2006-07-10 04:06:18 · 15 answers · asked by trollmannen 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
They only want equality when it's convenient for them.
2006-07-10 04:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
I'm not quite sure that these "days of equality" quite exist yet - women still face a lot of trouble with that equality thing.
But if a woman wants to be treated equally, she should pay equally. It's true that on at least a first date whoever did the asking should do the paying, but beyond that and in a relationship, someone like that should contribute just as much.
In defense of people who ask that the guy should pay, my husband always paid for everything while we were dating but I never intended for it to be equal. We are both very traditional in that way and to this day he takes care of all things relating to money and I cook and clean the house. Either way, both of us put in a lot of effort, so it comes out evenly in our opinions.
I think the key is to find someone who has the same views that you do and work things out that way. There are plenty of women out there who would be willing to split the cost of the relationship with you, you just have to find them. Good luck with it!
2006-07-10 04:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Equality? Try talking to a guy who has gone through a divorce - there is no equality. Men are treated by women, the same way the working-class is treated by welfare collectors - like a cash cow.
Many women (and everyone collecting from welfare-like programs) believe they are entitled to everything. So, to answer your question, men are expected to pay for everything while on a date because many women are spoiled brats who expect everything to be handed to them. She smiles, flirts, shakes her ***…and you are supposed to be her *****. Don’t fall for it. Don’t be played.
Start out being a gentleman, but if she does not reciprocate and she acts like a spoiled brat, kick her to the curb. Catering to a spoiled brat will only reinforce the behavior and make it worse.
As nimbleminx stated – the person who extended the invitation should pay.
Those who comment about chivalry being dead or insist that you are not being a “gentleman” simply are not living in the real word.
2006-07-10 05:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by electronics,weights,firearms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who the woman is. Women are still not socialized to ask men out on a date (although some do and it is considered more "acceptable" now). Also, despite all the equality, most men STILL make more money than most WOMEN. Basically, since it is men who are usually the aggressors, they will usually be expected to pay, although I do think it is proper that whoever initiates a date should be the one who pays. I certainly would never go out on a date with a man who expected me to pay, because I would never ASK a man on a date. If a man asks me out, HE pays. And I've had men sit there hoping I was going to pull out my wallet. NOT ON YOUR LIFE. Most of the time MOST men will be making more than me, so it's a moot point anyhow. I don't ask men out. They ask me. They make more money than me. They pay. I don't.
2006-07-10 04:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who demands that?
I am capable, and I enjoy paying for both of us, but I also expect to have a gentleman beside me... Working very hard and having a very good income, I expect nothing less from my man. When we are on the same level and position, who is paying is not the subject.
2006-07-10 04:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lalasamayi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls don't demand that guys pay. But, 90% of the time the men make more money. If I make more money than the guy, I'll pay for it before he gets a chance, unless its a first date.
2006-07-10 04:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by cutesquaw69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chivalry is dead to a good many, but a lot of people still do it on occassion to be romantic. Girls don't demand that a guy should pay, but it's suggested due to their "provider" role in the relationship.
2006-07-10 04:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women now a days don't realize they do want to go back to being in the household..and not having to worry about getting to work women are soooo messed up they NEED to be told what to do yet they also NEED to be listened to and THINK they are in charge... I say this freely because I am an at Home Mom and PROUD of it...
2006-07-10 04:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't - I pay my share unless the guy insists. When I was dating my now husband, he would pay for the fuel and his car payment, and I would pay for the movie/meal etc, because I knew he wasn't that well off. It's only fair, especially if you're both working. I'm not even a feminist!
2006-07-10 04:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we dont' demand it...it's just the gentlemanly thing to do for a first date. On subsequent dates, girls sometimes offer to pay or the couple can even go Dutch.
2006-07-10 11:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by satiindoll_101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy should pay, it's the right thing to do.
Offer to pay, at least.
Don't be cheap
2006-07-10 04:24:05 · answer #11 · answered by bdbsmom2897 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋