black and white?

Question

o.k my mom says it's wrong to date a black guy becaues i will get called a slut and she said if a had a baby other kids would make fun of it but i'm not dating a black guy my mom said if i ever did it would happen to me is it ture

Answer 1

your mother no offence is extreamly racist and you should deffiently not believe a word she says, the colour of a person means nothing. there is nothing wrong with black people, they are people and human beings and being that we're now in year 2006 people need to get their **** out of bloody 1942 and stop treating black people like dirt they have a right for respect and being treated as a normal person because they are normal the colour of skin don't mean crap. many black people have done wonderful things, and continue to do wonderful, like all the black people who are fire fighters and helped in the 9/11 the doctors who a black the lawyers the teachers the judges the singers the actors the actress the black american sporting heros who have won medels for their country, oprah is black she has done amazing things for people.

Answer 2

No, that is a very racist thing to say. My parents pulled that on me (well, sort of) when I started dating my husband. He's Asian and my mother said 'At least he's not black. Your babies will be beautiful'. That just made me so sick because they have raised me to be tolerant of others and that was the first time I heard anything like that from her.
All babies are beautiful whether they are racially mixed or not. If you are surrounded but bigoted people, the children will be picked on. But for the most part, they will do okay.

Answer 3

I'm not sure what she thinks you will get called, but I'm sure some people will say lots of things. The world is full of ignorant people, and often, they talk the loudest. You should respect your mother, but remember your job as a kid is to learn how to become an adult, which includes having your own mind and personal responsibility. If you think a man is attractive and might be a good person to spend your life with, then date him. Can it be more complicated in a bi-racial relationship? Sure. But if he is the love of your life, it will be worth it. Like it or not, you are going to grow up, and hopefully you realize that racism is foolish and to treat each person as an individual and judge them by their actions. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

interracial dating is very hard because of the bigotry of others, but you or no one else can help who they are attracted to and who they fall in love with. In today's society we are all mutts, there is no pure line of heritage and people have successfully dated, married and had children with other races for along time and these families make it as well as any other.

As far as making fun of the kids, It has more to do with the environment the child is raised in. If you raise a black child in a white neighborhood or a white child in a black neighborhood they are bound to be picked on. but not so much when a child is raised in a multi-cultural neighborhood.

Answer 5

I am black (my dad is black) and vietnamese (my mom was vietnamese...she died in 2002) and my husband is black and indian. We have 3 beautiful children. I have German friends married to black men and I have black female friends married to white men. My cousin is vietnamese and white and his wife is black. LOVE HAS NO COLOR. If you want to date a black man, chinese man, or any race that is your choice and your child will be fine. Your mom is just filling your head up with a bunch of racism towards black men. My God son his wife is white and they have a beautiful little boy. There is nothing wrong with inter racial marriages or children. Remember LOVE HAS NO COLOR. If God wanted us all to be the same race, he would have done so. My grandmother (my father's mom) never acknowledged me till I became an adult and had my own children because of the fact my father married a Vietnamese woman. My grandmother was very racist but she knows better now and she is a black woman.

Answer 6

My friend has a bi-racial baby (she's only ever dated black guys) and her mother said the same things, but she's found it to be not so true. Most peple comment on how beautiful her son is (his complection, his eyes, his hair) rather than bash her on dating a black man. Your mother is just one of those closed minded people she talks about, just as hers was. Her mother now loves that baby with all of her heart.

Answer 7

armywifeandmotherof4 is right. LOVE HAS NO COLOR. if you really love someone, it is irrelevant what race they are. The only people that would say something are ignorant and racist. There will always be those people but you just have to ignore their comments and do what is best for you. This is kind of different but my mom was Christian and my dad is Jewish, and my little brother and I are Jewish. My mom recently converted and some of her friends are very rude to her now. She totally ignores them. If you do date an African-American, then tell your mom you know what you are doing is right for you

Answer 8

ok, don't take this as racist because it's not meant to be I'm just stating what I know through my family.

My cousin had a white mother and a black father. He freely admitts that he hates it. He feels that he never fits in anywhere because he's not black but he's not white. He's a year older than me and when we were in school he used to tell his black friends that I was the one who was adopted so they wouldn't know that he was mixed. It seemed like his white friends were more accepting of it but still he went through alot of stuff about it and he always had 2 groups of friends.

So listen to your mother alittle. She just wants you to be aware of the sociatle taboo of it. If you find love with a man that is not your same skin tone then go with it. You will face some bad looks and bad names but that is the decision that you make for love. Your mother will still love you either way.

Answer 9

No your mom is totally rascist! Gosh! Its the year 2006 not 1806! Or even 1906! I haven't ever dated a black guy, but I have plenty of friends who are black. You need to rethink this!

Answer 10

No. I'm pregnant with bi-racial child and friends with many women who have bi-racial children...Of course, there is always that ignorant, closed-minded fool that still believes in slavery and is prejudice...but my friends and I have NEVER had a problem. I think the older generation has more problems accepting this than the younger generation.