Why is premarital sex if its only with one person wrong?

Question

Say that person you are with is the only person you are with for the rest of your life? How is it wrong?

Answer 1

good point

Answer 2

Who says its wrong? The people around you? This is because you are
immersed in a society mostly made up of Christians.

Christianity has "rules" which exist for good reason, but the reasons
tend not to surive, only the rules. Frequently the rules end up
discouraging behavior that isn't a problem, but it is simpler to
have a rule then to really know what is going on.

In this case, promiscuity encourages diseases which can potentially
hurt you, and your entire tribe or society. If your sexual habits
spread disease, it is in the best interest of society to stop you.

Sex with your mate-to-be is not promiscuous, but the idea of
having sex out-of-wedlock is lumped into promiscuity.

Why? Well, what if you only THINK he is your mate to be?

This whole subject is rich in tradition - marriage as a legal act
with contractual obligations of dowry, required consumation, etc.
Having sex prior to the ceremony basically violates all of the
assumptions on which this tradition are based.

There are other cultures and religions that don't have these exact
rules, but they are usually pretty close because the handing on of
genes from generation to generation is so very important to all those
concerned.

Men don't want to spend resources bringing up another man's genes.
Women don't want to share the protection of their mates with another
women. Society wants to make sure that progeny are healthy.

These three elements are guarenteed to cause some mighty complex
rules. Break them only if you fully understand what you are doing.

Who amongst us can claim that they truly know what they are doing?

Answer 3

First of all Marriage is a piece of paper, or in some states a person you live with for more then 5-7 years. Second it is only wrong if you feel it is wrong. There is no right or wrong to these question, it all goes on what you believe to be true. If two people commit themselves to each other, there is nothing wrong with that.

Answer 4

Depends on your value and belief system. If you are in a relationship that you plan on having for the rest of your life I would suggest that you have sex with each other. Some of the most love filled relationships are deflated after the big bang and no spark. It is a very important part of any relationship that the sexual experience with each other is mutually satisfying, love is great but sometimes it's not enough to keep it together if the fire doesn't get lit!

Answer 5

My "first" was with the man I ended up married to for 15 years. We are not together any longer, there is never a guarantee that this person is going to be with you forever. I don't feel that premarital is wrong as long as you are careful and safe at all times!

Answer 6

What are you saving for your marriage night then? I would be the last person to say it is wrong as I have had pre marrital sex. But imagine the honeymoon if you save it up until then! Also, anything could happen before the marriage to make that not happen. Then you are on to your next person... and crave it more after that!

Wrong would be the world's judgement about that situation and we are not to judge. Your spirit will move you if you are doing something you shouldn't = guilt.

Answer 7

What is wrong with premarital sex is that you risk alienating the people whose judgement and approval you value. Ask yourself how important your loved ones' opinions are to you.
I agree with ChooseReality, that was a good answer.

Answer 8

Sex out of marriage

Sicilian

I think today too many people choose to worship god on there terms in order to justify there way of life.

Think about this “you’re going to decide how to worship him”
THE CREATOR OF THE UNIVERSE!

Or are you going to consider how “he” would like to be worshiped?

I don’t know from what stance you asked this question but it’s not a question you should ask others but one you should ask YOURSELF!

I didn’t write this to make you feel guilty and I pass no judgment I’m guilty of fornication myself.
11 reads And yet that is what some of YOU were.

You know a perfect man Adam sold us into slavery
And it took a perfect man Jesus to buy us back out.

Look up the word fornication.
PS There is only one sin not covered by Jesus sacrifice
And mercy to us both its not fornication.

May peace be with you in all your days!



1Cor 6:9-11
9 What! Do YOU not know that unrighteous persons will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be misled. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men kept for unnatural purposes, nor men who lie with men, 10 nor thieves, nor greedy persons, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit God’s kingdom. 11 And yet that is what some of YOU were. But YOU have been washed clean, but YOU have been sanctified, but YOU have been declared righteous in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and with the spirit of our God.

Answer 9

When two people have sex, they give themselves completely to each other. It is the greatest physical gift that a human can give.

So why give with your body, and hold back with your mind? Marriage is the formalization of that gift, a declaration that you mean it with all your soul.

If you have found the person that you will be with forever, then marry! Give yourselves completely, and don't hold anything back. If you are not ready to give yourself in marriage, you are not ready to give yourself in the marriage embrace.

Answer 10

It is only wrong from a religious viewpoint, and yet I'm sure many religious people still had sex before marriage, at least those in a more current generation where it wasn't socially taboo.

Answer 11

It's still pedophilia if you don't wait for them to be adults too; even if you end up getting married later. It's considered wrong because it is premarital.