He asked me if I loved him after a year and a half. I just feel this "phrased" is often used insincerely. My actions speak louder than words. Is it wrong that I don't like to say it?
2006-07-10 08:52:59 · 37 answers · asked by Trixi Curious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No it is not wrong, what is wrong is that you do love him and you have not let him know it... This may affect you both...
So I deeply suggest that as honest as you´ve been here, you go and tell him, I hate (dislike) to say the word (for any reason), but I ******* love you... And I wont say it again ok...
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2006-07-10 08:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U know what. I feel the same as you! My hubby asks me that all the time. Actions do speak louder than words; I think. But if you really love him, tell him. He probably does things for you because he loves you. Right? Do the same for him. Won't kill you. I could use some of my own advice! LOL
2006-07-10 08:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying I love you all the time, it can loose it's meaning. I think it's normal to feel that way...because it does...when I say I love you, I want you to hear it in my voice and really believe it. If I say it all the time, it gets old...and expected. Actions always speak louder than words....but a year and a half is a long time to wait to say it, unless you don't mean it.
2006-07-10 08:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, and want him to know that you love him, then you need to tell him. There is no other way for him to really know how you feel. People do over use the word, and say it when they don't mean it. But come on! It's been a year and a half and you can't say I love you????? What's up with that?
2006-07-10 08:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by WEIRDRELATIVES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely do love him then say it. Say it with actions AND words. Say it often.
Yes it is important.
Everyone goes through times of doubt. It always makes you feel better when someone says "I love you" (only if they mean it).
He may be a little unsure how you really feel about him. Sure he's probably noticing your actions that say "I like you alot" or "I love you", but because you haven't said it aloud there may be a little doubt as to HOW serious you are about the relationship. Though this is going by assumptions as I do not know anything more then that little paragraph you wrote. I only know he's asked you if you love him....if you love him, TELL him. Tell him often. ....same goes for family. Tell them you love them. Even if you know you love them (be it friend, family, significant other) and they know you love them, if never does any harm to say it.
...am a little curious/concerned as to why you don't like to say it. ....but it may be nothing at all, just a part of who you are and how to feel comfortable expressing yourself.
2006-07-10 09:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by ianna m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is such a natural thing to say when you love someone ... And I understand that he would like to hear it. It is a wonderful thing to express and even though actions do speak louder than words it is always good to hear it from time to time. Tell him and also explain him how you feel about saying it. He just needs reassurance. That's all.
2006-07-10 09:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear what your saying ...and I believe actions speak louder than words ....if he knows you all that time ..he will know that your actions speak for you ...don't be bullied into saying something you don't want to ....and your right ..some people use I love you ..as an excuse to walk all over you ...your a very intelligent young woman ...you know your right
2006-07-10 09:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by pineforestkim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I tell my hunny I love him probably 20 times a day. I started doing that because I look at my grandmother who lost her husband a few years back. They weren't much on saying "I love you" all of the time. Now that he's gone...I bet she'd give anything to say it to him again. Every time it crosses my mind...I just say it. It takes 2 seconds. You never know when it may be the last time you see that person.
If he were the type that didn't want to hear it...that would be different. But if you feel it..then just say it.
2006-07-10 08:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after a 1 1/2 years and you dont want to say i love you.... then there must be some underlying reason you dont want to say it.... Yes it does seem wrong... If you love some one then tell them... they arent expect every word from your mouth to something that moves mountains... Why does it only have to be for a very special occasion... there is something we arent seeing here....
my kids tell me they love me all the time and i dont tell them " honey only say that on my birthday and christmas." I tell them I love them everyday...
loving someone is something that should be expressed and it doesnt have to be action... the simple words and the look in the eye can be all we ever need....
look deep inside and search for why you really feel this way
2006-07-10 08:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by Grin Reeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like to hear it. My actions can say I love my car, my job, my dog, etc but not as much as the people I tell I love (like my wife and kids).
"My actions speak louder than words" it typically I nice way of saying "I'm not sure I love you and I don't want to make myself vulnerable by saying it"
If you can't say it to him then you probably really need to examine the relationship and see whether you are really into him as much as he is into you. Yes some people say it as a defensive move or for manipulation but you don't seem to be one of those persons.
if you really love him, tell him.
2006-07-10 09:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by Sleepy Dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes hearing and seeing that you actually love him is much nicer than trying to prove to him. Exactly how can you prove that you love him. By having sex with him, taking him to dinner, doing something that he enjoys. NO!!!! He will see that you love him, "I Love You" sometimes is used randomly but when you feel it, just say it. After such a long time, he will definitely know that it is true and real. You both will feel it, you get butterflies all over and it is a warm feeling to give into.
2006-07-10 09:00:31 · answer #11 · answered by angela414_7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋