OK everyone, give me the deepest philisophical answers you can give. I 'm looking for answers in the sense of a lover, not a friend. Do you know immediately if you've found your soul mate? Does it even happen immediately? Does a soul mate develop over time--how does that happen? Give me plenty of details. The more details you can give me the better.
2006-07-10 05:53:05 · 7 answers · asked by gg 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do not know the exact definition of a "soul mate".
I feel like my husband and I have something that most people don't. We saved each other when I was 15 and he was 16 from all that was terrible in our lives. An attraction was mostly right away.
We always could talk easily, even though we were both shy kids. He told me he loved me right away like 3 days after we met. :) I was excited and liked him alot but I didn't really know what love was. And at the time I hadn't ever thought I'd find a boyfriend at all in anyway...I'd only dated maybe 3-4 guys before him and they were idiots. And I'm pretty sure it was the same for him.
We were both virgins and that makes a difference to us.
We definitely both felt deep deep feelings for eachother. We couldn't get enough of each other for the first two or so years...then we had some problems and seperated for about 6 months...during that time we felt it necessary to try out other people. While he dated a girl and had sex with her< I dated and hung out but I only had sex with a guy after I knew he had kinda getting back at him...we never really broke up...we continued a sexual relationship the entire time. AND we never stopped feeling love or complete dedication to eachother...
Eventually we got through our growing stage and got back together. Not an easy thing to do to build trust again.
But I definitely know the exact moment that I fell in love deep true love with him. It was when I thought I'd never have him again...that I wouldn't spend my life with him, it was when I thought I had lost him and all my dreams that I knew right then that I love him and it was real.
So we did alot of changing and growing up and things grow and get better every year. So I would say definitely that it takes time.
Somebody has to be completely worth it to you to put in the hard work. I don't mean anything like abuse...I feel like we have always had respect and honesty and loyalty. Even though it may not be easy all the time. Nothing and I mean nothing is worth losing him and my dreams.
He is my life and he feels the same about me. We are the only people we know that have a good relationship. The small details i don't buy so much...like recipes and having ideas like you have to like the same things and do the same things...
We have lives outside of eachother and we have a wonderful marriage as well. It works so great sometimes it's scary. We talk about it once and awhile and we really feel like this is real and it has been since day one. We just knew it then and kept it going.
Now being togther for 12 years...nothing is more important to me than my husband and daughter.
I think it's something you feel deep deep down. You know yourself you listen to your gut. And if he feels the same, truly honestly...it will fall into place.
just my perception, hope it helps...
2006-07-10 06:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by Apple Blossom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I do. It can happen in an in-stint. Because you feel something deep down. But it can also take time to realize how you feel. I believe that a soul mate is a good friend from the opposite sex. that would be a good start, and don't leave everything to fate. Sometimes you have to help it along.
2006-07-10 12:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kris13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in "Soul Mates", I believe its a spiritual connection...the part of me that has accepted the Lord and his plan for my life...and in so doing I try my best to live life righteously and travel the narrow path that leads to everlasting life...in general I try to be the best person I can be...lets say the Christian life, and a partner who has chosen the same direction, who I should meet on the same path and I have fallen in love with...is considered to me to be my "Soul Mate".
2006-07-10 13:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,i believe it because my boyfriend is my solmate because i think we were destin to be together,When we first met it was a snow storm and we were both at a party that we wasn't suppose to be at because of the snow storm and also everytime we try to break up we can't we end right back up with each other. I believe god puts your soulmate in your life, because he did it with me, because he put us in each others life for whatever reason and we are both happy with each other. And for me and him to have a wholelot in common it's like we're one together as a whole
2006-07-10 13:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the very moment the two sets of eyes meet they know! soul mates!
2006-07-10 13:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't found mine but I hope it is something sort of magical. You know love at first sight, falling over your self trying to get each other to notice you, can't get enough of each other, that butterfly feeling whenever you think of each other stuff that great romances are legendary.
2006-07-10 12:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i definitely believe in it. i have mine right now.we understand each other in deepest ways and no matter what goes wrong, we still stay together and love each other.
2006-07-10 12:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by jedi_kt13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋