I have a so called "friend" back home-he's 30 years old and a teacher so he has the summer off. I have a good job, but he makes way more than i do. Well i live in South Carolina, and he lives in VA. If it wasent for me, he wouldnt be living where he does now. Anyway, he keeps saying that he wants to come down to see me, but the only catch is that he doesnt want to come unless i pay for his gas to come down here. I just bought my first house, and i think he wouldnt expect that from a friend, espically if he really wants to come visit me. What do you think?
2006-07-10 06:01:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't see why you should be paying for his gas!
2006-07-10 06:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Norm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just trying to get a free trip. He'd get there, sleep in your house, eat your food, but hardly spend any time visiting you. He'd be out visiting other people he knows.
That's one of the stupidest things I've ever heard - pay for my gas so I can come visit you? If you have a money tree, sure, no big deal. But seriously, he sounds like a mooch. You probably don't really even want him in your house. It's just tacky. If you were willing or able to pay for his visit, you would have offered. He never should have asked, being in the financial situation you both are in.
2006-07-10 06:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made the choice to come see YOU, so therefore it is his responsibility to provide the necessary funds to come see you. You do not need to make excuses (just bought a house) or divulge anything personal relating to your finances as a reason in your mind as to why you cannot pay for his gas. He seems like a user and not a friend, a term which is loosely used to take advantage of others and make them feel guilty for not helping. A true friend would gladly pay their own way and in addition assist you financially during their visit for any inconveniences they may have caused...even if it is simply taking you out to dinner to show their thanks for your hospitality.
2006-07-10 06:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think this was a very good friend. If the trip were your idea, I could see him asking for some help with transportation costs. But if it was his idea, then he should foot all the bills, especially considering your current financial situation. I'd just tell him, "I'm not in the position right now to help you with that. I'm sorry if this means you won't be able to come visit." If he can't accept the truth, then he's not a good friend at all. Good luck.
2006-07-10 06:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Virginia to South Carolina? And he wants gas money? Shoot...if he's that broke-then he needs to stay put and get a second job.
I drove from Kansas to West Virginia alone...a 19 hour trip that cost me around $400 in gas just to see my friend. I didn't ask for money-although she offered...I didn't accept...but she gave me a free place to stay for the week...and just seeing her and her daughter was worth it (not to mention W. VA is beautiful).
2006-07-10 06:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by redfernkitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wanted to come visit you he would and you paying for his gas wouldn't be an issue. The most he should ask is can he come stay with you and if anything, he should give you something nice for you letting him stay there!!!
2006-07-10 06:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gas prices are way to high! If he wants to come down so much than he should pay for himself. witch means he's not a very good friend to me.
2006-07-10 06:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by curiouss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like someone who doesnt really seem to be a true friend. seeings how he makes more money than you if you want to test the relationship to find out what he really is offer to pay half and if he is true and you are true friends you both will get what you want
2006-07-10 06:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend would just get in their car and come see you. No money attached. Someone is greedy and needs it brought to his attention!! I hate people like that. Milking off the less fortunate is what he is doing and that sucks!
Good luck
2006-07-10 06:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test him, you tell him that you just bought a house and that you want to pay for his gas but you can't... then see his reaction.
2006-07-10 06:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by â?¥á?¦à®?á?¬ DAX á?¦à®?á?¬â?¥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay for his gas but put a lock on the fridge...and make him sleep in a tent in the backyard.
2006-07-10 11:07:05 · answer #11 · answered by itty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋