What if po*rn is involved? (either me or her) she is into her toy, which is fine by me, I know she is faithful. and i am def. faithful too, but sometimes when she doesnt want to do it at night, she sends me in the living room with a dirty mag. i always feel guilty about it, even though she is giving her permission. thoughts?
2006-07-10 06:21:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, I wish my fiance was more like you on this one....
I have the opposite problem...I hate when my fiance masturb*tes to porn, and i've asked him to stop, but he refuses and it hurts my feelings.
Personally, I wouldn't worry about it anymore (if you can make yourself worry less) because she is letting you know that it's OK for you to get off without her. It's great that you're not hurting her feelings, and this is still a way for you to be faithful to eachother, so I hope you can get over your guilt.
If it really makes you very guilty, then try just holding in your need to get off until the next day and ask her if she'd like to mess around then. Usually, the anticipation before makes getting off even better. ...but i'm not a guy, so i don't know how hard waiting is.
2006-07-10 06:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if this is only here and there it's no big deal there are times that you just are not in the mood at the same time.
Though if this is happening more then the real flesh one on one then I would feel that there is a problem. That would make me believe that the toy is more pleasurable then you and you are not longer needed? I would feel that way and have actually buy the the opposite situation.
Are you spontaneous towards here loving and say just take her in front of you and please her in the kitty area w/o saying anything prior to her? That is something that is exciting.
Good Luck
2006-07-10 07:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by vcaring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife's understand that sometimes our bodies' needs and our husband's bodily needs don't always match.
I think it's fine that you do "the dirty mag", and I think it's fine that your wife does the "toy".
I would start to worry if the "mag" and "toy" start to replace the normal husband & wife intimacy in your relationship. Otherwise, I wouldn't even worry.
If it bothers you so much, though, talk to you wife about it. Share your thoughts with her. Communication is the most important part of any relationship.
Good luck!
2006-07-10 06:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by momma265 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if your question? Are you asking if it's bad to masterbate when you're married? If so the answer is no. Not every couple is on the same wavelength all the time with regards to sex. So occasionally you have to let the other person have their space and take care of things yourself. now if the other person in the relationship wants to have sex, but with someone else, THEN you have a problem. But occasionally being told "I'm not in the mood, go squeeze one out"... so what?
2006-07-10 06:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 07:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling guilty for a reason. I think that wives should make themselves available when their husbands need them aside from illness or monthly cycles. Talk to her. The toy should only be used with you and you should keep your eyes and thoughts to her. Your sex life will improve and you will gain greater respect for yourselves and each other.
2006-07-10 06:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by flowerandkevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she ain't in the mood she ain't in the mood. My wife is rarely in the mood, and just learn to function without sex. It's not the only thing a husband and wife can do to share their love for one another.
If you can't help it and have to bust a nut get you mag and go to town, or pop in a video.
2006-07-10 06:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her the mag and maybe it will turn her on enough to give you the real thing,
2006-07-10 06:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by citisat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. that's kinda weird. i would feel really awkward if my boyfriend sent me off with porn or sex toys because he didn't feel like doing it. why can't you masturbate together?
2006-07-10 06:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by musikalgrl20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it. Sounds great to me
2006-07-10 06:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋