He always wants to tell me about what he's doing at this job,but when I start to talk about mine he cuts me off or acts like he's not listening.I'm really tired of it because it's not just the job it's about everything.He seems kind of jealous,but that's not my fault.I didn't make him have those kids,so when he sees me with not as much responsbility he gets mad.What do I do about his attitude or should I do anything?I don't have many friends,so this is kind of hard.Being around someone who only cares about himself is kind of getting old though.
2006-07-10 05:34:19 · 6 answers · asked by albeez650 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would seriously limit my time with him....he does sound like he has issues...maybe next time you start talking about something and he tunes you out....Just say something like..*Oh why do I bother telling you..I know you don't want to hear about it.* If you say that enough he will get the hint that he is a crappy listener...sometimes with guys you have to get to them in their own way..and if he doesn't listen to you when you tell him a story, then he probably won't listen when you try to point out his rudeness....
maybe just not hang with him anymore?
2006-07-10 05:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try telling him nicely that every time you try to talk to him about what's going on, he cuts you off and that you feel like you dont get an equal chance to talk, and see what happens with that. You're right, he's probably jealous, but friends who use you as a dumping ground without returning the favor arent really friends. You might want to look into hanging out with some new people who will at least give you the courtesy of listening to you. But your friend might not even realize how rude he is and might need you to point it out for him.
2006-07-10 12:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was a true friend he would be interested in listening to you just as much as you listen to him. Just because he has kids and you don't doesn't mean that he's more important than you are. Tell him how you feel about it....and be brutally honest, sometimes that's the only way to get through to people. It may take time, but he should change in time. If he doesn't he's not a true friend so then you have all right to give him the boot.
Good luck.
2006-07-10 12:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy doesn't sound like he's got any social graces at all. In fact he sounds pretty selfish. If I were you I'd tell him that his refusal to listen to what other people have to say is rude and that you no longer will be making time to be his shoulder to cry upon.
Friendship, much like marriage is a give and take. If all he can do is take than he'll end up without both.
You, on the other hand, need to figure out who is worthy of your friendship. You can't save people from themselves and it sounds like you have a lot to offer. Be selective, choose your friends carefully. You sound like you want to be a good friend, make sure the people you choose to be your friends also want to be good friends to you.
It's not how many friends you have, but how good of friends they are that you will find satisfying.
2006-07-10 12:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try letting him know how you feel. You have nothing to lose. He may try to be more considerate......and listen to your side of the conversation. Otherwise, he'll begin to irritate you in due time. And you'll be writing him off your friend list at some point. But who knows what tomorrow holds. :)
2006-07-10 12:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend just like him and all she wanted to do was talk about herself and whenever i tried to talk about my life she didn't want to hear it! After being friends with her since high school i finally had to cut her off
2006-07-10 12:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋