Srry everyone im keeping my BABY...?

Question

yes i talked to my mom and his mom and we all thought it was good to keep the baby since we made the choice to have sex soo now i have to take the pain and weight gain and my boyfriend has to get a job ASAP and be with me always!!! how do you think it turned out?? ( to all the others who answer my other question and said i couldn't spell or talk can i NOW?)

Answer 1

I'm glad to see that you have made the decision not to abort your baby but you seem so resentful. Have you considered adoption at all? It won't stop the pain (physical pain is temporary and will be forgotten) and the weight gain (which can be lost) but it will release you from the responsibility which may be too much for you right now. There are many wonderful potential parents out there who would be willing to allow limited contact so you could watch your child grow.
It is great that you spoke to your mothers about it. Hiding a pregnancy leads to more desperate behavior once the baby is born. It is wonderful you decided to let your baby live but now you need to make sure you let it 'live' by not resenting it.

Answer 2

I am so glad you decided against abortion, and reading through there is nothing in the law book-everyone's right- stay with the father. But if you both decide to keep the baby like you are planning he does have to pay for child support and if you dont end up together a child custody case will need to be established.

But please consider this when you say how did it turn out. Its not over, it just started. It may be a "pain" and right now you only have the weight gain etc... but it is so much less easy when they are toddlers and you are potty training and they learn the word "no" or if the infant develops colic and crys non-stop and their is nothing you can do but love the child.
I wish you the best of luck and you sound like a smart person who is willing to make the best decision. Congrats.

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Answer 3

I was 18 when I conceived my first child. Of course I married the father and had a son. After the baby was born my husband changed into a jerk. I finally got up the nerve to ask him to leave. He didn't leave peacefully either I had to get an order of protection and go to a dozen of court dates. Until I received full custody of my son. I am now happily remarried to a wonderful man. I have two boys and a girl and I'm expecting another boy in Sept. My advise to everyone is just because you get pregnant doesn't mean you have to be with the father. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. There might of been a physical attraction there when you first started out but a baby is a lot of responsibility and can snuff most relationships out. If you are still together and happy good for you for making it work. If not don't worry things happen for a reason and one day someone will come along a appreciate you for you. Good luck!

Answer 4

If pain and weight gain is all your thinking about then you really don't need a baby! I am sorry to sound so harsh but I hope your mommy has told you how hard it is to raise a child. Try todevelop a good support system. You can also get a job, and I suggest some counseling for you and your boyfriend, babies change everything. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Good for you. Hope everything works out with you and your boyfriend :) Ignore those people who are saying you won't be a good mom just because you mentioned weight gain and pain. I don't understand why people have to be so judgmental of your decision and keep telling you to put the baby up for adoption.

Answer 6

Unfortunately you and your b/f will most likely end up splitting up. There is no hardfast rule that says you have to stay together. It also is NOT up to your or his parents whether you keep the baby or not. There are thousands of people that are on waiting lists for years that would LOVE to adopt a baby because they can't have one of their own. People make mistakes, but that doesn't mean that the baby should suffer. Please consider your decision carefully. Think of the life that you will be giving that child. Will you be able to provide a stable, happy life. If the answer is no, then you know what you SHOULD do.

Answer 7

i did not see your other question but i think it is good that you have to take responsibility for your own actions that is the way it should be i was a teen mom and i was also worried about gaining the weight but i just ate healthy and did little exercises and then a lot of sit-ups and exercises after i got back to my shape and size in a month don't worry you will be a good mom

Answer 8

It's not gonna be long, until your bf is gonna break up with you.I'm sorry. Is it a boy or a girl? When your daughter/son is gonna be a preteen, you're still going to be very young.I hope you'll have a good time with your baby. How old is your bf?Next time you have sex with him, make sure you stop from having a baby again, take a pill or somethin'.


Good Luck, hun!

Answer 9

Lala, I wish you much happiness and love to come your way, but the chances of you and your boyfriend "always" being together is very slim. I would love to tell you that a your 16 year old boyfriend will always "do the right thing", but it is possible that he won;t. Be prepared for any, all or none of this.

You both are still kids yourself. But, if you make your child your number one priority (not your boyfriend) you will be successful. I will pray for you!!

Answer 10

ha ha...people were rude on you for spelling? I didn't see your other question, but that doesn't surprise me. How am I supposed to know how it will turn out? I don't know you, or your bf, I don't know your ages our your families. I don't know anybodies level of commitment.

I hope it works out for the babies sake. Kids really need two parents. One is ok, but not nearly as good as two. Good luck! Keep up your good spirits! Later on, it won't be as easy probably, but just keep smiling! And make sure that bf is working his tail off.