Anyone else feel guilty about masturbating?

Question

I know it's supposed to be normal and healthy and practically everyone does it, but I still feel guilty and ashamed when I've done it.

Answer 1

Why does it make you feel guilty? You are in control of your body and have a right to understand how it works and discover what gives you pleasure. It may be different of the urge was uncontrollable and you were indulging at inappropriate moments, but if its in moderation and you find it fulfills a need, then its nothing at all unusual and is something women have been doing for millennia.
If you have some religious aversion to it, then its a matter of trying to understand why that belief system requires you to abstain and deciding for yourself whether your interpretation fo your beliefs supports that. You ARE allowed to think for yourself, and make decisions about your own body for yourself.
If you cannot enjoy your own body, how could you ever guide a lover to give you maximum pleasure? Don't feel bad please, you have done nothing wrong.

Answer 2

I feel guilty about anything I enjoy - eating, drinking, being alone, music, reading, hot baths, ice cream , sex, mastrubation, porno, and so on. If I am enjoying myself I feel guilty. The only way I would not feel guilty all the time is if I spent every waking hour helping people, and had no possessions and the absolute minimum amount of food needed to survive (not a healthy amount the absolute minimum needed to stave off death and not a crumb more).
The reason why I feel guilty about everything good which happens to me and every pleasure in life is because I have a very low sense of self worth.
I don't think this is the case for you. I think you feel guilty when you mastrubate because your parents, freinds, teachers, or religious leaders told you at an early age that the genitals are a hideous and wrong part of you and filled with germs and wickedness (or something to that effect) and as with so many things we are exposed to as children it effects our outlook on life.

Answer 3

There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty or ashamed for doing something natural and total human nature. How else do we know how we like to be pleased? We have to figure out what we like first on our own before we can share it with another person. Or if we don't have another person in our lives we definitely have to have that kind of release. Orgasms release endorphins that can make a world of difference when it comes to stress and relaxation. Masturbation is a dang good thing...Keep it up.

Answer 4

Funny thing is I understand completely about feeling ashamed...I am a Christian that has been having a hard time with sexual things of late...that could be why my children are so into sexual things right now...I have been celibate for 19 months...masturbation was something I did occasionally...and I did not feel guilt... now, the guilt almost consumes me...it happens less and less...eventually, I have been put of a mind to understand I may never have sex again in any way shape or form...being the sexual creature that I am, that is a terrifying thought!

Answer 5

Jen u may not believe this but god made your concious for a reason. it is wrong if u feel ashamed about it. it's natural to fart, pee, boo, boo, sneeze. and u dont hear anybody feeling ashamed about that. it's all bout your morals. too. and believes. the bible talks about this very thing. it's considered wasting your seeds. sex was made for reproducing. in marriage. and if u keep doing that u will find yourself in a selfish attitude when u make love to your lover. because there will be some days where u want orgasm and it will make u utterly uspet. and make u think of doing all kinds of different wrong things. PPl always fall into this trap. i want to keep it short. but if u want to know more u can contact me. i got proof. but everything that feels good, doesn't means it right. some ppl have sex with animals, and kids. is that right? And if it was so perfectly normal why would ppl have a problem admitting it.

Answer 6

Hay I used to feel quite embarrassed about even doing it, did nothing for me but thanks to my fiance I not only satisfy myself he even got me a toy and boy let me tell you going home to my rampen rabbit after a day at the office is cool.
Some woman can get better joy out of doing it themselves so don't be ashamed as you have done nothing more than satisfy yourself.
If you are with a partner then open up and explore together let them know how and what you do and you can both do it together.

Answer 7

I don't feel guilty about it. And you shouldn't either. Why should you, its your own body??
Why not enjoy it?? Unless you are very religious, I can't imagine why. Would you feel guilty for pampering yourself in other ways? Like doing up your hair and putting on makeup and nice clothes?? Enjoy your body, let loose, pamper yourself. Sometimes your the only person who knows how to do it the correct way.

Answer 8

Jen,

Pease don't feel bad about masturbating. Its one of lifes great pleasures, and I think the very fact that you do masturbate means that you enjoy it right?
As you said yourself its normal, most people do it and its healthy the only problem that you have is accepting that you can enjoy this solo play.
The one thing that I can tell you is something that Woody Allen once said : Masturbating is after all only making love with the person that loves you the most.

If youd like to talk about this (in fact it might help you to talk about it) please mail me. I'd really like to help you.

Answer 9

i personally do not do it bacause im always scared that a) sum1 will see and b) ill do it wrong! lol! but if you can do it then it is nothing to feel guilty about AT ALL! practically evry1 does it although they might not admit to it! you should find out if one of your frends does it too and then you can talk abt it and youd probably feel less guilty even though you shouldnt anyway!!


i hope i helped hehe

Answer 10

What are you ashamed of? You get it done the way you want it done, you can't get pregnant or catch STD's and there's only half the mess to clean up at the end. Go for it girl, it's clean, it's free and it's yours!