If you meet a guy whom you might marry and he has a nice home and everything but his furniture is a little too mannish for you and he has something offensive hanging up (a deer head) how do you go about asking him to take it down or can you? I am very against hunting and a dead animal on the wll makes my blood boil and would upset my daughter greatly if we were to live in the house. It is a nice house and all but how do you go about making it a little more woman friendly and all? My furniture is more contempory and light colored where as the house seems to have a fish and boat theme which isn't to my like. If I was to get together with this guy how could I handle this situation? Having an attractive home is very important to me but I do want to be fair to the other person. It's just an early what if quesion.
2006-07-10 05:17:35 · 4 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him straight how you feel about animal hunting,that it would be upsetting for both you and your daughter looking at the dead animal on the wall.Communication is the key.Men expect anyway women to make changes.
2006-07-10 06:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, right now, you cannot ask him to change anything, because he's still a bachelor, and that's his decorations.
Now, if he proposes to you, and asks you to move in. Then you can suggest that he lets you add a woman's touch to the home, and maybe put the deer head in the garage (if he's not willing to part with it fully. The garage is a man's room, usually).
But don't add too much of a woman's touch. If you decide on new furniture, you can both sell yours and use the money to go shopping TOGETHER and find some that you both agree on.
But for now, you just have to learn to love the ''hunting cabin'' theme he chooses.
2006-07-10 05:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep quiet on the subject for now. Any hint that you're already mentally redecorating may make him run away screaming.
If the time comes, you'll have progressed to the point where you're much more comfortable together, and bringing up the subject won't feel so awkward.
For now, just grin and bear it!
2006-07-12 02:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One possibility is to let you decorate most of the house, but let him keep one room that's all his to decorate, deer's head and all. And if you don't like the decor, you just don't go in there.
2006-07-10 09:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋