in debt up to your whazoo when the baby arrives, that would be a bad thing. What if you have a problem with the pregnancy and you have to give up YOUR job? Then what?

If you wait until he has a job and you have stability, you are free to enjoy your pregnancy, stress-free, and what have you lost? A few weeks? A couple of months maybe? Well worth the lack of stress (not healthy for a baby to be inside a mommy who's a stressed-out wreck anyway... so wait... for the sake of the three year old AND the new baby.)

Please wait. Let him get stabilized in a new job. I will promise you that you will not regret the delay.

Hey... another consideration? Health insurance. Waiting until he is stable in another job will guarantee your pregnancy will be covered by his new health insurance. If he's lost his job, I'm assuming his health insurance will end too, right? Just another thought....

Answer 8

Come on. Are you serious?!?!

Of COURSE you should try for another baby. If you've already got a three year old you NEED another one soon. If you wait too long between pregnancies, it'll be harder for them to get along when they're older and I can't think of anything I appreciate more than my brothers' companionship.

That job will come. Your partner sounds like they've got their head on straight by quitting and it'll only be a matter of time before they're making even more money. I'd go for the baby soon.

And I'd cut my hours back if I were you. Focus on the pregancy. I wouldn't work more than 12-15 hours if you're trying to get pregnant. Stress is a huge negative factor while trying to conceive.

Take a vacation you two and get to work on that new baby!!!!

Good luck!

Answer 9

Most definately. You're going to struggle enough as it is now and I'm sure you're feeling the pinch already. Just double that problem and you will be miserable and struggling to keep your bills paid. Be patient if he's only just finished work. Give him time to look for another job first and then try for another baby. It's the only sensible option if you want your relationship to survive because unfortunately money's the root of all problems. Good luck!

Answer 10

To be honest yes You shouldn't have kids unless you can support them. What if you have a tough pregnancy and can't work? You'll have NO income - a baby on the way and one to feed. Think of all the stress that will cause.

You'd be better waiting until your husband has another job first. Then think about trying for a baby.