How can I? Every time I tell her that she is beautiful gorgeous amazing and so on, all things wonderful and perfect things she won't believe me. She says i'm just sucking up for what i don't know and i'm certainly not sucking up i'm telling her the truth. Her parents are always telling her to stop eating and that is fat and over weight. That is a LIE! Its not true her family maybe bulit somewhat bigger than avgerage and there is Nothing wrong with that. She is NOT fat or overwieght! She is VERY beautiful! I don't know how to show and make her relizes that she IS beautiful! She told me that i'm the only one who tells that she is Beautiful and NOT overwieght. What can I do please to show her and make her see and feel that she is Beautiful? Please Help me! Thank you!
2006-07-10 03:31:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
you stay with her and treat her well, and always be there for her. since her parents put her down, you be the positive influence. take her places, get your pictures done together. do things with her to make her feel beautiful.
2006-07-10 03:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Her parents have robbed her of her self esteem. My husband is the same way. I have been telling him how gorgeous he is for the past 10 years and he still doesn't believe me. Just keep telling her every day. Positive reinforcement is all you can do. Hopefully in time she will "get it". Tell her you wished she could see herself as you see her. If you have other friends that find her cute, have them compliment her as well. It may be a long road to travel, but if you really love her, you will stick by her. My husband at first didn't want to have kids because he felt he was too ugly to! Now he sees our kids and how beautiful they are and I laugh and say yes, they are beautiful and they look just like YOU! (And, they in fact do). Overcoming a parents put downs are really hard for some.
2006-07-10 10:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP TELLING HER AND SHOW HER!!!!
Maybe just look at her and smile more often withot saying a word. She may one time say, "What's the smile for" and you will reply, "Just thinking about how lucky I am that you love me". Or every now and then have her overhear you talking to someone else saying... "I wish the guys at work would stop commenting on how hot my wife is... I am starting to reconsider having her picture on my desk, in my wallet." Or... when she wakes up in the morning be stroking her face and when she ask what you are doing say, "Loving you".
You have to realize this is about her confidence and security in life. If you give her confidence in your relationship and show her how much you care, she will begin to accept she is beautiful to you and you will SEE it but YOU have to SHOW HER, stop telling her, as it is almost a negative!!!
2006-07-10 10:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by dreamsykel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this will sound redundant, but this is all that you can do. just continue telling her she is beautiful, eventually it will start sinking in. and be creative, dont make it seem like you are just saying it to suck up and dont just say it when she says "im not pretty" or "im so fat". e.g- you are having dinner, stare at her for a minute, when she notices and asks-"what???" (in a girly voice), say- "nothing.." (with a smile), if she persists, then say- "you're beautiful". i think you get the point, good luck!
2006-07-10 10:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by kramerari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to make someone see that they're beautiful when they don't feel beautiful! Do something for her that is romantic! -and not just romantic, go for cheesy romantic! It will make her feel special and will show that you really do care for her! And keep doing what you're doing! If you are the only one telling her then DON'T STOP!!! Make it a nickname, so that you tell her everyday! "Hey beautiful!" One day it will sink in! :D
2006-07-10 10:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by Candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by your facial expressions, are you smiling when you said that? Did you look serious?
Second of all, you can do something like a scarp-book with pictures of her. Like her best feature eg, her smile, face...
Third of all, maybe you weren't very specific about how she's beautiful. GO: I think you have beautiful eyes, it's more believable than just Your beautiful
Hope I can help,
Sandy O.
2006-07-10 10:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by whateva_dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to help her deal with all the negative words she has been hearing from the family.
then you can begin SHOWING her how beautiful she is.
take my word for it. I heard these kind of words from my ex husband and from other family members for years, until someone helped me see the truth... but also to take care of myself and to like myself.
2006-07-10 10:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Radio Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need, to nip it on the butt. Talk to her parents, let them know what they are doing to their OWN daughter! They should know what is like to walk around and peolpe to stare at them or make comments. That is very ignorant of them,
2006-07-10 11:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ladyshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what your doing and stick by her eventually she will feel better about her self and her confidence level will rise.
2006-07-10 10:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by alaireis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
express your feelings with red rose in hand and smooth music in background. don't think it can happen only in films.
2006-07-10 10:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋