I dont want to be !!!!!!?

Question

i feel so sad and upset i dont want to be pregnant anymore is this normal i am 4 months almost 5 with twins. i found to late for options and am misrable. i am only 18 and feel like my life has ended i have a placement test for college tommorow and cant stop thinking about my ex.bf who i still love and cant seem to get over.is this just hormones and stress?how can i control my emotions?cause there effecting my studying for school placement.

i have always been well behaved only had sex with one person and got good grades this should have never happened!!feels like this should not be happening to me.

my parents will disown me and i have only 4 friends and all are going off to different colleges.

gradparents offered to care for them till i finish college

Answer 1

Can my husband and I adopt your children? I can't get prego and we would love to have children. We could even pay for your college??? Interested....e-mail me! Good luck and god bless!

Answer 2

First of all hormones make you crazy, plus you've got double the hormones, just look at it that way. Abortion is not an option, don't even consider it, because you'll feel just like this after you do anything stupid. I got pregnant when I was 18 and didn't want the baby either... but I stuck it out, and when I was 6 months pregnant I found out that she was sick and was probably going to die... and she did when she was born :( and you have no idea how for years I regretted not wanting her since the first day. Things happen not because we are bad, they just happen. God doesn't send us more than we can't handle. Whatever you decide to do, keep them or give them up for adoption... remember these are special babies, nobody can conceive that easily you know, when I finally decided to have a baby, it took me like 3 years to conceive again.. so God has given you the greatest treasure "motherhood", although you don't see it like this now, the moment you hear your babies cry and they look into your eyes, you'll fall in love with them. That's by far the BEST GIFT in the whole world... Look for support and counseling from experienced devoted mothers, not single teenage friends, cause they still don't understand this. I'm available you know so don't hesitate to contact me seriously. So God bless you and your babies! College is a must I agree, so just relax and think happy thoughts and go study.. You have no idea how a child is such a motivation to do anything in this world.

Answer 3

It's very unfortunate for you that you ended up pregnangt, but that is one of the consequences of having sex...even with only one partner.

You are young and it's going to be a hard road for you. Trying to tell you to forget the b/f is useless, but you should try. Right now focus on taking your exams and taking care of yourself so the babies will be ok.

When you are pregnant, you have some crazy hormones going through you and when you are pregnant with twins it's twice as much so you will be having huge highs and lows.

I'm sure it's harder for you right now because you have so much going on in your life besides just trying to deal with your pregnancy. You are at a big point in your life..entering college.

I give you lots of credit for continuing with it. Good for you! Don't give up on it. You have many decisions to make about the babies too. You made the first right one by not doing an abortion.

There are many familes that would love to have a baby and would love to adopt. That is something you will need to think about after your placement tests are done.

You need to talk with your doctor and you also need some guidence. Can you talk to someone at church? Maybe one of your girlfriends parents that you trust? It's very kind of your grandparents to offer to raise the babies for you while you are in school. If you decide you want to keep the babies, that is an option for you (are they well enough and young enough that they can handle twins?). If you kept the babies, you would definately need to have the ex b/f help to support them. There are agencies that will help you with that matter. You are not totally responsible for what happened. He has a part in this too and is responsible for them.

If not then your option is the adoption and there are places where you can even pick the parents and might even be able to see them or get pictures and all from them, if you would want.

Try not to make any drastic decisons right now. Take time and talk it out with someone you trust. Unfortunately, no one can make the final decison for you.

I wish you luck, study well for your placements, and make sure to take care of yourself.

Blessings!

Answer 4

It is very normal to feel this way, especially if you have an ex not helping out. Please, please look in your phone book under pregnancy counseling or abortion alternatives. There are plenty of people who care and organizations that can help you with keeping the kids, getting formula, clothes, cribs, etc. Or, there is always placing your children for adoption. It can be open - where you pick the parents and give them this beautiful gift, or closed if you'd prefer. You definitely should talk to a doctor about the mood swings. Of course the hormones are affecting your studying, plus all the things running through your mind. It's like everything has piled on you at once - lots of stressful things. Everyone needs a safe place to blow off steam. There are even still places that a pregnant woman can live until giving birth. Please think about all of this. You don't want to make decisions when you are stressed out. Get info, get help!!

Answer 5

Although this is normal, it's time to ask some really difficult questions for your sake and the sake of the twins. The fact is, you will have to give birth. I happen to think that it would be wise to have the twins adopted. It sounds like you are unable to care for babies emotionally or financially and they deserve to have two parents who can satisfy all their needs...and you deserve the chance to go to school and get a degree so that in the more distant future you can choose to have children you can provide for. Right now you need to talk to your doctor and let him/her know about what you are going through. There may be medications that can help you. Counseling would also help you deal with all these very difficult decisions. If you decide you're going to keep the children, make sure that bf pays child support, even if he doesn't want to see the children. You need to have a strong support system if you are going to keep these kids because it's going to be a very long, hard road for all of you. Please stay in school, get some counseling and talk to close friends and your parents and come up with a plan IMMEDIATELY.
As for the test, take lots of deep, slow breaths and give yourself a break. Take care of yourself and make sure you are getting enough rest.
After the babies are born, please, please get on birth control. The pill is a wonderful invention that can reduce cramps, even out mood swings, and work wonders in other ways than just preventing pregnancy.
Good luck.

Answer 6

My neice was born while my sister was still in high school. She went on to graduate, began and finish college, has been married for almost 20 years now!! It can work out ok. It isn't easy, but it can be done. I've seen college's with a child care program as well, instead of paying for the care, you volunteer to help with the child care responsibilities. You might be able to find a program like this in your area.

Adoption is also an option. There are many couples out there looking for children!!

As far as the emotional rollar coaster, it's perfectly normal, sorry to say. And being as young as you are, it's even harder. You should find someone to talk to, maybe a support group for young mothers?? I'm sure there is something at your local "Y"....

Good luck with what ever you decide!!!

Answer 7

I'm so sorry you're going through this difficult time. I give you a lot of credit for moving forward, however, with your goal of getting a college degree, as many women in your situation give up that goal. At this point, it is your hormones causing your depression and feelings of helplessness. You are under a LOT of stress right now. I am not sure where you stand as far as putting the babies up for adoption or not? You can be matched with potential parents that can help subsidize expenses tied to the pregnancy. I would contact your local family planning organization to see if they can help you with some counseling, support (you don't need that ex-BF!!) and an action plan on how you want to handle the babies when they're born. Hang in there! I can tell you have it in you to get through this. I will be praying for you!

Answer 8

Ignore those idiots with their nasty abortion talk. Listen girl, **** happens. Assuming the ex boyfriend is the baby daddy, don't worry about him right now, I know that sounds awful. HOWEVER, he's an EX, and that's in the past, and you need to worry about a future for yourself and your babies.

You need to do the college placement test because it's going to enable you in the future to care for these children!!! Right now is the time to do it, because once those babies are born and you're changing diapers and feeding all night, you won't have the time, the energy or the inclination to take any test. I know being pregnant isn't a picnic, but you need to enjoy it. It's one of the best experiences of being a woman! You know you love those babies! :) You need to stop stressing, because they feel your stress. Studies show that the hormones released by stress can negatively effect a fetus. You have two to worry about, so stop your worrying. Some stressing is normal, like all the questions, being a first time mom, but this worrying over the baby daddy is over and done with. Use your energy to focus on two things: your placement exam, and those two babies who need you to be strong for them! The most important thing: YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR DOCTOR HOW YOU FEEL! They can refer you to a counselor, or a group. Maybe being with other moms, in similar situations, will help you to talk about your feelings. Sounds like you have no outlet for how frustrated you are. You can't keep it all inside. Listen to yourself. Also, keep a journal. A hand-written one, so you can look back and see how you've grown. Focus on the joys of having babies... being a mom. You have a lovely gift, enjoy every second, because they won't be little long. Good luck to you!

Answer 9

Hey sorry for your condition and everything... but once you have sex you know what you get yourself into ya know? Your very young, and smart, and you def. want to go to college! Feeling emotional like that is always normal though.... you wouldn't want to give up your kids though, believe me! You would really regret it. Again, if you think it's the best thing you can give them up for adoption right when they are born. I mean, it's a serious matter to think about. But you said your grandmother will take care of them for you until you finish school... that's a good thing right there! It will still be hard for you, ya know? But def. think about it, and I hope you make the right decision!!!!!! Oh and Congrats on twins, that's big!

Answer 10

Let your parents help you out, keep going to school to give these kids the world. You might not want to be pregnant anymore, but it will be over soon and you will look in your babies eyes and know everything will be okay. If your x bf is not beside you on this then chances are he won't be. Its not good to hear I know but it is the truth. Don't let your worries effect school, do some relaxatioon techniques. it will help with your stress.

Answer 11

I am sorry to hear that you are unhappy
Having twins is an enormous responsibility
and if you are not wanting to be a mom it must be even worse
Please do talk to your doctor
They can help you with placement of your babies and then you can make plans to go forward with your life or they can get you help to decide what to do and how to do it if you decide you want to keep the babies.
I hope everything works out for you
Good luck