im very depressed !!!! please help?

Question

i had my 21 misscarrage this week end and i wanna have a child really bad im only 20 do u think i should keep trrying??

Answer 1

Wow, 21 is a lot. I have to agree, you should ask your doctor for advice. No one on this site can give you good advice, except to tell you to get good advice from someone qualified to give it. Good luck to you, and cheer up.

Answer 2

You are so young right now. If you have had 21 miscarriages, then you may need time to let yourself heal physically. You may have a medical reason for not being able to have a baby. Wait a little while before you try to get pregnant again. I had a bad miscarriage at age 18 and was told I wouldn't be able to have children. When I was 24, I gave birth to a beautiful little girl. I am almost 37 yrs old now and never got pregnant again. God gave me my miracle, when he thought I was ready. I found out I have a tilted uterus and a small pelvic opening, which was a factor in concieving. I think you should give it some time and then see specialist so you can have tests done and find out why this is happening. Remember you are still young and have plenty of time. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

I don't think anyone other than your doctor or spouse can help you make that choice. From the sound of it, if you do keep trying you are going to have to face the fact that you will probably have to continue to struggle w/ the chance of having another miscarriage. But just because you can bare children doesn't mean you cant be a mother. You have other options such as choosing a surrogate mother or adopting a child. Best luck to you. I know this is a very hard thing to go through.

Answer 4

No you should not keep trying. For one, you are too young. Even if you are married or involved with someone, having a child at 20 is way to young; you have soooo much more in life to do before you get tied down with a kid. For instance, when you are 21 and legally able to drink...do you want to be tied down at home taking care of a kid, trying to find a baby sitter, or going out and having fun???? Also, you should go see a docotor about why you keep miscarriaging.

Answer 5

Honey give yourself some time. Relax and enjoy your life right now. You are so young and children really do take up all of your time. Have you been to the doctor? Is there a medical reason that you are having miscarriages? This is so sad. But you have plenty of years ahead of you to try and if nothing comes of it in 10 years or so, there is always adoption. It can wreak havoc on your emotions having miscarriages, so it might do you some good to see a counselor also. I wish you luck when you try again dear.

Answer 6

Sounds like your able to concieve a child, but your pregnancies aren't going to term.. No matter what your age, this isn't normal. You really need to see a doctor about this. Even if you decide to wait (which I suggest you do), you'll need to be able to plan for the children you know you want in your future. And in the meantime, use protection against STD's which can make you infertile. By the way, depression alone can cause hormone fluctuations that can offset pregnancy, and is also a sole reason to consult a doctor. Your doctor needs to know about your feeling, they won't judge you, make an appointment, and good luck.

Answer 7

well if you can answer all the following questions with yes than its maybe a wise decission?

1. Do you have the funds to raise a child
2. Do you have a partner who is commited to you in this process
3. Are you physically healhty enough, and does to doctor say you will be around for another 20 yrs to raise this child.
4 can you deal with getting woke up every night for six months/
5. are you a responsible person, do you have a job? are you addicted to anything that is harming you ?
6 are you emotionally stable?

Answer 8

Oh my god STOP!!!!!! Give it a rest for a bit no wonder why your depressed..you have had 21 and your only 20!!! Let your heart heal! Go out and have some fun and maybe when you are not trying it will happen! Please take my advice..You are so young, I am not much older I am 24 but I am having the time of my life, going out, having parties, going to the beach, out to dinner, You are missing out on so much! Trust me go out there experience life, have fun! Give yourself time and then try again :-)

Answer 9

you can keep on trying but you need to take your ovaries a rest, for at least 3 years. 21 miscarriage is not normal because some woman can be infertile if she had 5 miscarriage. you need to consult your OB-GYNE first before having another baby in your womb to thicken your cervix, coz the risk there, is a 60-40 chances.

Answer 10

Easy lady easy, wha the hell of hurry r u in? u r only 20, u have ur whole life in front of u to be in such desparation.

Just chill for few years and then carry out all the necessary tests to find out if ur body is ready along with all ur hormones for delivery and then have a go.

Answer 11

You are 20 years old and you've had 21 miscarriages??? Sorry....don't believe it. If you are only 20 years old, why are you in such a rush? Why would you ask Yahoo people instead of a licensed doctor? No......don't believe it. IF it is true though, I think you need a counselor right now - BEFORE YOU GET PREGNANT PERIOD.