I am so fed up with being in pain. I need something to hang onto.?

Question

How can I find something to hang onto?
I promised myself I could give up when my dad died and my son got to 18. Both these things have happend and I need to find a reason to keep living. I have been in constant pain for 12 years now.

How can I find something to hang onto?
I promised myself I could give up when my dad died and my son got to 18. Both these things have happend and I need to find a reason to keep living. I have been in constant pain for 12 years now.

The pain I have got is sciatica which started with an epidural during a cesarean section. Been to pain management programme I didn't find it much help. I am taking oral morphine but that drops my mood so try to avoid it.

Answer 1

My mom died when i was 12.. Im 42 now. Ive also lost both grandmothers in one yr. plus i have a sister whos teminally ill from 2 types of cancer.

Yes, it hurts.. yes i still cry for them.. But i also have good memories, and can laugh at the fun times that has happened.

A reason to keep on living ?? Try yourself.. Although things seem bad now.. there really is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Try dating, getting a pet.. ( ihave 2 dogs tht i adore), or get a hobby or travel. Whatever it might help to get your mind off of the negative things that have happened.

Also and i know its easier said than done, try to quit thinking about your dads death, and your son growing up.

If you still feel like all hope is lost, try some grief counseling. My mom died of cancer and now that my sister has cancer, although shes not dead yet, my dad is going through grief counseling to help him cope with the loss when it does come.

Sometimes its good to talk to a professional counselor or therapist to not only get it off your chest, but because alot of them have had similar problems and know and are taught on how to help patients.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

I cured my sciatica with this natural treatment ( http://cure-sciatica.info )
Normally, I would not answer a question like this as my expertise is generally in medication but I had severe sciatica while I was pregnant with my 3rd child (after having had twins) and I had sciatica so bad that I was finding it difficult to walk. I tried massage therapy and physical therapy and could not take medication
I went to the chiropractor and the pain was instantly relieved. My hips and lower back were out of alignment because I had carried twins the year before. On occasion a Doctor of Osteopathy (DO) can also work but they usually only work on one joint at a time - the chiropractor will do your whole back which works faster. Anyone who does not believe in chiropractors will tell you they are quacks - don't listen.
I don't necessarily believe that chiropractors can cure things like diabetes but they can definitely relieve some types of back pain especially if a pinched nerve is involved which is usually the cause of sciatica.

Answer 3

I am so sorry that you are suffering so much.

As for your son being 18 now... I am 35 and my Mother is one of my closest friends. You have a lot of time to enjoy your son not only as a son but also as a friend from now on. Don't think that just because he is 18 he could cope without you... and one of the things would mess up his head more than anything would be if you just went off and did something drastic.

I hope you can talk to someone about how you feel and get some stronger painkillers or a better treatment for whatever it is that is wrong.

x

Answer 4

Maybe you'd like to see your son grow up and get married? He probably wants you to see him do that.
Perhaps he'll have grandchildren one day.

If your pain is associated with moving, perhaps you could look-forward to seeing some of the world on a coach-tour or maybe a cruise? I'm 30 and keep meaning to go on some long sight-seeing holidays, but never get around to it because of work.

As someone else has suggested, hobbies are great at taking your mind off things. Check out local adult education classes in you area for something that interests you that you are able to do. Perhaps something creative, sociable, or to exercise your mind.
If you are still working, perhaps you can find a job which causes you less pain?

Have you explored the Internet to see if there are any specialists in your condition who have alternative therapies or could give a second opinion? (don't fool for any scams though or take any chances).
If you pester your GP perhaps they can refer you to someone you've not seen before. Maybe changing your GP will improve your chances of getting better treatment?

Remember there's always someone worse off than yourself, and they keep going.. so can you.

Answer 5

Well, this really sounds serious!

Go for a manual one-time treatment called Atlasprofilax. The effect on the self-healing power of the body is simply amazing - own experience. :-)

Specially for sciatica it's known that the nerve stops to produce wrong information after a certain time due to the liberated information flow.

The treatment is available in California and Europe only - it's really worth travelling far for the one treatment in your lifetime.

Answer 6

Have you tried religion, this helps many people, what about doing something for other people, maybe hospital visiting where you can put your experence of pain to good use by helping teach other how to cope, maybe you have an undiscovered artistic side, peotry or painting, many great artists have all felt pain, mental or physical which gives them a dfferent persective on life?

Answer 7

What do you want to do with the life you have? Goals are what will keep you going, but only you can figure out your dharma: Your special talent that no one else is as good at as you, you have that, start by finding out what it is.
Helping other people like you, counselling, psychic readings, writing...What do you love to do?

Read Stephen Hawking's biography. He's quadraplegic and is one of the world's most revered and famous authors.

Answer 8

How about to keep living so you can see your son continue to grow up. Also to see your future grandchildren.

I don't know what is causing your pain. But keep on seeing different doctors. One of them might be able to help you.

Hang in there....

Answer 9

I have found that helping others is a great way to help with both physical and emotional pain. It's a good way to feel good about yourself and helps you to take a break from your routine. Volunteer, get invloved with a support group. You are definitely not alone!

Answer 10

hang in there chickie theres always something to live for- your son may be 18 but he still needs you, see your doctor about new pain management or just help. sending you a gentle mental hug xxxxxxx