My mom sleeps until 12-1 everyday and leaves me babysit?

Question

then leaves and hour after she wakes to go to the wellness center then comes home showers and returns to bed. Later at night she leaves me home and I have to put my baby brother to bed and care for him when we has night terrors or just refuses to go to bed. I've done this everyday with and eception of maybe 3 weeks for two years. Do you think this is a good amount of baby sitting to go along with regular chores? Or do you think my mom is insane and needs to get her lazy butt moving because during the day I keep track of 4 children all under the age of 13. And Im only 14. And should I get paid even a little bit instead of none?

Answer 1

I feel for you. It sounds to me like you are the elected mother of your siblings which is not good. I think your mother needs to look at why she sleeps so much... is it depression? This can be a touchy subject. My mother was bipolar I think. She'd go weeks at a time just sleeping all day and night basically, with the exception of when she went in to school to make excuses about why she can't go in to do her graduate research.

Answer 2

I think your mom is seriously depressed. You should not be taking care of your younger siblings all day like this. If you don't think your mother will listen to you, then find a close adult friend (best friend's mom), your dad (if he's in the picture), an aunt or uncle or grandparent and let them know what's going on. Your mom sounds very unhappy and it has nothing to do with you. In fact, I think it sounds like your mom trusts you a great deal because you've proven you are so responsible. Please tell your mom she needs to get some help because you aren't able to deal with the stress this situation is causing you. I know what you're going through...I watched my younger sister and brother from the time I was 7 during the summer while my parents were at work. I also had to get them ready for school during the school year. As an adult I've learned that no kid should ever feel like they need to be the parent of their little sisters and brothers. If you need extra help, you can IM me and maybe we can figure out another solution (I'm invisible, but usually around). Talk to your mom or other adult today, as soon as possible. You deserve to be enjoying being a kid rather than a parent.

Answer 3

Sorry, but when you ask a question here anyone can go read your profile and your prior questions and answers.

I just did that.

You are obviously totally focused on having unrestricted fun. I'm not sure your Mom is any different. My suggestion is that if you REALLY are interested in what's right, you'll try to put a little more stability into your own life and try setting a better example for the younger kids you're caring for.

Do you think that experimenting with sex and drugs at age 14 sets a good example?

I don't.

I babysat my 10 yr. younger sister nearly every day for years. I hated it, but I also learned to be responsible. I resented my Mom at the time... just like you seem to. But she was not perfect (nor was I). Together we struggled through and things turned out OK.

Answer 4

Listen, one thing is helping out your mom if of course she works but it is not you responsability to watch over your lil brother's or sister's. You are only 14 mamma you should be concentrating on your studying. You should definetly talk to your mom she shouldnt be putting you through so much pressure I bet you bathe them feed them and of course watch after them and you know what thats ok once in a while but it seems like your mom needs somebody to give her a Reality Check. If the problem persists talk to your family members and have them talk to her. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I agree, your mother should not be putting that sort of responsibility on your shoulders. Yes try to talk to some responsible relatives, or if you dont feel you can trust anyone, make a call to child protective services. What she is doing is wrong, and you should not be taking on the role of mom in her absence. Paid or not..

Best of luck darlin

Answer 6

This is abuse and your mother is very irresponsible....wanting to bear a child and yet unwilling to take care of the child...it is not a matter of being paid for what you do, you have did a wonderful job of being a great sibling. You are just GREAT and God Blessing will be upon you always!!!

Answer 7

she sounds like a dead beat mother if you ask me, beside thats illegal in most states. and yes you should be paid. she s hella lazy, and probably a drunk or junkie or both. id turn her *** in to human services if i were you. have a talk with her and tell her she nneds to grow up and be a woman and take care of her kids, but much love and respect to yuo for being a strong, mature young lady and pick up the slack. your bros and sis', will thank you later. keep up the good work good luck and god bless.

Answer 8

Well thts totally not right that your mom is making you do her job.... She is the one thats supposed to be caring for all the kids, not you... and since you are only 14, thats even worse! But yea i think u should get paid more !

Answer 9

You should definately seek help w/ a family member first... If that doesn't work, talk to a guidance councelor at school.. You're only 14, you should be focused on school, not worrying about taking care of your siblings...

Answer 10

no, that is an unreasonable amount of chores. your mom needs to grow up. my sister is in the same boat pretty much. i'm not sure there is much you can do, besides talking to your mom or contacting social services, but they suck. and yes, you should get paid atleast a little bit, but who's gonna pay you? your mom? I doubt it.