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2006-07-10 06:56:30 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating on your wife will not help you fix your marriage. It will only hurt her and make it more difficult. You cannot fix any relationship by turning away from it.
You need to find a way to tell your wife that your needs are not being met within the marriage. And, make it clear to her that you want to find what you need within the marriage.
Also, ask your wife if her needs are being met. And, tell your wife that you'd like to see that her needs are met, too.
Don't forget to talk about the things you like about your wife and the marriage. Encourage her to do the same.
If you think you need help to do this, seek out a qualified marriage counselor.
2006-07-10 07:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
If the marriage is bad enough that those are the only options, it's time for a divorce. Being unfaithful will only make a bad situation worse, and being faithful but feeling sad is no better. File the paperwork, get a divorce, and move on to a new life where you can meet someone that you can be happy with. Good luck.
2006-07-10 07:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should truly look at yourself and your marriage and figure out why you would want to be unfaithful in the first place. Is your wife not freaky enough? If this is the case and she is a prude, then I think you need to really talk to her and let her know that you have a healthy sexual appetite and you want to full fill it with her. And then work on doing so, you need to make her feel full of self confidence so she will try new things with you.
Now, if this is just about you not being able to be monogamous and just want to screw around, then for goodness sake just get a divorce. Don't be bringing some STD home to your wife. Respect her more than that.
2006-07-10 07:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another angle to look at this is, what are you defining as sad? Is your marriage really that bad? Have you compared the positives with the negatives? No marriage is heaven all the time, but the pluses should far outweigh the minuses.
I'm not perfect, there are things about me that annoy my husband or that he doesn't like (and vice versa!), but none of them are worth ending the marriage and trying to start all over again with someone else. My pluses make a much longer list! Therefore, he is happy!
Sometimes one should revisit the reasons they feel sad, because often it can all be resolved and the marriage improved.
Good luck.
2006-07-10 07:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mahira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither would do,I would suggest you talk it out and find out what each others needs are and if it cant be met then you should try and talk about a divorce.It wont help if you keep it unfaithful or be sad the whole time, either way it is gonna hurt both partners.
2006-07-10 10:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by Spooky Boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to be unfaithful from time to time then a marriage is not worth having,
If you cant be faithful then you need to let the other person go to be free to find someone who will be faithful.
2006-07-10 07:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by piglet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfaithful marriage is unacceptable, and married and sad is unacceptable. You should quit the marriage - you don't seem to be the marrying type or perhaps you've picked the wrong person.
Those are not the only two options in life.
2006-07-10 07:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Steve W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Marriage is about honesty and openness. Do you and your wife have bad communication? If so, maybe you should try having a sit-down talk or seek couples counseling.
If you really loved your wife, and meant your vows, you would find some other release for your stupid purely-sexual urges.
Masturbate, try having sex with your wife when you're horny...but if you become a cheater, you're an a-hole, and your wife deserves better.
2006-07-10 07:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling your wife is agood idea. You 'll feel better for a while. But eventually she will keep asking you more and more questions.Then you will wish you had never mentioned anything because you will both be sad.Get out of the marriage now don't prolong the unhappiness any longer, firstly for your wifes sake and then for yours.
2006-07-10 11:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by Glynn Bequickplease 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be faithfull 100% all the time. Not only are you hurting somebody else you are not being true to yourself. If you are married and miserable its time to get out of the marriage and find somebody who does make you happy OR if you really do want to stay with that person but are unhappy tell them and work it out between yourselves, try new things like tantric sex. I
2006-07-10 09:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋