i know this person everytime i go to this public place he start talking to me i think he thinks i am gay is there anyway to find out ?
2006-07-10 09:06:44 · 18 answers · asked by joey 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i am scarced of him
2006-07-10 09:07:58 · update #1
as i got older i have started to assume more and more also misread vibes very common
2006-07-10 11:48:27 · update #2
Are you really scare?? or just afraid of realizing what you are; talk to your inner self and let it go. Nothing wrong with your emotions, they are natural, and since you go often to that place........
2006-07-10 09:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by bigonegrande 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First off, if all he is doing is talking to you, so what, you can always walk away.
Secondly, if you think he's gay.....Ask.
Thirdly, if you haven't done either of these, how can you assume?
If he is in fact flirting or showing interest and you are not, then just tell him. What do you think is going to happen? Why would you assume something was going to happen?
As for being scared, grow up, stop being a coward and either say something or leave it. You can't go through life being scared of someone different than you because you'll be awfully lonely if you do.
2006-07-10 16:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do you know he's gay? Or just think he is gay? Perhaps he is just trying to be friendly. Unless you know he is gay please don't assume so.
I would suggest first perhaps avoiding this public place. If he is always there go somewhere else. I know it may seem like a small inconvient but it would solve your problem.
Second, no matter who he is, or if he is gay or straight be polite. Don't ask him he is gay, that may turn confrentational. You certainly don't want that. I suggest saying something like " Sir, thank you for your conversation, but I simply don't have time for it right now. Do this a few times and he may get the polite idea that you don't like him, nor do you want to talk to him.
2006-07-10 16:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u could ask him if he is gay but if u wont to do it with out him getting mad then start talking like a gay say like i like this place it is called aeropostle u know u dont have to mean it but after he answers the ? then u will know if he is gay or not if he says yea i like that to then he is gay but if he dont say that and he says thats gay then he anit gay and after reading everybodys ealse ? they must think u r gay or somthing because they r like well dont be afide of going thier dont be afide of somone that loves u. i tell u what they r dumb didnt they hear u say that he THINKS im gay thinks being the key word they r retards lol
2006-07-10 16:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say anything to identify the public place you are going. Please be honest with yourself, are you choosing to visit this public place because this man, or other men you assume to be gay hang out there?
2006-07-10 16:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you afraid of. If you are not gay and he makes a pass all you have to do is say "no thanks". He's not going to rape you. You do have a choice. Look at it this way, if he is gay, he must think you are good looking. Take it as a compliment.
2006-07-10 16:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by quikzip7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't wanna - tell him you aren't interested. At least in a public place you should be safe from any aggravation.
2006-07-10 16:26:58 · answer #7 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HIM!! Don't be ashamed of asking. If he is gay and he likes you tell him that your not gay and you still want to be his friend. I hope I helped! Love ya,
~ Orlando Bloom's #1 Fan!!!~
2006-07-10 16:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by Orlando Bloom's #1 Fan!!!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just casually say in conversation something about your girlfriend (whether you have one or not). That ought to send the proper message. Don't be mean about it though.
2006-07-10 17:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by bumwiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either you are afraid because you know you might do something you regret.... (have sex)... or you are extremely weak and are afraid he will overtake you and make you have sex with him. or you are afraid because.......... hmmm
I dunno... why are you so afraid....
FYI it is rare that even the strongest of gay men will force another guy to have sex.... so ...
are you afraid you might have sex and regret it later?
how bout just be nice to him and play ignorant..... if he is not after sex... you will not make a fool of yourself by turning him down.... if he is after sex he will have to just come right out and say it .... at that time you can politely turn him down.....and tell him you are hetero.... and not interested
2006-07-10 16:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by mallard guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋