Men with vasectomies... need your answers.?

Question

Are you glad you did it?
Have you thought about a reversal?
What was the approximate cost?
Is your spouse happy you did it?
Do you have any children and if so, how many?
What are the pros and cons in your view?

Answer 1

10 years ago, had a vasectomy after the birth of my daughter. I only even wanted one child. Most of that period of time, I've found it a huge boon. No stress about "accidents" or failures. It's been really nice.

Cost for me was zero. It was covered by my insurance. I was laid up (pun unintended) for about 3 days. Pain was minimal, although the procedure itself, done under a local anesthetic, was moderately uncomfortable. I sat around a few days and played video games, then was up and running again in short order.

I noticed no differences pre to post op. Drive didn't change nor the appearance of the ejaculate.

Pros are as above. Absolutely no worries about pregnancy. Once tested at zero sperm count, you're pretty well set. This can also be a con in some situations, more on that in a bit.

Cons are mainly the permanance of the decision. Once you make that call, you're not likely to be able to undo it. About a year after my vasectomy, my wife left me for another man. Being sterile does have an effect on your relationships.

Now to the overconfidence issue. Seeing as there is no risk of pregnancy, the temptation to allow yourself to be "carried away" on a wave of passion is all the greater. Stopping for (or for lack of) a condom can be brushed aside a little more easily putting you at greater risk for STDs. I actually found being safe to be harder post-sterilization.

Reversals run from 4 to 10 thousand dollars and are a much more involved surgery. They will generally leave you incapacitated much longer and take hours to complete rather than minutes.

Answer 2

Extremely so.

Non whatsoever.

NIL. It was occasioned via my health plan.

I didn't tell here initially / only later. She was initially surprised and relieved. We'd spoken of it many times. I deemed it more appropriate that I should have it done. The operation much more simpler for a man.

2 children. 1 by 1 Gal.

Total uninhibited togetherness thereafter. Never had to worry again. Our love life grew immensely. Made a tremendous impact altogether. Unfortunately, she died just a few short years afterwards due to illness. I've never remarried and quit honestly had I have done, in no way would I have wanted to have had another family well into middle age. I also made a point of telling that to other women. Non were offended in any way. Yes there were occassional relaxed relationships and equally rewarding to both.

Without doubt I'd recommend it to any young man as I understand the operation today can be easily reversed at any time. Not only that its a positive guard to avoid unwanted pregnancies when not married and/or when you've decided the family is enough!

Answer 3

My wife and I gave this a lot of thought before we decided I should have the surgery. Most of the time, we believe it was a good choice.

I don't remember the cost (it happened many years ago) but I do remember that my insurance covered part of it, and that I considered it a very reasonable price at the time.

We have never considered reversal.

We had five children at the time of the surgery (and, naturally, we still do).

I think the pros and cons are obvious.

Pros
It is the most convenient birth control possible. It does not affect libido or performance.

Con
It is pretty much permanent. Reversal is sometimes no possible and is always problematic.

Answer 4

At the time we had two children. It took about 20 minutes with three visits. The first to discuss it, the second to do it and the third to make sure it was working - no sperm present. The cost would too many years ago to be valid or even ballpark today. Happy - YES. Practice lots trying to be perfect - so far, it's been 22 years and still trying. Pro's: worth it for me, painless, quick and no more worries. Cons: No reversible - and that's ok by me. Only you and your partner can decide if it's right for you, also consider your future with and without your partner. No problem for me - married 35 years and counting.

Answer 5

i had mine about 14 years ago ,at the time we discussed it with a doctor found out it is much better for a vasectomy than having the tubes tied. we are glad we had this done.

we did want to get a reversal. but when we went to a doctor and found they wanted $10,000 before the surgery and the rest after, we decided not to do it , which in turn was the best for our future.

we have two beautiful daughters.

my opinion this is the best form of birth control

good luck

Answer 6

Yup, glad i did it.
Never thought about a reversal...for years I DID think about adopting though.
Was around $600. Totally painless (I hear amazing horror stories though of things 'ballooning' up post surgery)
Spouse was very happy. Neither of us were fans of meds including birth control pills. She got migraines, couldn't go on pill anyway. I was not a fan of her doing tubal since it involves abdominal incisions which to me sounds quite a bit more serious.
Yes, 3 kids
Pros- cheap, easy, fast recovery, painless, low risk compared to tubal. Healthier than pill. Easier than diaphrams, condoms, sponge, IUD, etc.
Cons- its surgery...albeit just an easy 20minute procedure AT MOST...it is still surgery. I am not a fan of someone cutting into my body...

Answer 7

i don't really think about it. I have never thought about a reversal, I have a 4yr old daughter to help me w/ that. My insurance covered it all except $10 copay. My wife had problems during pregnancy and my family has problems w/ congenital heart defects. This way took the worries away. My daughter was born perfect, we didn't really want to tempt fate to try for another.
Pro's:you don't have to worry about it anymore.
Con's:have to do a reversal if you want kids after it's done.

Answer 8

Don't do it. Cons out weigh the pros's and it is believed that men who have it done are more prone to prostate cancer. Too many other birth protection choices as an option

Answer 9

Happy at the time but after the break up wished i didnt. I have two kids but wish i had more now. Did it to young. Without fear of getting a girl pregnant makes you less likely to protect youreself from stds.

Answer 10

Yes, No, $200 in 1974, Yes, 3, Best form of BC