I look at those around me, and I honestly don't know of anyone married over ten years to the same person besides myself. This is scarey. So anyone out their that is, please share your secret for happiness.
2006-07-10 04:23:05 · 13 answers · asked by barbaradjt 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't confuse chemistry with love. Put your partners happiness over your own. Remind yourself as well as your partner that you love them every single day. Do not dwell on faults. Love is as much a decision as a feeling.
I've been married 11 years to a man whom is everything I secretly hoped for and never dared to even dream about. I adore him. I remind myself every day that I adore him and when I'm angry with him (which isn't very often) I take a long minute to look at myself and make sure that I'm not angry because I'm trying to pass blame for my own failings to him.
Be honest, not just with your partner but also with yourself. Have the courage to face up to your own faults and failings. Have the compassion and wisdom to speak kindly and honestly about any problems that the two of you may have.
Accept responsibility for your own decisions and life. Encourage your partner in their dreams and goals. Support them, be there for them. Do for them what you can. Always remember the good things. Forget the bad things.
Choose your partner wisely so that your marriage is one of equal partners working together to build a life with one another.
Learn together, laugh together.
I cannot condense what I feel into mere words. The above is the best I can do for you.
2006-07-10 06:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 10 1/2 years and my answer is endurance and patience......my marriage is not perfect but my husband and I really love each other and we decided no matter what happens (besides adultery) we will stay together forever.....till death do us part.....we have been through a lot....we got married when we were teenagers and we were two different people.......he was controlling and hyper active....I was quiet and timid and soft hearted......from his personality I am learning not to be so timid.....I'm more aggressive now.....and he learned from me that he doesn't have to be so rowdy and controlling ......the longer we stay together and be patient with each other the better it gets........I think if everyone thought like this we would have successful marriages! believe me if I or mt husband wasn't patient we would have been divorced after the second year of marri.age
2006-07-10 04:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Cookie48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been together for 20 years, married for 14, have two kids. The secret is allowing each other space and individual lives. You each need to be trusted to do the things you want to do. Comprimise and a willingness to work things out when they get rough.
Oh and separate bathroom sinks helps a ton.
2006-07-10 04:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sense of humor. If you can't laugh at the differences between men and women, then what's the point?
Golden Rule. Treat them the way you want to be treated.
Make them feel needed and loved.
But more than that, we have our vows. And we have a responsibility to them.
2006-07-10 04:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 years here, my advice? Dont sweat the small stuff...and remember...This too shall pass...time apart is as beneficial as time together...have your own individual interests,be considerate. Trust each other and never give the other reason not to trust..The first few years are easy, the next few you gotta work at, then it gets easier again.
2006-07-10 04:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by uhhuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married 22+ years. We treat each other as equals. We tell each other "I love you" many times throughout the day and are not afraid to show affection wherever we are.
2006-07-10 04:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by gentlemanfarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i honestly think there is nothing scary about it i only have 2 yrs married but i would love to be married with my hubby for ten yrs too and even more
2006-07-10 05:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
secret, it's common sense.
know that you are in this for the long haul
don't bail after the first argument
never go to sleep angry
talk about everything
keep your privates private
put up with your partners pet peives (your partner is putting up with yours too)
2006-07-10 04:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work at it everyday.
Fight-so you can make up.
Put the other person first.
Practice a mutually initiative sexual relationship.
Hold hands.
Kiss.
Talk.
2006-07-10 04:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by HoneyBee24-7-365 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise. COmpromise. CCOMPROMISE
2006-07-10 04:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋