Well if i am pregnant....?

Question

what do i do...is there ways the government can help me support the child..i am an 18 year old and i live with both of my parents but there divorcing..my mother got me kicked out of school so i have no diploma..im int he process of gettin my GED but I dunno i just dont kno what to do and im scared but at the same time i want to have a baby so i can get away from all of the stuff goin on and be happy for once

My parents wont help me there in the middle of a divorce ive basicaly been able to do what i want since i was 15 but before that i was grounded for 2 years..i dont kno how to motivate my self anymore since ive been out of school i mean i was doing really good i was supposed to graduate my 11th grade year but then my mother got me kicked out....ive been to counseling and it only works for the day that i go..where i live there is nothin to do AT ALL everyone is gettin so bad on drugs and its so scary

Answer 1

I wouldn't think for a second that the baby will help you escape from your problems because you will be greatly disappointed. The baby is only going to add to your stress level and if you are not prepared for it that can be a really bad situation. Even moms who have all the support in the world have trouble coping when they have hard times with their kids.

Plus, you should only have children when you are capable of taking care of them on your own. You should not have to rely on the government to help you take care of your child. You have other options and if you are not ready or capable of taking care of this child on your own, then I would suggest that you find out what your other options are.

Answer 2

Well..i can kinda relate to this, okay only really is im 18 too, and i live w/my mom. Im 6 weeks pregnant, and when i first found out i was scared too. But there is one thing for sure, having a baby wont solve your problems, if you have that much problems with your mom and dad talk to them about it, or even just one of them. But if you are pregnant you need to stay stress-free. My boyfriend and i talked about it, and this is what we came up with..it might help you and it might not. Abortion-we couldnt live with it. Our souls and everything else would not be able to handle the thought of we killed something that we created. Adoption- Good idea? Some people think so..we didnt, because i would carry the child for 9 months, then have to give it up. Sure the child could always come back and look for us, but then how would we explain everything? We just decided that it would be best for us to keep our child, because it is something that we both created, and he/she will be loved so much and be happy. We are currently looking for places to move out. There are places(well where i live in ohio) that you can pay your rent by your income! : ). Just some words from another happly pregnant 1st time, 18 year old mommy!

Answer 3

First off, having a baby won't get you out the situation you are in.. it will still be there!! In fact, it will add more stress for you. Taking care of a baby is not easy at all. The baby will demand more from you then you will ever know. Trust me on this, having a baby will only add to your problems.

I would suggest adoption for you. I don't want to be paying taxes to help raise a baby that was only conceived to take care of a problem. What kind of mom would you be when you find out what raising a baby really takes?

Get your GED and get a job!! This would be the best thing that could happen to you. It sounds like you need to get a job and move out of the situation anyway.

If you do decide to keep the baby, talk to your doctor to find out what programs are available, or go online and look up your state government page. They should have a link to different programs.

If you aren't pregnant, PLEASE STOP HAVING SEX!!! We don't need more babies born in this world without a stable home life.

Answer 4

If you think that having a baby is going to help you "get away from all the stuff" let me tell you how wrong you are. I am a 20 year old with two kids a 22 month old daughter and a 11 month old son. I wanted my kids so bad. But now that I am going back to school so I can become something of myself for me and my kids it seems nearly impossible. Plus don't think that your mom is going to want to take care of the baby when you want to go out and party. At first they say they will and they might but after a while they're like just stay home and watch your own kids. Trust me it sucks.

Answer 5

See the websites below for financial assistance.

Also, talk to your ob/gyn doctor. Your health insurance may have support groups for young, unmarried mothers.

If your mother got you kicked out of school, you may want to see if you can stay with your father.

Also, what is your baby's father doing in all this? He has a financial responsibility to both you and the baby.

A baby will not make your life easier, nor will it necessarily make you happy. Babies are hard work, and I had mine in my 30's with a husband and a full time job. Babies are wonderful, but a lot of work.

For you to have one so young will take a lot of work, and you will need a support system in place to help you (people to babysit and help you take care of the baby - it is a 24 hour a day job), as well as financial help/

I wish you the best of luck, and hope that you talk to your doctor and check out the websites for some help...

Answer 6

LET ME TELL YOU THE TRUTH BY HAVING THAT BABY IS NOT GOING TO MAKE YOU HAPPY AND TAKE YOU AWAY FROM ALL OF YOUR PROBLEMS. YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE MORE PROBLEMS THAN EVER. I WAS PREGNANT LAST YEAR AND I HAD AN ABORTION NO I DON'T RECOMMEND IT BECAUSE IT HURT ME AND MY HEART ALL AT THE SAME TIME. I WOULD'VE HAD A LOT OF PROBLEMS ALSO. YOU WILL NEED YOUR PARENTS MOST OF ALL ESPECIALLY IF THE FATHER DECIDES TO CHANGE ALL OF A SUDDEN YOU NEED TO SIT DOWN AND THINK ABOUT IT, YOU DON'T WANT TO BE ALONE OR STRUGGLING AND FROM THE SOUNDOF IT YOU'RE ALREADY HAVING PROBLEMS BECAUSE YOU HAVEN'T EVEN FINISHED SCHOOL AND YOU REALLY NEED MORE THAN A DIPLOMA NOW THESE DAYS PLEASE TRUST AND BELIEVE ME I AM 20 AND I'VE BEEN THROUGH ALOT. I DID FINISH SCHOOL AND GET MY DIPLOMA BUT I WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO E-MAIL ME ANYTIME YOU GET A CHANCE OR WANT MORE ADVISE DON'T FOOL YOURSELF BE SMART. I REALLY UNDERSTAND THE FACT THAT YOU'RE SCARED BECAUSE I'VE BEEN IN THAT SITUATION LAST YEAR AROUND THIS TIME ON AUG. 20 IT WILL BE A YR SINCE MY AB. IT'S NOT A GOOD THING BUT THINK ABOUT YOURSELF THEN A BABY LATER

Answer 7

You need to apply for medicaid since you are 18, pregnant and dont have a job. Once you are eligible for Medicaid, you will get lots of help. But having this baby is not the way to go. You have to look at the baby's future and its no longer all about you. It's all about the baby, time for you is put aside. You have to think about how your gonna feed your baby, make sure he has a roof over his head, clothes on his back. It's alot and you'll become overwhelmed and start to think that you cant do it and that its hard. Been there, done that.

Answer 8

first of all, whatever you do-have the baby! If you decide you can not support it there are many couples out there who would love one. Adoption is a wonderful thing and you can be a part of your childs life while still knowing that he or she are being fully taken care of.
Continue to get your GED and find help. If you need help with food try WIC. It is a government program that gives money for food. For insurance to be sure your hospital bills and such are being paid apply for medicaid for the baby. Even if you have insurance under your parents the child will not be covered.
And very importantly-give yourself a pedicure. It will help you relax. Pregnancy and motherhood is hard, if you are pregnant remember to take time for yourself. You are worth it.

Answer 9

well i know how your feeling lost alone scared and you do know that the government can help you with the baby, and even give you a place to live for a small cost. but that's the last thing that you will want to do, you dont want to be on welfare for the rest of your life do you?

having a baby is not a way of fixing yourself , a baby isn't going to make you feel loved

you need to get your GED get a steady place to live then a job

Answer 10

Having babies does not (and should not) fill a void in someone's life. Is the baby's father around? Did he graduate? Is he going to help at all? There are services for single mothers to share apartments with other single mothers. Hopefully, you can finish your GED and get settled before the baby comes because it will be that much harder later. Good luck.