I was in emotionally mentally abusive marriage and I decided to get a divorce. I am mentally emotionally tired and feeling angry that I was used and abused. I realized that with my narcissistic personality husband, I have to move out ASAP for my physical and mental health. I am scared and paranoid to see my husband. I am looking for my apartment but it is not easy to find one right away (I have called around and saw places.) and also I am feeling like I don't know what to do from here. My sister has 2 family home which she is looking for a tenant right now. I have asked her briefly if I can move in by paying rent and she and her husband seemed to be reluctant. (they are in honeymoon phase of marriage and I don't think they want another family member living so close.) I just want to get out ASAP to avoid him. Do you I should ask my sister again for period of 6 months explaining my desparation?
2006-07-10 07:38:09 · 8 answers · asked by whattodo898 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All my family member agrees I should get out of my home asap.
2006-07-10 07:38:28 · update #1
I would ask her one more time. Tell her it isn't permanent...just until you can find something else.
2006-07-10 07:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes family arent as supporting as they should be. Im sorry to hear of your situation. I dont know the feeling of being abused but I know a mother who has and I know what it's like to have a man mentally abuse you and physically as well. And have no where to go....showering in the communtiy pools showerhead, sleeping out at friends, going a day or two without eating so you could save that dollar to put into a place. It hurts and I wish i could help you. But the truth is, it's not really your sisters obligation to help. She doesnt have to so understand that and forgive her. Hell, I have asked my father if I could live with him because my lease was up and had no where to go and apparently he was busy....Sometimes, we have to do things on our own. The world is cold and people are selfish. And to those who suffer have to fend for themselves. If I were you, I would definitely just look for a shelter, or save some money and find anything, an efficiency, whatever you have to do to stay alive and well. Please dont lose that smile though. I'm sure you are a great person and there is a loving man who will never make you feel so low. Just be patient and try to avoid your husband as awkward as that sounds. Good Luck, God Bless you...
2006-07-10 14:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Cloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get out, Yes ask her again. Explain your situation and that you are not looking to live so close and will not intrude on her privacy. Keep that promise. Be sure to mind your own business, keep to yourself and pay your rent no matter what. She shouldn't be so selfish when it comes to helping a family member in dire need.
If she's still not willing for whatever her reasons...hang in there. Look for roommate situations. Whatever you have to do, for now, to get away and support yourself without being under his thumb.
2006-07-10 14:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a womans support group that should be able to help you get away from the ex for sure and find a place to rent asap like you need. They can hide you for a short time to get your legs under you.
2006-07-10 14:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach you sister again and explain the situation. Offer to sign a lease to help ease her concerns. Good luck
2006-07-10 14:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by CHRISTIAN B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you really need to leave. If your sister cared about you, she would understand the urgency for her help. If she dosen't want to help and you have to basically beg her, why would you want to live next to her? If you are that desperate to leave, you might just have to take what you can get from any apartment. Good luck.
2006-07-10 14:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by cawecm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister that you need help and that it will only be for a year so you can get back on your feet. She should help you no matter what her husband says. Your her sister for crying out loud.
2006-07-10 14:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ask your sister,try stranger, it is better than family sometimes.
2006-07-10 14:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋