I have an ex boyfriend who remained my friend until recently when we fell out, I had a husband who walked out on me and the kids 3 months ago and a friend I met when I was 11 but found out that she asked all the other girls hung around at school with to be bridesmaids, maids of honour etc but I didn't get an invite to the actual wedding, only the reception. Why don't people like me as much as they like others and what can I do to improve myself.
2006-07-10 07:35:32 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the only thing wrong with you is you have no confidence in yourself stop thinking you aren't as good as everyone else you only get walked on because you allow it ,toughen up love.
2006-07-10 07:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't imagine that you need to improve anything! Just regain a little confidence. You have had a really tough time, and you have every reason to feel abandoned. Sometimes other people may imagine you to have everything worked out, sometimes they may not want to intrude. How about making some new friends by looking outside your usual places. You don't say how old the children are, but if you have any time, how about joining something, or learning something new, or even joining something with the children? If you have family, maybe they need to know that you could do with some support right now. How about doing something special for yourself, just for you. Many people think that they should have lots of friends, in reality, what matters is that you make your best friend - you. Remember, it is their loss too, they may not be as inclusive as you would like, but they have missed out on your sensitive company. A new start? A tiny change? Change the way you feel and you will be surprised how things follow. If you are worried that you are feeling too down. Do seek help! It is out there for you! Good luck
2006-07-10 07:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by silentium aqualis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do not know you well enough to answer this question. Only you know the true answer. Therefore, to answer your question yourself requires deep reflection, insight, and the ability to be critical. Can you list your strengths and weaknesses and be honest about it? If so, make a list of 10 strengths and 10 weaknesses. When listing your weaknesses, ensure they are negative qualities about yourself that you wish to improve, and write a detailed plan on how to accomplish this. For example, if you know you are an obnoxious person, attend functions where you can interact with people. Let them do the talking and really listen. Work on your communication skills. You may need to purchase some self-help books. Three key ones that I think would help you are:
1-Personality Puzzle and 2-How to Work a Room, and the third one is titled 3-How to Talk to Anyone. Best wishes to you. Keep a daily journal and a thought record. Write when you are feeling both up and down.
2006-07-10 07:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you seem to be punishing yourself for other peoples mis-judgements..... Stop right there !!!!!!!
Take a good look in the mirror, and ask yourself do you really want a friend that does that? ( they are the one with no morals, think about it, would you do that to her? ) NO you wouldn't so you are obviously on a different playing field anyway.
Ex husbands are A R S E S as we all know, especially when they walk out on children. ( not worth losing sleep over )..
And as for the Ex boyfriend, just resolve what you fell out about, he obviously cares, or he wouldn't have remained your friend.
It's very hard to be a single mum, harder than people know, you have to be the father, mother, disciplinarian, friend,taxi, waitress, and on top of that you have to be the money earner. All this and still find time for yourself. ( wow even I'm tired just thinking about it).
So to be able to do all this you have got to be some kind of special lady....... There loss angel, find new friends.
Good luck and be strong x x x
2006-07-12 01:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by sukimitchell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to improve yourself for noone. If they cannot accept you for the beautiful and raw person you, then I'll say "FORGET EM'" They are so clueless, that they dont know that they have a true friend right in front of them, many people are uses, and they like to take advantage of the people they think are weak, and for those who believe that they have a true friend, and many people take others for granted. It could also be jealousy, with the girl, that only invited you to the reception, she must've been an extreme hater, you're probably way gorgeous than her, or exude certain qualities, that she cannot find deep within herself. Anyways, never let this negativity get to you, keep your head up and stick your chest out, because there's always one friend out there for someone.
2006-07-10 07:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by Danyizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you have to improve yourself?! if the case is true, and your not being paranoid then dont bother with them, they are not worth it, you need to be on the same level with ur friends. go out, show them you can have a good time and meet new people, form new friendships etc... if ur worried that you wont find as good as friends as the ones you have, then dont be, ive been there, i lost the one best friend i would do absolutely everything for, for many reasons, but i was totally under her thumb. i woke up finally thought screw you and got to know some new people. now the friends i have are great, and i couldnt have dreamed of anything better!! chin up
2006-07-10 07:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by roundtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(1) Don't take the blame
(2) Therapy. Even if you are in PERFECT mental health it is a useful voyage of self discovery. If you are a total feck-up, like me, then it will put you back on the right road.
(3) Have you seen Muriel's Wedding? Good film. Cheaper than therapy. Maybe you just need a change.
2006-07-10 07:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look let me be brief with this its not that people dont like you its that you dont like yourself enough to believe you can go out and meet new people. Forget the past all all those who have wronged you and make today a new start then go out there and show the world who you are. if you still lack that confidence counselling is perfect as it helps build the confidence within you. Good luck
2006-07-10 07:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ask the same question. I was best friends whith my ex as were you, and when we split i lost him forever. One of my friends moved to australia, promised she'd get in touch but i have only heard from her once in 14 months. Another so called friend i went on holiday with hasn't contacted me since we got back and wont return my calls - neither will her mum now. My other 2 so callds are too roped up with their fellas that one has no time for me whatsoever and the other one just calls me when she has nothing better to do and he is working, so i'm kinda in the same boat? MSN?
2006-07-10 07:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by gembabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi poor you its all about been your own person and who cares if everyone likes you or not i think that you are probs an ok person and maybe you should forget about the past now concentrate on the future i think good things will happen soon and poss join a club i think getting a dog and taking it for walks will help you lots you meet people a lot and have a common ground to talk about and dogs need love and give love good luck
2006-07-10 09:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by LINDSEY C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be yourself. Maybe your not a confident person. These people you talk about probably think he same as you do. their thinking you don't like them. My advice is to get really pi**ed at the reception unless it's already happened, and show everyone who you really are!!!!!!
Sometimes all friends do is hurt you so is there any point having real close ones? ;-)
2006-07-10 08:48:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋