i have a seventeen yr old son who has finished highschool. my son wants to go on tour with a band called Wikked Witch (kids let me know if you have heard of this band. the problem that i have is that i dont think that my son is a good enough musician to go on a tour, and i dont think that this so called band has good intentions.
tell me what you think. oh they say that they would pay him 100 dollars a day but that a contract is not necessary.
2006-07-10 07:45:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Don't allow him to go. A contract IS necessary. They're up to something.
2006-07-10 07:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are probably not willing to offer him a contract because they know that touring bands, particularly the smaller unknown ones, frequently get ripped off by club managers (who also won't offer contracts.) I know bands that have been promised $2-300 bucks for a show and have walked away with $6 to cover parking. Assuming it's just a short road tour, you can always send him a bus ticket home if he winds up broke. I'd worry more about the potential of a drugs-and-alcohol lifestyle on the road than I would about money, but only you know if that's something your son would succumb to.
2006-07-10 15:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let him go. First of all he is still too young to make any sane decisions, 2nd of all, a contract should be signed, 3) While I believe kids need to learn from their mistakes - a mother's intuition is always right on. You're already feeling this is not a good idea - listen to your inner-self; 4) While he get's paid $100.00 a day, he might need to still pay for his room in board - thus voiding his $100.00 a day salary; 5) Nothing good ever comes out when boys are all together especially a traveling band.
If he were my son...I would say "No, you're not old enough to make this decision in your life".
I am a believer in an education - make him go to college.
2006-07-10 15:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is only 17 years old. Many states allow 17 year olds to leave their home, but the parents are still liable for the actions of their children. I would try to discourage it. Of course, it will come down to whatever he decides. I don't understand children nowadays and why they don't want to pursue a college career, but, hey, that's another topic. He's looking for adventure and the money sounds good and all, but it's only for a time. And working like that without a contract can be a good thing and also a bad thing. Contracts are binding which means that he would have to play with this band whether he wants to or not. Without a contract, he can try and see how it's like and if he decides it's not for him, he can walk away. Besides, bands like that are infamous for their drug and alcohol usage. I would definitely try to discourage him from joining this band. Best wishes to you and yours~
2006-07-10 14:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by veritababe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HMMMMM I have a 15 year old son and I know I would NOT let my son go! Not at his age. But your son is 17 almost 18 right? He's graduated highschool already. I would say no matter how much you worry about him- and how scared you are to let go- you eventually have to let go and let them make their own decisions and mistakes, just let him know he can call u anytime anyplace whenever he needs you - you will be there! My heart is with you- cuz I know how Id feel if it were my son! But keeping him from experiencing life will only make him bitter towards you Good luck
2006-07-10 16:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! There's definitely something funny going on there. When I was a teen, I remember begging my parents to go with someone I'd just met to meet a pop star that this person said she knew. My parents practically had to sit on me to stop me from jumping out my window and going anyway, but they held their ground and didn't let me go. Now that I'm grown with children I see the danger in what I wanted to do. I'm glad my parents did everything they could that day to make sure I stayed put!
2006-07-10 15:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by froggy1crystallynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let him go he is to young and No contract No way. I am 19 and never heard of that band and I listen to all kinds of music. Don't let him go you'll never feel safe about your baby out on the road doing god knows what. Your are the parent it is up to you not your teen. Good Luck to you both and god Bless you both.
2006-07-10 14:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by mommy2faithat19#3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a contract is nesscessary because if there is no contract then that will most lickly mean that there is no money involved. and if he won't liston to telling him that this is a rip off then tell him fine go but don't come back telling me that u did not get paid. but i would let ur judgment come in to play with this one b/c like i have said in the past no one on this site can tell u what to do u have to make up ur own mind.
2006-07-10 15:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by ManDUH_BBY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try going with him. do not discourage him but do not let him in harm's way. tell him that you just want to see him perform, if the "band" does not approve you joining then tell your son no. set boundaries and be determined. I'm 23 and my mother rarely got involved in my activities when i was living with her. It's a good thing that you want to support him and if you approach him in a defiant way he might just rebel against you. good luck. try searching for other local bands and let your kid know.
2006-07-10 14:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by sweetbeba05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not let him go until he is 18. Even if you do not think your son is a good musician, I would be supportive of his music. And do not tell him you do not think he is good. It will crush him that his own mom does'nt believe in him. Best of luck.
2006-07-10 15:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by hello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋