To all the lovers out there...?

Question

Me and my bf have been together 3 years, and it just seems like our sex life has gone downhill. Any suggestions on things to spice it up a little?

Thanks in advance for all the answers!

I am 19, he is 22. We just got a place together about a month ago. In the beginning we had sex 3-4 times a week. Now it's 1-2 times...

Answer 1

A nice romantic getaway. Sometimes sex life gets pushed aside because of work, other commitments, family events and more. So if you know neither one of you are busy one weekend, plan a surprise little getaway to a romantic inn (is there an Inn of the Dove near you? They specialize in romantic getaways and honeymoons and stuff). Don't tell him anything about it, just say not to plan anything for the weekend. Go there and set up a little candlelight dinner, get the jacuzzi going if you get a room with one, then go pick him up.

If you don't have $100 or $200 to put away for that, try little surprises. Mysterious, nondescriptive text messages throughout the day, candlelight dinner at home, rose petals on the bed, warm bubblebath, etc. Don't shy away from adult videos and toys either. They can do a lot to "spice things up". Also try different types of condoms/lubricants to make things feel a little "different". You can get warming or tingling sensations KY jelly, ribbed, twisted or studded condoms and more. Don't be shy!

Even just one night where you just focus on yourselves and forget about everyone else can really boost your sexlife AND your emotional/sensual commitments to one another.

Answer 2

haha! i am at that same point, it's not going downhill, it's just with work and sleep there isn't much time for other things. we don't want to "plan" a time so we kinda just do it, before we both get too tired after work. it's more fun when it's not planned but sometimes you gotta think ahead a little bit.
get a movie or a toy. try something different. do it in the morning before you get out of bed. get a little "outfit" let him pick it out, that way you know he'll like it! try it somewhere you've never done before.
there are ways, you just have to get in the mood and do them, a little effort sometimes is the key!

Answer 3

Not knowing a lot of the details, I will hoever say, that you two have to be much more spontaneous and do some outrageous things. Try doing Karicohe if you've never done it with friends. Go sailing for an afternoion. Go on a great dfaytrip somehwere, like to watch a movie being made, or to some great museums. Sounds like he feels depressed. YOu cannot help him. except to work on workbooks togehter with him. Whatever he does, you do, so he won;t think it's all him.

Answer 4

Everyone goes through transitions but don't worry you'll probably get back into the routine again unless yall are fallen out of love with each other but i don't know if you wanted to spice things up a little you can get some toys or some movies they are always great!!!

Answer 5

role playing..

spontaneous sex, like outdoors and stuff. I was with my ex wife for about 4 years, and the sex went downhill, because she became picky when and where... but in the beginning, just like in my new relationship i'm in now, when it's spontaneous, that i gotta have you right here right now sex is freakin great. Like in the back seat of a car, just like the good old days, or in your friend's bathroom. lol.

loosen up and be willing to explore, all over again!

Answer 6

Well, I'd start considering a more serious relationship. Only things that invalidate this answer is if you are young (under 20 at least) or if you just like being a sex toy for a guy.

Answer 7

Spice things up by doing out of the norm stuff. Roleplaying...Meeting up at a bar and trying to hook up...just try to be creative with what you guys do instead of just being in bed, having sex and going to bed.

Answer 8

Tricky you guys have to dig deep and see what gets you guys going. Sometime it will be so wild you can't even look at eachother...but that is good. Start teasing him, don't make it a routine. If he gets a phone call from his mother or something, go down on him while he is talking on the phone. Stuff like that, be spontanious.

Answer 9

try different positions, more foreplay, etc etc..
maybe you guys should lay off the sex for a while (i know that it may be difficult) and focus on the emotional rather than the physical. and then after a while, see if sex gets better.

Answer 10

if you like to drink....Get Drunk or really Tipsy!! everything will be wild and rough and you'll probably do things you haven't done in a while or have never done. and I also suggest some rocking music to get everything in the mood, and possibly some tasty pudding. good luck and have fun!!