2006-07-10 05:01:32 · 11 answers · asked by cam_4276 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because is a deep feeling that causes you endless sensations, like fear, happiness, jealousy, tenderness. But if it only hurts, you have to end it or seek therapy.
2006-07-10 05:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by doña zancuda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BIG misconception. Biggie. Yep, big one, there. Love does not HAVE to hurt. And, in fact, it should not "hurt" - it can be difficult; it can be a lot of work; it can sometimes feel like it's been replaced by other feelings, but it should never "hurt" - as in devastation hurt.
The idea, on the other hand, that we will never be hurt by those who are supposed to love us - or that we will never hurt those we love is really illogical --- it goes hand-in-hand with all those other misconceptions we have like: "If you loved me you would ____"; and "s/he will change once we are married;" and "I shouldn't have to tell you." Just because we love someone, it doesn't mean that, suddenly, we have entered into some mystical connection where it's all automatic understanding and compromise and acceptance. Too many times couples - especially we female parts thereof - mistake the giddiness of the first blush of attraction and courting to be "love" and when the first blush passes (and it will as it MUST), we think love is gone.
Nope. It's just beginning.
Love - real, abiding, lasting love - takes EFFORT!!! It takes giving of yourself without the expectation that you will get the same in return. It takes compromise and caring and understanding, and communication, and ....WORK! Love really isn't easy as in it takes this effort, but it really isn't "hard" as in the effot is SO WORTH IT.
Love doesn't have to hurt. If you are being deeply hurt and wounded each time you think you are in love, then may I suggest you take a look at how you are approaching your relationships, what you are expecting, what you are giving, what is happening and what you can do to make a better relationship over the long-haul.
2006-07-10 12:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was wondering the same thing. I think it's because we care so much about each other, it hurts. Now when Love starts to take affect on your physical health like it is with me, you'll know that your loving too much and when that becomes the situation, then you need to evaluate the love that you think you're feeling because it may hurt you more than you deserve. It's really ironic that you would ask the same question that I'm feeling at the same time. I really was just thinking the same thing. Maybe we can help each other through whatever it is that you are going through and you can help me. If you want, you can email me and we can talk about it because I'm probably going through the same thing or something similar. It is Nicishellabad@yahoo.com.
If not then good luck to you and if you really believe in the love that you're in, keep loving them.
2006-07-10 12:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by Brownie_baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only I knew. It seems to be that love you receive only hurts when it is from someone other than the one you want it from. It has been my experience that if you are the one doing the loving you feel very little pain. It's hard to say why love has to hurt, one can only hope that someday you will find a relationship that doesn't hurt at all. Best wishes
2006-07-10 12:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love hurts because it requires that you become emotionally involved with another person,or in other words you have to open up your heart and when you do this you leave yourself exposed or at risk.
It s kind of similar to playing a sport or being a race car driver. Every time they take to the field or track they might get injured or even killed, and they must accept this before they play the game!
2006-07-10 12:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by the ant ! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
complicated oh? Love has to hurt because it is love, you have to compromise always, give always, say good stuffs always and then face a heart break or loose trust in your lover or catch them cheating. its too much sacrifice to love, but its always worth it. it may hurt for a while but like every hurting it does not last forever. the joy in love is 50%, the hurting is 30%, while the other 20% is what lies in-between.
2006-07-10 12:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Oruma c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortuanely we let love hurt us. i am beginning to think we as humans are taking love to seriously. do you ever see people who are into them selves look hurt or depressed? NO! maybe if we changed and don't care, then love would not hurt. by the way if you can do this let me know how you did. because i would love to be that way too!
2006-07-10 12:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by pat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because anything worth while has some pain involved no matter what it is and we all just have to live with it and try no to hurt others the best we can
2006-07-10 12:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by becky_693 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it hurt when you love someone and they don;t but we learn from our mistake and get strong but when you find your true love it won;t hurt and right now it not true love and it not from both sides
2006-07-10 12:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you arent loving right
2006-07-10 12:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋