Please before I get judged by anyone in here let me explain. I've been living in hell for 3 years. In january 2003 the love of my life became very illed and although we've been to many doctors his case has never been diagnosed. He became hostile and uncaring. He forgets about my birthday or our wedding anniversary. I do everything around the house, I view myself as a maid, somebody who's there to take care of his needs and his daughter. I need attention and love. He no longer says "I love you" to me. The only thing that we have still intact is our sex life but I feel bad when ever I have sex with him because he doesn't say I love you to me. I want a man to love me and care for me just like I do for him. I don't want to cheat for sex I want to cheat for love. I want to feel like I am 16 again even though I am 28 now. I am fed up of caring for a depressed sick man who is just boring. I am alive and well for now so I want to be able to live life to the fullest before I go underground.
2006-07-10 05:54:30 · 16 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hon, cheating is cheating, and if you are a good woman, it will only make you hurt. Why don't you try with a psychiatrist instead of a physician? Maybe that's what he needs. I would tell you to leave him, but in his state, he might not acknowledge the situation that caused the separation. If he is thinking normally, talk to him before doing something radical, but don't cheat, please.
2006-07-10 06:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by ashley j 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
If he is really sick, or suffering from a mental illness, and you do love him still, then it's worth sticking by him,and getting him the help he needs, but if he absolutely refuses to get help, then you need to sit him down and have a long talk and just tell him if he doesn't snap out of this, or get help, your leaving. But I believe that you should really be the hero here, step in, take charge, and help him get the help he needs, you married him for better or worse, sickness and in health, but if he won't budge, then I wouldn';t blame you for leaving, but Cheating is only going to make things worse, it Never solves anything, and someone Always gets hurt.
2006-07-10 06:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by shelly65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need a divorce. He doesn't not love you but he defin. is not giving you any reason to stay. He is treating you like a maid and you shouldn't have to deal with that. Come out and tell him that he has a choice...change or sign the papers. Men have an awful time expressing their feelings and unfort. this is the one way that some men can use. Get away before it is too late. Use friends and family for moral support.
Good luck. Chin up!
2006-07-10 06:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's completely stressed due to his illness. You both need to have a no-holds-barred conversation and lay everything out for each other. Marriage counseling would probably be a good idea. If he doesn't want to go, then go without him. You may be able to find new ways to get through to him.
Good luck!
2006-07-10 06:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys need to take some time apart because you are both stress out over your situation and cheating on him is just going to make the situation even worse
2006-07-10 12:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by bakerdeann@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good counselor and go. If he won't go with you, go alone. Talk to his doctor and find out if there is some drug imbalance that he may be having that can be solved with medication. Don't give up too soon.
2006-07-10 06:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating won't solve your real problem, just prolong it. If he is sick and has given up on treatment/diagnose, move on. Life is too short
2006-07-10 06:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by ze_ro_ma_vo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's bi-polar. My wife was like that until she found a doc that diagnosed her condition correctly. Check it out...
Otherwise - either live with it, or get out. If he's violent or abusive you don;t have to put up with it.
2006-07-10 06:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Tim B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel. tell him that you miss the love you once had. and tell him that if he doesnt love you anymore then your going to have to let him go. life is precious so dont waste it on someone who doesnt love you.
2006-07-10 06:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go on a hoilday and i believe it will give you the chance too work out what you really want too do.
2006-07-10 06:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by starrygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋