Husbands, why would you cheat on your wife, even though you calim to love her more than life itself?

Question

i think so many guys find it difficult keeping their marrigae vows. so why get married if you cant be faithful. and why would you cheat on your wife?

Answer 1

In life and in our relationships there must be a balance. Everyday we push and pull to get to that balance, which may include emotional fullfillment and support, intellectual stimulation, a feeling of spirituality and peace, and the basic human needs of physical, sexual desire and excitement. If one or more of these needs are not met it causes us to seek out someone who can fill in the blanks of those missing pieces that don't exist in our relationship. It is very challenging to find someone who can provide all those needs but not impossible. Open and honest communication about what each of you wants and needs from the other and ways that you can make it happen, would be the first step in bringing about happiness and fullfillment for both of you. Both people should be on equal ground. Providing a challenge for men, whether it be intellectually or intimately, keeps life exciting. If a husband (or wife) is cheating, there is probably something missing in the relationship, or he may just feel the need to feed his ego. For every negative comment you say to your spouse you should say five positive ones. Everybody likes to feel special and good about themselves and sometimes they fulfill that need with someone outside the marriage. Find the good qualities in your spouse and let them know about them. Couples counseling may help to get the communication flowing between you.

Answer 2

"why get married if you cant be faithful"- because people never know how things will go within a marriage when they walk down that asile. Most people aren't thinking "I can't wait to f*ck someone else" as they're saying their vows. But within a marriage (as with any relationship) it can change, and over time they might not be happy anymore, the person they fell in love with might not be there anymore, and its hard... I don't agree with cheating... I think there should be communication to solve these issues and problems, whatever they be (whether its the wife is not putting out enough, gained wait and he's no longer attracted to her, arguing or fighting within marriage, children getting in the way, self esteem issues on the husband's part, etc). Statistically more women cheat on men.

Answer 3

Both men and women are tempted to cheat somewhere down the line in their marriage. Will power and the mind to avoid this temptation is the key to keeping marriage vows. People get married for the right and wrong reasons. It is best to have an open and honest communication line between the two. Pray and ask God to show you what is the problem (because their is a problem) and how to solve it. You must have patiences and be willing to seek God for the answers. Oh and if a man or woman claims to love anyone more than life itself, is a lie. They cannot love someone if they first dont love themselves. You must first love yourself before you can love anybody else.

Answer 4

There are many reasons why cheating goes on. Some men can't help but love more than one woman. Some men fall into temptation and know that they shouldn't be cheating but get excited by the fact that they are disregarding this taboo and go ahead and do it anyways causing a world of sorrow to all involved,wife,children,etc. Some just don't consider the marriage vow as all that sacred. Plus a host of other reasons.

Answer 5

Woman cheat, too. Actually. Love is not what keeps a person from cheating, it's unmet needs. IF the relationship does not meet all the guy's needs he may be looking for supplement.
Develop a strong relationship and talk about everything to help prevent this. Love alone will not do it.

people may intend to be faithful when they get married but situations change and people aren't always able to keep their promises. Think of a time when you broke a promise and why you did it...might help u understand them.

Answer 6

I know this is not a good excuse but I really do believe that some people just get really bored with the same person time after time that they really need to have another person doesn't mean that they don't love their spouse it just means they don't know how to be faithful I am not saying it is right but realistically it is true. I also think that things in the home are so stressful sometimes it is just better to find someone outside just to get away from all the stress and problems at home it doesn't mean they don't love you it is just a get away for some people. I hope that helped good luck!

Answer 7

First off...women cheat just as much as men....Secondly people cheat because they want thier cake and they wanna eat it too...I myself am not married but a few of my friends are similar to the people you describe...My friend says that the reason he cheats on his wife is because he says that its cool to know that he still "has" it...like if he can meet hot girls and hook up it makes him feel cool or something..i think that theory is completely stupid...I think people in America especially rush into marrige..I think you should be with someone for more then 4 years before they get married..people get married way too fast and then once they do they realize they don't really like the person.

Answer 8

Many men...and some women too are to weak to keep their marriage vows pure. Unfortunately many of them had no intentions of keeping their vows sacred in the first place. They want their cake...and eat it too. Their selfishness is their reason for getting married. This was their supreme act to prove their love to their spouse to be, but no way did he have any intentions of not having sex with any other women he could get away with. This is unfortunate and totally unfair to their loved ones. It produces many painful moments, unwanted children, and countless divorces.

Answer 9

Actually, there are a variety of reasons. One I would choose (because I'm a practical person) would be lack of sex from my spouse. If my wife didn't give me sex at home, then I am not going to live my life without sex (regardless of how much I love my wife). So personally speaking, I wouldn't even consider it "cheating", because to me it would be a matter of practicality.

Answer 10

People Change! The same person you marry today will not be the same person 20 years from now! Some marriages are a living hell and should be broken up.