Should how many sexual partners you had before you were married matter to your spouse?

Question

No STD's or anything, just a promiscuous past.

Answer 1

Yes, it should. Your past - even the promiscuos part - is part of who you are. Multiple partners car be representative of an inability to commit to a monogamous relationship, or a general lack of respect of women. How many men make a habit of boasting to their buds how many women they have "had."
And, as for "no STD's" - you could be a herpes carrier for years before you become aware of it - and AIDS doesn't show its' horrifiying self for quite a long time in a person who has a healthy immune system. So, don't be SO sure of that part.
Tell her of your past - no names should be necesary (unless she asks. Does she know any of these "other conquests?) - BEFORE you marry her. She deserves to know the truth.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You should get an up to date STD test. But otherwise, if she loves you, and you are not still promiscuous, what happened in your past shouldn't really matter.

Answer 4

well, I alwasy want to know about my partners past for my own health sake but listen, its not really important unless you have children from previous sexual partners, or current STD'd or have had a veneral disease in the past. But other than that it should not matter and if it really does than it only measn that that person cannot accept you as a human being with errors like all others!

Answer 5

It could matter if you are still craving sex with other women. The problem I see is that you will still have desires and wonder how a woman you see some place is in bed. You'll get bored with your wife at some point.
While nearly impossible, it would be better to only sleep with the person you marry that way you are not craving that difference that you are missing.

Answer 6

she had a million before me. i'm happy she were given it out of her equipment because she stated it became no longer good. i doesn't pick to be dissapointed by technique of the female that i'd spend some thing of my existence with. Hummm. have undesirable sex with my spouse and only her for the nest 50 years, no thanks. I actual have a chum it is married and his spouse does no longer pick to have sex. he's fortunate if he receives it once each and each month or to. If he knew it is the way it may well be, he doesn't be married to her. therefore, waiting to have sex till you're married is moronic and a poor determination. have interesting masturbating for the subsequent 50 years.

Answer 7

Well.. yes and no.
In principle, history is history... BUT, I wouldn't go out with a person who's been married twice or three times because that indicates to me a serious lack of judgement. I also wouldn't date a guy who cheated on his ex or one of whom I knew left his wife while she was ill. Those things tell me a lot about the guys character... and history is the best indicator of future performance.

Answer 8

If it doesn't matter to you it shouldn't matter to them. But since life doesn't work that way it doesn't matter what we think it what the spouse believes and if it matters to them then it matters to them and the promiscuius spouse needs to find a way to make it right with them.

Like: It doesn't matter who I was with before. I'm with you now and don't want to be with anyone else ever again..

Answer 9

it really shouldn't matter unless u r still active with them

if ur spouse asks about it don't lie or try to cover up ur past though, tell the truth and make it clear that it was ur past, and that ur future will be with her and (hopefully) no body else

Answer 10

it does matter --- I have heard too many guys and gals talking about their spouses promiscuous past ---- they admitted to each other it bothered them later on - but not at first....