My husband will not allow me to have a TV in our room, he tells me that it is"not the end of the world", help!

Question

My husband does not allow televisions in any of the kids rooms, and continueously denies my request to have one in my room, our room. He says that marriages are doomed when tv's are in the rooms, it takes away from the time spent together as husband and wife if one is in the rm and one is in the front room. He tells me that the 52in big screen in the living rom is enough for me, even though I have to wait for the kids to go to sleep before I can watch any of the shows I enjoy, usually reality shows. He is this tough "christian dad", who don't even allow the kids to watch some disney shows! We just got married, I'm five months pregnant with twins, and my Dr. told me that bed rest will probaly be needed towards the end of the pregnancy. I'll be stuck in the bed with no TV to watch! We have FOUR extra televisions just lying around going to waste, one a 27in that I just purchased a few months before meeting him, it's only a year old! Please help me, what can I do to change his mind?

Wow, I didn't expect so many people to agree with him! I have no problem turning the television off so that we can talk, cuddle, or have sex. Oh, and I can tell you right now, this is my 2nd marriage, and in my first marriage I had a televion in every room, and it did nothing, NOTHING to slow down our sex life!

Oh, and he did not tell me this before we got married! I had a TV in my room while we were dating, and he never, ever said anything about it! Many days we laid side by side on the bed watching shows, and movies!

Answer 1

Well, I have a question..Is he your Daddy or is he your partner? Because if he is telling you no you can't have a TV in your room, then it sounds like he wants to be your daddy... If he is your husband and your partner, then you tell him you are putting a TV in your room so that you can watch the shows you want to and too your doctor is telling you to expect bed rest. Then you call your cable/satellite provider and you set it up to have a box put in your room and you have that young lad set it up for you. Do not, I repeat, do not let him treat you like a child. It will only get worse and that is what he is doing. You are an adult and dammit if you want a TV in your room then get one. You can always offer to get your OWN ROOM! LOL

Answer 2

Tell him that you will cut him off from sex untill you get your TV.. LOL.. Seriously, Ask him is it really that big of a deal there is a tv in the room? Its stupid to fight over something so insignifiant, He should respect you for who you are, and who you want to be. if you want a tv in the room, (its not that awafull of a request). Then he should be putting a TV in the room.. Tell him that Telivision is good for children, It teaches them problem solving, gives them experances that they could otherwise not face. He is a fool for not allowing technology into his kids heads, They will be so far behind the times, that they will fail in parts of life. Sure TV is not the shrine for the millineum But it will help his kids with relationships and friendhsips.. If the kids at school start talking about mickey mouse, and your kids dont have a clue,, what would happen??? Your husband should respect your wishes, its your life, who is he to tell you how you can live it.. You married him for his understanding of you, not because he tells you what you can and can't do. Its your life, if he loved you he would let you live it the way you wish to live it. As you should let him live it the way he wants to live his..

Answer 3

I can understand his point about having tons of tv's throughout the house - he's right in the fact that it really isn't healthy. Having tv's in every room means that the family will be seperated and won't be spending time together, not to mention you can't monitor what your kids are watching. I don't agree with the tv in the master bedroom - because if you are sick it's nice to have another tv in the house.
Since you are going to be on bedrest you should talk to your husband and let him know you aren't going to be able to be out in the living room. Tell him that at least until you have your babies you would like him to put the tv in your bedroom so while you are on bedrest you can watch tv.
As for you not being able to watch your shows due to the kids having the living room tv - tell him you would like him to invest in TiVo. TiVo will tape the shows you like and then when the kids go to bed you can watch them whenever you want.

Answer 4

Well, there are occasions when a TV is honestly needed in the bedroom>>> when you're too sick or disabled to get out of bed & need it to keep you occupied.
Just because a person has a TV in their room, it doesn't mean it has to be on all the time... not during sleep or love-making of course.
He needs to be more flexible (willing to help, cooperative) & considerate of your needs, since you do need bed-rest.
Jesus loves you... He made a sacrifice for you... & your hubby should too.
Remind him of what God's word tells husbands>>>
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it (made a sacrifice).
He's supposed to obey the Lord.
Just because he decided not to have a TV in the room, it doesn't mean the Lord isn't willing for you to have it... at least while you're going thru a needed bed-rest.
He knows a TV itself isn't bad... just the bad choices that are made, are bad.
Assure him that you will make good choices... & that you're not an unwise person.

Answer 5

WOW, that sucks! My boyfriend won't even let me have A TV! And no matter what I say or do, he just won't give in. Well, I am gonna buy one anyway - let's see him remove it!
Okay, well, explain how you will be on bed rest, and that you need to relax - and you have to be entertained somehow. Basically, you will have to plead your case. Remind him of the old tv, and also tell him he is being too controlling. You are not his child and it is not fair for him to treat you as such - especially since you are pregnant with 2 more of his children. Bed rest, you need to relax and be happy at these times, when he is not home you want to enjoy your shows. Come to a compromise, maybe tell him you won;t watch once you two are turning in.

Good Luck! I need some of that luck too!

Answer 6

You might have a chance of changing his mind if you are put on bed rest, but I doubt it until then. I have to agree with him - TV does not belong in the bedroom - yours or the kids.

Get yourself some good novels, and put small bookcases with appropriate books in the kids rooms. You'll be better off than with a TV, and so will they.

We have only one television (on purpose), and I control the remote. If I'm watching something inappropriate for the kids, I have them leave the room and find something else to do. They do not control the TV, I do.

Answer 7

I actually agree with him to a point. television in the bedroom is a bad thing. A husband and wife go into the bed room for "mommy and daddy" time and to rest. I think he may have taken it a bit far, but he is way smarter than you are giving him credit for.

TV can be very bad for a family if it takes away from good time together.

Answer 8

nicely it style of sounds like if he has someone telling him what he can and can't do, fantastically upon getting domicile from artwork and prob in simple terms needs to loosen up...he would leave you. SO if there is an option of him gazing television in yet another room then id say cope with it, on account that for the time of that factor youll be busy gazing the little ones anyhow. I agree that's going to not be on even as the little ones are present, yet when thats how he winds down, why not enable him have that factor to be interior the mattress room? Then even as the little ones are gone, you and he can spend a even as mutually.

Answer 9

Ask the TV in yoUr room as a "favor". Didn't tell him that the TV is going to stay in ur room after ur pregnancy. Start by telling him "I'm pregnant and have to stay in bed for a long time and I'd love to have the TV here for these boring hours..... And after the baby comes, we can take the TV out of our room. I think -hope- he won't deny this to his pregnant-with-his-kids (!!!) wife. Then, he himself will have get used to the idea of enjoying a movie 2gether lying in ur bed etc....and he won't have problem in keepig it here too.

I have to admit though,that ur husbant is right. A tv in the bedroom make the personal moments of the couple less (not talking for sex only but for discussion etc)

Answer 10

You need to put your foot down, I can understand the kid's room but you aren't a child and hopefully can control yourself. I will be dammed if I can't watch regular TV shows. I think your husband needs to get a grip. TV"S don't doom marriages, people do! As far far as your sex life going down the drain I have a TV in every single room in my house and honey we are nonstop at least 9xs a week. People doom the marriage not meaningless objects.